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    KENDAL0525   6,273
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Making choices

Monday, June 24, 2013

Let's be honest. Losing weight and getting healthy is no easy task. Especially when one has not had healthy eating habits for the majority of their life. Heck, that's why we're all here, right? Because we need help and support and because this journey is HARD! I've been overweight to some degree for as long as I can remember. I'm tall, so I "carry my weight well" (whatever THAT means), but still, I've always been self-conscious because of the way I look.

I've been a member of Spark for years on and off. I understand the principles of weight loss. I understand the things that I need to do in order to make myself healthier. For whatever reason, though, I've always failed when I've tried to put those things into practice. Maybe I tried to do too much at once and overwhelmed myself. Maybe I just wasn't ready. Sometimes I was being sabotaged by the very people that SHOULD be the most supportive. Sometimes, (more often than not lately) I'm just so damn poor that I can't afford to have as much healthy food as I would like.

Over the last several weeks, with the support and encouragement of a dear friend who is also on his own journey to becoming healthy, everything has started to click. It's not hard anymore. Every time I eat I have a choice. A choice to fuel my body with something healthy. A choice to NOT eat until I feel like I'm going to explode. A choice to pare down my portion sizes. It's not all or nothing. It's not "oh, I messed up today, I'll start again tomorrow". It's not "I need to start at the beginning of a week". Every time I eat I make a choice.

Sometimes, I make choices that aren't the greatest. For example, I went over on my calories last night because I wanted ice cream in the worst way (it's been 90 degrees here - YUCK!) But I log it and I move on from it and think about the next choice I'll be able to make. I learn from every good choice and every bad choice. Sometimes I find myself struggling just to get to 1200 calories. Sometime I look at my tracker and realize that I just had a bad day. The key - MOVE ON FROM IT. Learn, and move on.

I will never be a supermodel. I will never be stick thin and bony (nor do I want to be). My goal is to be healthy. I want to be strong. I want to have the endurance that I've lacked all my life. I want to get off the stupid high blood pressure medication that I've been on since I was in my mid-20's (and I'm only 33). I want to manage my herniated disc and sciatica issues by losing weight and developing a strong core. I want the satisfaction of just feeling awesome about myself, regardless of what anyone else thinks. I will do that slowly and steadily.

One of the biggest things that I've done is I've tried to stop drinking my calories. I drink water so much more now. I also drink Crystal Light (2 quart package made with a gallon of water to cut the sweetness but give me a little flavor). I don't keep soda in the house at all anymore. It's makes a HUGE difference. And you know what? I don't measure every single thing. I have a basic idea of what a cup of something looks like or what 3oz of something feels like. For me, it's working. Now, if I can just add the exercise back in. Stupid stupid back.... (I'm getting there though. Walking more now and getting some core strengthening going).

So, if anyone reading this is struggling, just remember that you get a new chance every time you need to eat or drink. You don't have to wait until tomorrow, or next week. Just until the next choice.

We're all in this together, and I know that we can all do it!
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MORRIWILLOW 6/25/2013 9:58AM

    You have a wonderful attitude and you are right it takes a decision each time. You don't have to wait for the next day, the beginning of the next week, or a day when you feel perfect to make that next healthy choice. I slip up at times too and give in to those cravings. But hey, it's ok! Everything is good in moderation. I don't feel as guilty when I think of it in that way. If I really want that cookie, I log it and eat more carrots the next time. This way I don't feel like any food is taboo. Frankly food should never be taboo unless it is a major health issue like a food allergy. When a food becomes taboo or you have to deprive yourself of things you really enjoy, it becomes a battle between you and good nutrition. We have enough to wars to fight with our midsections.

This blog is a shining light for all of us who forget the most simple of all rules in lifestyle change, keep going, one step, one decision at a time.

May I suggest a very gentle exercise routine? Please talk to your doctor before starting it though. I have started doing Tai Chi, and I find it very relaxing, very gentle on my back, and as you advance through the forms - the different routines you learn - patterns of movements, it helps balance and strengthens the core as well as provides a gentle cardio work out. I find at the end of my work outs that my heart rate is up but I am not left breathless as I would be from other cardio training.

Tai Chi allows you to stretch and flex your muscles without forcing any movement. It teaches relaxation while exercising. I find it is so good for many of the ailments I have suffered from for years, like migraines and back pain.

I hope this helps you as well.

Good luck and thank you so much for sharing. You have inspired me to keep going.


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LINDAK25 6/24/2013 1:22PM

    You are so right, it's all about choice. We have the power to do what needs to be done. We're not helpless (it just feels that way sometimes). I lost 35 pounds and then had surgery. So for six months I've been maintaining instead of getting back to losing weight. I tell myself that at least I'm not gaining weight, but I'm not moving forward either. Arrgh! I've been working at cutting down the calories and exercising more, too. When it comes to exercise I always do too much and then have to take time off to recover, so I'm trying to take things slowly and take time to rest sore muscles. I've found some great stretches that I do after I walk and that helps my back, too. We can do this, it might take more time than we'd like, but we can!

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PATJOONWW 6/24/2013 10:50AM

    Great blog, you are so right! I too water down my drink, just to get a little flavor. But I've also started liking limes in my water, very refreshing.

Good luck on reaching your goals, and have a great day. emoticon Much success on your journey! emoticon
emoticon ~Pat

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ARRREAGLES 6/24/2013 9:37AM

    Excellent and inspiring advice. Good for you, and good for your new choices!

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