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Wednesday, June 26, 2013

I think I need some advice here-

Getting Married in 9 days- and everything seems to set me over the top. I feel like I have 100000 things to do- in reality it may only be 15. My fiance' doesnt understand at all, he hasnt made one phone call, etc for the wedding- I have put my heart and soul and time into this and I am about to break. Now its not that Brian hasnt offered- he has, but he would get to it when he decides to- Now if I saw we need to call the caterer today that doesnt mean next week so I just do it myself. His one real job was booking the Hotel room for us- Sunday he asks did you get a room because I forgot- I have had one booked since March!

And honestly its just the way he is- I know that, but its like you need me to tell you in a list that the dishes need to be done- umm hello they are all over the counter (not all dirty, some were our new things) or the Grass is 3 inches long please MOW IT NOW! I don't have time to create a to do list for you everyday while getting all my stuff done. Dont worry I am still taking an hr after work to Walk- it is my only heaven now- I have been praying while I walk and relaxing before I start the night.

Ok so thats #1, next is that HIS FAMILY is staying at my house they are arriving Next Tuesday- Wedding is Friday- Staying thru Sunday! So we have to get the whole house picked up/cleaned. Does anyone else think it is completly wrong to stay with the Bride? Its his parents, brother, sister-in-law and 3 kids. Am I completly over reacting? Brian and I have fought about it for over a year and I have basically given up none of them think its a big deal and frankly its not worth the fight- but now its like umm I have company coming in How many Days? My list is How long? and is it to much for Brian to tell me he appreciates what I am doing for his family? Ohh and he thinks our house isnt going to be the "Hang out" for the rest of his family- all from out of town too.. Hahah Yeah rightt!

and 3rd- His poor poor grandmad was just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer last week. Its a very aggressive cancer- and she is 90 God Bless that woman! She is the sweetest thing ever and I love her. They just got a release from the Doctor yesterday that they can make the drive from Montana to Iowa for the wedding. I am so happy for Brian and that his grandma will be here- but to have my finace' crying is not normal behavior for me. When he got off the phone and told me the news i said so why were you crying- he said Happy Tears.. I have never in 7 years seen him cry happy tears. This will be our last time we see here probably- and I am so happy she is making it, but it adds such a huge new level of emotion to next week (crying just thinking about it)

I need some relaxation techniques!!!
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    This is probably the most stressful time of wedding planning... the week before.... But just like Tara said... take a deep breath and see how much you've already done. This is going to be a magical day for you both so try to not stress to much about the small stuff and go with the flow. Plus, most guys just don't understand all of the time and effort that goes into planning (and for you, also crafting!) the wedding. I bet if you just asked Brian point blank what he needs from you to get stuff done, you might be able to hash out a productive conversation.

    And definitely agree with you and Tara... house guests at the bride's house causes a lot of unneeded stress! You may just need to be open and honest about it with your guests that you just DO NOT have time to devote to being the wonderful hostess that you are. emoticon
    1725 days ago
    Take a deep breath babe, you'll look back and realize it was worth it all. And keep taking those walks!

    And I do think it is wrong for houseguests at the bride's house! It is what it is but make it clear you can't cater to them and they need to fend for themselves, otherwise Brian needs to step up in that regard.
    1725 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/26/2013 9:48:02 AM
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