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Sweet Child Of Mine


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Saturday, June 22, 2013

I am blessed to be the mother of two sons. My oldest will be 29 next month, and my youngest will be 28 next week. Where did the time go? It seems like just yesterday that they were still little boys who had to reach up to give me a hug and kiss. Now, they are adults, and they both tower over me... I'm the one who has to reach up for a hug and kiss!

When they were very young, I would sing to them, and they each had their own favorite songs. For my oldest son, it was "Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go." He'd probably be embarrassed if I reminded him of that today, though!

My youngest son's favorite song was "Sweet Child O' Mine." I still sing that song to him just about every day, and it still brings such a sweet, gentle smile to his face. I wish he could sing the words along with me, but he can't. He has autism, and he doesn't speak. He is still a little boy in many ways, but in a grown up body.

He can't take care of himself, so I take care of all his needs....dressing him, cleaning him, etc. Yes, he requires a lot from me, but he gives back so much. He loves me, and although he can't verbalize it, I can see it in his eyes and in his smile.

A few years ago, I had given up on myself due to depression, and I allowed myself to become sedentary and obese. I reached my highest weight, 286 lbs. Being so overweight made it hard to take care of myself, and of course it made it harder for me to take care of my son. I was slowly killing myself. I had really given up.

Thank God, I woke up and realized what I was doing to myself, and by extension to my dear son. I was not giving him the best care. I was not being the best mother to him that I could be. I knew I had to start taking care of my health....for my sake, and for his. He needs me.

Since March of last year, my health has become a priority. I eat right, and I exercise. I have lost 71 lbs and I have gotten strong. Caring for my son is much easier now. And he is healthier too, because I pay attention to what he eats. I control his portions, and I give him good, healthy foods. I keep him active by taking him for walks, and trying to get him to do yoga with me. He won't do a full yoga workout, but he will try to do a few poses along with me.

I know that I won't always be able to take care of my son. There will come a time when I will be too old. But I am going to do my best to postpone that day for as long as possible. Taking care of my health has been a gift...not only for myself, but also for my son.

Happy birthday, sweet child of mine! I love you!

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"Sweet Child O' Mine"

He's got a smile that it seems to me
Reminds me of childhood memories
Where everything was as fresh as the bright blue sky
Now and then when I see his face
It takes me away to that special place
And if I stared too long
I'd probably break down and cry

Sweet child o' mine
Sweet love of mine

He's got eyes of the bluest skies
As if they'd thought of rain
I'd hate to look into those eyes
And see an ounce of pain
His hair reminds me of a warm safe place
Where as a child I'd hide
And pray for the thunder
And the rain
To quietly pass me by

Sweet child o' mine
Sweet love of mine

Where do we go?
Where do we go now?
Where do we go?
Sweet child o' mine
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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MIAJOEB 6/23/2013 4:06PM

    Thank you for your inspirational story about your sons and the words to your song.
Thank you aslo for the little messages you send to me each week...
Keep on spreading the spark

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OFGREENGABLES 6/23/2013 4:06PM

    what a beautiful message!

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HWNHMMBRD 6/23/2013 3:52PM

    ."Sniff, sniff, blink, blink, excuse me I am a little teary eyed from reading you beautiful blog. emoticon Thank you for sharing.

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BARBARASDIET 6/23/2013 3:27PM

    You have great strength.

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SUSANELAINE1956 6/23/2013 3:18PM

    What a beautiful blog! Your son is lucky to have such a wonderful mother, and you are lucky to have him. He helped you get to the healthy place you are at, along with all of your very hard work. I am even more amazed now at the time you take to spread your special brand of cheer and encouragement to your SparkFriends, and I am so glad to be one of them. emoticon

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STRONGDJ 6/23/2013 3:07PM

    Lovely blog and taking care of yourself and your health is an awesome gift to you and your family!

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JEANNETTE59 6/23/2013 3:01PM

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HEALTHYHAPPYDEB 6/23/2013 2:59PM

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Happy Birthday to your boys! emoticon

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JOYFUL452003 6/23/2013 2:55PM

    God Bless you and your sweet family. Happy Birthday to both your boys.
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MORTONDH 6/23/2013 2:49PM

  Your beautiful blog made me cry. You are amazing. Your sons are lucky to have you and you them.

