day 53 - a vent on dad's care facility
Sunday, June 23, 2013
Today I tracked my stuff for the day (nutriton, water,ect) - my plan is to exercise a bit this afternoon, if only my fav 20 min video with coach Nicole.
I am off to see dad, as he had a bad night last night - I tend to have Sunday home, but I am concerned. I only have ONE complaint, dad is able to walk, but they keep him in a wheelchair, they do not have a small oxygen tank for him to carry so he can be independent. It is my only complaint - as his muscles are atrophying, and this does NOT please me! They will not allow me to bring his smaller tank in to take him for a walk, yesterday I pushed him in his wheelchair for a ten minute walk just to get him out of his room.
Most days with taking care of stuff for him and visiting I am gone 2-4 hours. NO matter what I visit with him for an hour; I may need to do stuff for him, but I will NOT compromise on my visit time.
When I encouraged dad to stay in the care facility I envisioned two things: dad would have people to talk to... he thrives in the care facility when he was there for rehab, he has NO roommate, and has been in his new room for almost a week. Therefore - this is just a repeat of home. Stuck in his room with no contact with people. and TWO - his independence is being denied.
He is getting excellent care! I am just frustrated! To give a clear picture: when dad was home, the only time he came out of his room was to eat and use the bathroom. My mom had issues with the TV being on and other things that would invade her space... I have great empathy for my mom, but my dad needed to be able to sit in a living room - at any rate - I had good expectations of him having more independence. Instead he went from one room with no interactions to another. for this I can take him home and let hospice and other resources come in to take care of him.
thanks for reading my vent -
God is good! I have to trust Him!