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Taken Away

Saturday, June 22, 2013

The day started out sunny, but clouds were on the horizon. Mom wanted to shop early at Cabela's to get the sales before the rush. She ended up buying nothing, I got a toque and shirt. Then we headed over to my Uncle's to find a bunch of cars parked out front. The home care nurse was there, as was a friend, my brother and his wife. We went in and discovered an ambulance had been called and he was going to be taken to the hospital. So we all said hi and waited. My uncle had gotten too weak to even get out of bed, so the ambulance personnel had to carry him out (their stretcher wouldn't fit through the door) I was the only one to follow him all the way out to ambulance. The look on his face said it all. He knew this was the last time he would see his home and the last ride he would ever take :( The clouds had moved in and the rain started up again, kind of fitting the mood.. Unfortunately, palliative care had no rooms free so he was put in emergency awaiting regular bed. The palliative care unit only has 12 beds. My uncle had cancer in the lining of his lungs and it spread to the rest of his body including his bones. His abdomen is filling up with fluid making breathing even more difficult and he doesn't feel like eating. No major pain yet, but he felt it was coming. He was told what could be done to help him feel better, not sure if he will agree. He wants no extraordinary measures taken. He has a do not resuscitate order. He signed a form allowing my brother and his wife to be in charge of his medical orders should he no longer be able to say his wishes. Its more than likely he will end his days sharing a room as before with no privacy to spend with his family members. I hate seeing the hollowed out shell of my uncle, death would be a blessing for him now.
We spent the day with a quick trip to Costco, and then home and watched the storms rolling through the rest of the day. I decided not to go to the festival as some of the storms dumped quite heavy rain and I didn't feel like a long walk through that. Yesterday it was eight miles round trip to get there. Ironically, the evening turned out calm and nice.. Sure didn't look like it would be that way. Mom, Daisy and I went for a walk. They had closed off a low lying area by the river, but it hadn't gotten any water over it yet. Maybe by tomorrow.
Hope you all have a good Sunday,
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  • C8TSON
    emoticon I'm so sorry about your uncle. It is very painful to watch those we love suffer so much. Cancer is such an awful thing. I think palliative care is a great thing though. Used to work in nursing homes and would see families trying to hang on to their loved ones despite their suffering and pain, full resuscitation orders and all . It was always a welcome relief to see when all were on the same page about taking comfort measures only. I hope that his last days are comfortable and spent with family. I hope you have a great week. emoticon
    1734 days ago
    I am so sorry to hear about your uncle. That's kind of how it went down with my favorite uncle in November. He knew he wasn't coming home and a quiet acceptance settled over him before he went into a coma.

    But I hate to hear that you are floating away up there! Time to get a kayak. Your tiny little self can LIVE in a kayak and be safe! LOL

    I hope the weather clears up for you. I know there is no perfect place for the weather, but if there were a "modest weather" state, I would so be there instead of sweating to death, or up there freezing or getting blown away! But I am thrilled that you all got out to walk. I am getting ready to head that way after this cup of hot coffee. It's my fuel-up!

    Be careful and best wishes with the family,
    1734 days ago
    Sorry to hear about your Uncle. emoticon emoticon emoticon
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  • JUNEAU2010
    What a loving gift you gave to your uncle by staying with him! How terribly sad. I've been there.
    1735 days ago
    Tears and hugs for you, Linda. It was thoughtful of you to accompany your uncle all the way to the ambulance so he would have a familiar face with him at least that far from the door. Blessings to him, to you, and to the rest of your family as your uncle closes out this chapter in his life.
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  • JANEDOE12345
    My thoughts are with you. I went through a little of this when I lost a dear brother 4 years ago. Reading about your uncle brought those sad days back. There really is nothing to do but wait out the passing and keep your life simple to leave room for grieving.
    Stay well,

    1735 days ago
    Thinking of you lots, Linda, in these hard days for you and your uncle.
    1735 days ago
    Hoo boy, that's a lot. I think it says a lot about you that you took it all in and didn't allow it to derail your eating/fitness/life choices. I know you're dealing with some heavy emotions, but I think you're doing a great job of managing your stressors. Let us know if you need to vent. I find it's one of the best things about SP - being able to say what I'm feeling without the judgment I'd get in real life. emoticon
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    Love and hugs.
    1735 days ago
    emoticon Your Uncle and his Family are in my Prayers. I am glad that you are getting to spend sometime with him.
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  • ENUFF81020
    Hi Linda,

    I hope that the medical people caring for your uncle can keep him comfortable and able to do what he needs to in the coming days.

    Today, it started out looking dark and menacing--so Floyd and I decided to wait until tomorrow after church to go to the air show that I won tickets for last weekend. Interestingly enough, it never rained and got very humid and hot for the majority of the day with these brief periods of creepy menacing winds. I don't know that I have ever seen much like it.

    Hopefully, both of us will have nice early summer weather tomorrow. My biggest problem is that I am craving being in the pool so much it almost hurts. It is driving me crazy. Soon, I hope!
    Prayers are still being said for your uncle and you and your family in these difficult times. Take care,
    Gentle hugs,

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