Monday, June 24, 2013
I had a very interesting discussion tonight with my aunt regarding choices. My cousin, who I have always been very close, has been making some poor ones and its been hurting my aunt a lot. She confided in me that she felt guilty for the problems he's created for himself because even though she gave him the foundation for a solid start to life, he isn't putting the things she's taught him into practice and therefore she didn't do her duty as a parent. I told her she is wrong, and this is why:
He made his own choices.
See, we all get dealt different things in life. We all have different backgrounds, experiences, and personalities that shape who we are, who we want to become, and how we CHOOSE to respond to things. You might plant a seed in my garden, but that doesn't mean I'm going to harvest the fruit that has been so graciously handed to me. I have to make the CHOICE to do it. And guess what? You can't make it for me.
On my way home from my conversation with my aunt, being the psychology major that I am (I never pass up a chance to psychoanalyze!) I thought about how the same concept applies to my healthy living/weight loss journey:
I can read all the articles on sparkpeople that I want. It doesn't mean I'll choose to apply the knowledge I've learned.
You can send me words of wisdom and words of encouragement, that doesn't mean I'll choose to focus on the motivation and support instead of that nagging, negative voice in the back of my mind.
Sparkpeople can -and does- have every tool imaginable to help me on my weight loss journey, but that doesn't mean I will choose to use them to my advantage.
I can choose to allow my past experiences (difficult/abusive childhood, anxiety, depression) to keep me paralyzed in unhealthy habits like emotional eating, or I can choose to put in the effort and break free of the chains it has bound me in the past 23 years and get HEALTHY.
So, really, everything you do in life comes down to choices. You and only you can make decisions for yourself, your life, your health, and your happiness.
I AM MAKING THE CHOICE TO BELIEVE I AM WORTH IT! What will you choose?