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Hubby's surgery is set.

Monday, June 24, 2013

I left work early today. Spend some time with hubby before we went to the surgeon. He showed us the CT scan. The rupture in hubby’s abdominal wall is MUCH larger than either of us thought. You can even see where his slipped through the hole. After today’s exam, the surgeon thinks things have slipped back in but cannot be certain. We just need to get everything done as quickly as possible.

So, because of the diverticulitis he has to be on antibiotics for two weeks. Also his age and blood pressure require some pre-op tests. Those will all be done next week. The surgery itself will be on Friday, July 12th. The surgeon has already warned us, it will be a long one – 2 to 4 hours. And hubby will be hospitalized for at least 2 day and up to 5 depending (many of these surgeries are out patient – tell you how bad this is!).

Needless to say I’m terrified.

Terrified does not lend itself to smart eating. I’ve been binging. Granted, I’m eating cherries or carrots or apples with peanut butter instead of chips or cookies, but a binge is a binge. And my calories count is ridiculous. I’m not doing it on purpose. I just keep grabbing “snack pack” after “snack pack” (I have pre-portioned baggies in the fridge). I don’t even realized what I’m doing. GRRR

It also appears I have fallen back into an old vice. Cherub pointed out to me that I had 5 cups of coffee after our hike Saturday. I know I had 5 or 6 yesterday. I’m looking at cup number 4 right now. I’m a caffeine addict. I know that. I also know it makes me cranky and dehydrated. Problem is I have my “8 glasses” of water done so early I keep “justifying” the coffee. At least I’m not going for the chocolate delivery method.

So I’m pulling off a few smart choices. And I did get my walk in before the storm hit - 60 minutes and 5.25 miles with the dogs. I also brought my dumbbells to the doctor’s office again. So I got my ST in while we were waiting. Hubby was nowhere near as mortified as boy child was. So it will be a 4 star day.

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LIVINGFREE19 6/26/2013 12:23AM

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JUMPINJULIE 6/25/2013 7:01PM


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    Hang in there lady. Sending best wishes and thoughts out to you and hubby. It is tough in times like these to take care of yourself I know, but you can do it.

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FLORIDASUN 6/25/2013 11:52AM

    Smart Kitty on ST in the doctor's office...if only EVERYONE did that in all the waiting rooms down here in SW FL...there would probably be less patients there in the first place. It amazes me how many customers come into our consignment gallery that complain about all their aches and pains and can't climb the stairs to our second floor. is a long staircase...but the stuff up there is WORTH the climb.

Little do we know we are absolutely EATING ourselves to death with all the fake 'pop it in the micro' foods for a quick fix. I always say preparing healthy food takes a little more time...but I'd rather spend that time in my own kitchen NOW...rather than piddling it away in some doctor's office.

Start your visualizations NOW that the surgery will come out exactly as you want it to for health and relief for your hubby. Get yourself a little journal and write down only POSITIVE affirmations about it...and READ it as much as you possibly can.

ESPECIALLY at night right before you fall asleep. The universe delivers what your mind conjures up...your focus IS your reality...I KNOW this to be true!

Hugs to you...and keep on sparking!

Try Constant Comment GREEN tea instead of coffee after the first cup. It's SO delish...and healthy too! emoticon emoticon

Fruit calms your adrenals and your body knows thats what you need right now...with all your exercise I wouldn't feel guilty for eating it. emoticon

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PAMNANGEL 6/25/2013 11:05AM

    emoticon inhale...hold...release... Repeat as needed. Great idea with the weights. I've got a resistance band in my bag.

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PRNCSCUP1-2FULL 6/25/2013 10:45AM

    It will all go well. I feel it! Had to laugh at Boy Child being mortified by your waiting room ST! I love it! Everyone with you should be proud! We usually have to wait for hours for a doctor, so I'm going to carry on your tradition from now on! I know you are scared and with good reason, but you will make it thru this storm like you have conquered others! Poor hubby.... How uncomfortable he must be! I agree with so many that bingeing on fruits isn't necessarily a bad thing. You might find your own tummy a bit upset with all those cherries and coffee though! Maybe cut back on the PB to save fat, but enjoy the fresh fruits of summer! I'm with you in spirit my friend!

