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on the road again

Monday, June 24, 2013

Hey ladies, my husband is about to leave me for the first time for his new job training, . i use to do it over 20 years ago!!!!! I'm super nervous cause I have anxiety. I have never had to go without him cause he worked days so he was always home during the night . I haven't had to do much on my own. Is there any other wives out there that have anxiety and if so how do you get through it without being on medication? Thank you for your time! I have a disover so it bothers me to be alone in the dark and bad storms?????????????
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EDDYMEESE 7/30/2013 5:59PM

    I'm the same way. My husband often gets home very late from work. I have a magical hour up until I'm okay, and then I lose it. I'm working on it.

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LCOLANGELO0803 7/3/2013 9:14PM

    Sound like your going to get some much needed time alone. Now is the time for you to discover yourself. Take long baths and pamper yourself with facials, etc. Watch your girly shows and/or movies and paint your nails. Its healthy to learn to be by yourself sometimes. Join a community activity to meet new people. Here we have fitness in the parks and its free. Look into finding some group fitness or walking club. Or maybe look for some new dishes to make when he returns. Hope the anxiety doesn't get the best of you. You got this!!

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EXOTEC 7/1/2013 1:39PM

    It sounds as if your husband is going to be away at night? Sometimes nighttime hours are tougher to get through than daytime ones. You might rearrange your schedule a bit to do your "Sparking" then...or whatever sort of online-related activities you pursue. I know I get completely carried away and don't even know how long I've been sitting here sometimes! It might distract you from the fact that you're alone in the house. You can always go out in daytime hours for other social contact, even if just shopping.

I used to work a night shift, and I always preferred to do my shopping at night - or at least very late hours. The traffic is easier, there's fewer crowds, the people I did encounter were much more sociable...you might consider it, if you're in an area with 24-hour stores. Our Super Walmart here is that way. I can get lost in there for a long time! I also spend an inordinate amount of time snooping around on Amazon or eBay. Even if it's just looking, it takes up hours and distracts me.

Pursue your other interests, too. Whatever crafts or hobbies you have. You can immerse yourself in that happily. How about trying out new recipes? You could experiment and save the ones you like to share with your husband when he gets home. I like to do things that way anyway, just to have easy and healthy freezer-meals for the future.

I don't have anxiety, so I'm just hoping some generalized suggestions might help. Rather than "real" medications, have you tried herbal teas? like chamomile and the like? Some company makes a combination called "Sleepytime," which I like and may help you when you feel your nerves starting to act up. I know anxiety is anything but a desirable condition. You're not doing it intentionally! but see if distraction might help a bit. And look forward to the pleasure of reuniting with your absent partner. That anticipation might improve your outlook and tolerance of this temporary separation!

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FISHER011 6/28/2013 1:18AM

    emoticon even if you have to leave all the lights on.
prayer, reading & hobby's help. Listen to a show on TV or the radio...
See your Dr so you can get medicine or something to help you relax.
Best wishes sweetie! DH will be home before you know It!
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PAULA3420 6/26/2013 6:50PM

    Hi I'm with the gang here. I am so sorry you have such anxiety. My best suggestion is prayer. God will protect you from everything and anything that you may fear. I know whenever, I am afraid or alone and worry, whenever I pray God always makes me feel better. I will keep you in my prayers and send you GOOD GOOD VIBES for Strength and Comfort during this time. emoticon emoticon


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BUSYGRANNY5 6/26/2013 8:46AM

    I hope you are able to keep your anxiety under control... maybe extra exercise will help...try to stay positive.... you can do this!!!

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KATFERRIS123 6/25/2013 8:49PM

    As posted earlier, a hobby is a great way to work your way through anxiety. I have found that scrapbooking is a great way to keep your loved ones close to you in their absence. A pet also helps get me through tough times. You can do this..... emoticon

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 6/25/2013 8:48PM

    I have never had this experience, but a few of my girlfriends have. They say it is the secret to a happy marriage, not sure that helps but it is what they say to me.
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JTREMBATH 6/25/2013 2:53PM

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KNYAGENYA 6/25/2013 1:06PM

    I have recently had an increase in anxiety. I suggest a hobby. I knit and this helps a ton. I also make my own cards. It is a good way to use the nervous energy and get something out of it. I would sleep with the tv on to help. Good luck.

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PATTYKLAVER 6/25/2013 8:10AM

    I tend to leave the tv or radio on when I am alone and anxious.

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LOOSEIT57 6/25/2013 2:28AM

    Try reading and relax your mind. I unfortunately have to take meds as I have dreadful depression but that works for me when I am overly stressed.

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LOSINGLINNDY 6/24/2013 11:08PM

    When my DH is out of town I stay up late and leave lights on when I go to bed. I also pray for God's safety Finally I had a security system put in against DH's better judgment. But I told him it wasn't about him, it was about me and I needed it when he was gone. I think I have always had this anxiety about being alone at night. The things I do really help. I have to admit to also having panic attack med for when I need it.

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WILDKAT781 6/24/2013 5:45PM

    I'm sorry you are having so much anxiety - I wish I could offer some words of wisdom for you but all I can say is to believe in yourself and hang in there...You can handle this

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