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JUSTME29 6/25/2013 9:54AM

    I giggled a bit at the thought of you sitting in the Dr's office with your dumbbells. I bet they don't get that very often, and I bet there were other people in the waiting room that wished they had been brave enough to do the exact same thing.

Binging is binging, but binging on fruit/veggies is still so much better than chocolate and chips. Coffee is a downfall for me too. I've gone to decaf when it's totally up to me or a 50/50 mix when hubby is drinking it too because he swears he can taste the difference. I've really consciously tried to cut back my caffeine consumption, but I can't quite give up the coffee. I still get my water in, but coffee comes first in the mornings.

I'm glad you know the situation for your hubby, but I'm so sorry that it's going to be such a long surgery. I know how scary that is - both from what you've shared and from personal experience. I don't have a lot to offer on that front other than my support - and you already know you have that.

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MRSTABER 6/25/2013 9:42AM

    Keep your chin up! You are obviously a strong woman and your eating habits will be back to normal in no time. Stress is stressful! LOL Thinking of you and sending prayers out for your family!

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ISLAMOM 6/25/2013 8:21AM

    Sending you lots of positive vibes! You can do this! You'll see...all will be well!!


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NILLAPEPSI 6/25/2013 7:14AM

    You hang in there! You're a strong woman & I know you'll get through this. I'll be praying for you, hubby & boy child.

Things will soon be under control again & will settle down. emoticon emoticon

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TAMELA_B 6/25/2013 7:01AM

    I am so behind on reading blogs...sorry to hear your hubby has to have surgery. Lots of hugs and love to you both!

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APED7969 6/25/2013 5:21AM

    emoticon I'm glad to hear your husband's surgery has been booked. I hope everything goes well!

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TWEETYKC00 6/25/2013 4:52AM

    I know this is a hard time on you both, but you will make it. I hope that all goes well with the surgery.

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ANATASHIKI 6/25/2013 3:29AM

    emoticon my surgery lasted for 2 hours ,I was fine. things have to go well! emoticon

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MERRY_XMAS 6/25/2013 1:12AM

    I can understand that you are terrified, but you got the problem and you are doing your best to solve it. Just try to keep it together for yourself and for your family.

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BLITZEN40 6/25/2013 1:10AM

    Nice job choosing cherries over chips! I think if you binge, you almost CAN'T binge on fruits and veggies because the high water content fills you up to the point where you'll stop before overindulging or be sick. I'm sorry your hubby has such a serious medical condition- it sounds awful. I'm glad a plan is in place with all systems go to get it fixed though! Hang in there!

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CAT-IN-CJ 6/25/2013 12:04AM

    Yeah, what they said.

Glad stuff is getting taken care of. . . waiting can be horrible.

When you can, try to focus on the positive things, and be good to yourself.

We're all right here, cheering you on.
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KARENLEIGH32 6/24/2013 11:43PM

    I have you and hubby in my prayers. Calm down it will work out!

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    You and DH are on the road to getting him well. That glass is half full. Don't be too hard on yourself. Stress is hard to deal with, and fruit is better than candy or chips. Again, the glass is half full. If you need to vent, you know we're hear to listen.
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LESLIELENORE 6/24/2013 11:08PM

    There are definitely worse things you could be binging on! Gotta watch that coffee intake. Sorry he has to have surgery, but at least it is something that can be dealt with.

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1EMMA2011 6/24/2013 11:00PM

    Praying for you! LOVE the weights in the doctor's office!!!! AWESOME

I know you are stressed - you are doing really well. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

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SPOONGIRLDEB 6/24/2013 10:50PM

    Well, sorry your husband has to have surgery, but glad it is scheduled! I'm sure it will all go well, and just think what a relief it'll be to both of you once he is all better.

As far as the "binging" goes...I'm not sure I'd count fruit as a real binge! Last week I had a couple of days where I ate chocolate bars, and chips, and more yummy oops crappy food ( I'm making myself hungry LOL!).

As for the coffee...try mixing a bit of decaf in. That's how I got myself weaned down. I now drink 1/2 decaf and 1/2 regular. I usually only have 1 cup a day, but when I feel like I want more, I'll make it with more decaf and less regular, and then I can have several cups without overdoing the caffeine! Folgers "Silky Smooth" decaf is really good :-).

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KELLIEBEAN 6/24/2013 10:12PM

    You are going through such a rough time and yet you bring weights to the doctor's office, binge on fruit and peanut butter. I think you are stellar!

I'm having a lousy day and evening, nowhere near as stressful as yours and I haven't accomplished nearly as much as you have!

You are takin care of business baby! We are all with you!


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BEAUTY_WITHIN 6/24/2013 9:56PM

    Oh honey. He'll be okay. *hugs* I'm here anytime you need to talk. The bit about the dumbells is great; I love it! emoticon

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WARRIORGIRL121 6/24/2013 9:55PM

    Keeping you all in prayer.... emoticon

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SUSIEPH1 6/24/2013 9:27PM

    Hi Kitty,
So very glad Hubby has a date for Surgery..Try not to beat yourself up for such minor slip ups ..
Tomorrow is another day and you will feel so much better now that you have a date..
It's amazing what they can do these days ..
My hubby has just returned from having surgery and he is doing well ..
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DAISYGIRLM2 6/24/2013 9:19PM

    So sorry to hear the extent of your husband's condition. Thankfully you have a surgeon who is on top of things and is keeping you informed. My prayers are with you both!

Please do not be so hard on yourself. You've identified your issue and obviously have taken steps to deal with it. Good job!!

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PHEBESS 6/24/2013 9:19PM

    I too love that you took the dumbbells to the dr's! Too funny!!!

That said, be good to yourself - which means give yourself some leeway on the eating, but also don't go crazy. When DH was in the hospital, prior to the HIV diagnosis and secondary infections, I spent a weekend eating Milano double chocolate cookies and vacuuming - because no one can hear you cry when you're vacuuming, right? (So at least we had a super clean apartment as a result.) Chocolate therapy can only take you so far - after three bags, I stopped and went back to my normal eating.

So - good luck to you and your DH, I'm sure all will go well. And even though it's bad, they aren't rushing him in NOW, so it isn't at an emergency point, right? Keep hold of that thought - it isn't an emergency right now, they are waiting 2 weeks. Things will be okay.

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1CRAZYDOG 6/24/2013 9:13PM

    Well sorry to hear that your DH has surgery scheduled, but hope that he feels better afterwards! It's absolutely worrisome.

That said, I agree w/HAPPY. Be kind to yourself and wean slowly off the caffeine. **SIGH** Just like everything else, it's difficult, but not insurmountable. However, with your stress load right now, just go @ it slowly.

HUGS, my dear. Glad at least your DH is getting it looked and and tended to.

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AHAPPYLIFE 6/24/2013 9:10PM

    I so love that you took your dumbbells to the docs office. I wonder if I can do that tomorrow when we go to my MIL's appt! It's awesome that you found out what is wrong with your husband. At least now he has a plan to correct the problem & begin healing. I do understand your worry about him having surgery but they do many of these types of operations & could (but don't) do it with their eyes closed. Try to keep positive for yourself & your hubby - it's hard but it's also helpful to decrease the stress!

BTW, you've made some great choices with all the stress you've had. Give yourself a pat on the back & plan for the days ahead (you did say 2 weeks?). We're here for you if you just need to vent!

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HAPPYHOOPER2 6/24/2013 9:02PM

    I know that it is hard to sit and wait while you trust someone else to take care of your husband during surgery but you have to trust the doctor and staff to do their best while you do your best to take care of yourself. If taking care of yourself means cutting yourself some slack that is okay.

As a complete addict to caffeine, I understand the struggle. Since you have a lot of stress, be careful about weaning too fast so that you don't get that awful withdrawal headache.

You are awesome and if there is anything I can do to support you, please let me know. Your husband is lucky to have you!

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