You might be interested in reading a book by Ian Brown a Toronto writer who describes the hardships, lessons and joys living with his severely disabled son have brought to his family. It is called the Boy in the Moon: A father's search for his disabled son. Ian is an incredible writer and person.



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TPETRIE 6/23/2013 2:45PM

  You are an awesome MOM! I have worked with children who are autistic. It takes a strong, loving person to be able to cope. They are very special individuals and when they allow you in , they have your heart forever. God bless you and your wonderful son. I have a sister with down syndrome and she is very special to me. Be very proud of your family. emoticon

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CFMOSS 6/23/2013 2:34PM

    I'm with you - my children aren't quite that old yet, but getting there - sweet sweet children of mine...

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LITTLE_QUEEN 6/23/2013 2:18PM

    you know I feel the same way, I have often been told that I am a saint for takin Emm, but to me she is the greatest gift I ever recived, I especially say gift cause she came to me Dec. 22nd, and right now she is my reason to fight my health problems but oh how I wish she lived closer
yes you need to be around and stay healthyyour sons both need you and you need them

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LINDAK25 6/23/2013 2:17PM

    Sweet.

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JOANNHUNT 6/23/2013 2:10PM

    YOU ARE SUCH AN AWESOME PERSON AND A ROLE MODEL. I HEAR YOU WITH THE KILLING YOURSELF WITH BAD CHOICES. I AM LOOKING AFTER MY HUSBAND TO BE WHO HIS EX HAD THROWN OUT BECAUSE HE HAD A STROKE AND COULDN'T WORK ANYMORE. HE THEN FELL AND HIT HIS HEAD WHICH BROUGHT ON ANOTHER STROKE 5 YEARS AGO. THE FRONT OF HIS BRAIN IS 1/3 RD GONE. SINCE WE GOT TOGETHER AFTER LOOSING EACH OTHER 43 YEARS AGO TO NEITHER ONE WANTING TO SHOW OUR EMOTIONS TO EACH OTHER FOR FEAR WE WOULD LOOSE. STUPIDITY. WE CAME TO OUR SENSES AND ARE TOGETHER NOW. I HELP HIM IN AND OUT OFTHE SHOWER, GOT HIS LEGS WORKING AGAIN THROUGH MASSAGE THERAPY WHEN THEY SAID HE WOULD NEVER WALK AGAIN., I HAVE HIS LONG TERM MEMORY WORKING TOO WELL, HAHA. I HAVE TO CONTINUE TO GET MY HEALTH ON TRACK TO KEEP HIM RECOVERING. THANK YOU FOR BEING MY INSPIRATION. HAVE AN AWESOME WEEK.
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THOMS1 6/23/2013 1:58PM

    Wow!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO BOTH OF YOUR SONS.
YOU ARE ONE GREAT MOM!!! emoticon

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ALIHIKES 6/23/2013 1:51PM

    Very moving and powerful blog. Thank you for sharing, and for opening many eyes to the beauty of love emoticon

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ROCKYCPA 6/23/2013 1:32PM

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You are really a special mother and happy birthday to your very special son!

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TERESAMUS 6/23/2013 1:30PM

    Wow, you are a very special person. We cannot take care of our loved ones, if we do not take care of ourselves first. So stay strong. emoticon

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CORNERKICK 6/23/2013 1:20PM

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JT_GMOTU 6/23/2013 1:16PM

    emoticon Warm thoughts to you and your family on your son's B'day!
KUTGW!!!
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PATRICIAANN46 6/23/2013 12:58PM

  Dear Pixie..........What a wonderful blog!!! God Bless both you and your son and emoticon to him. emoticon

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GIRLINMOTION 6/23/2013 12:51PM

    HUGS

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CINDYYB 6/23/2013 12:40PM

    emoticon Pixie dear!

emoticon to your son, hope he has the best year ever!!

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TINY67 6/23/2013 12:38PM

    Great blog from a Great Mother.

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LIFE-FAITH 6/23/2013 12:28PM

    emoticon I chose that song for me and my son to dance to at his wedding last year. Happy birthday to your son! They do grow way to fast!

Have a blessed day!
jean

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JILL313 6/23/2013 12:02PM

    I got very emotional reading your blog especially about your youngest son. My son is 39 years old and at age 15 he was diagnosed with schizophrenia so life continues to be very challenging for him and I. He is the sweetest guy and would give anyone the shirt off his back it's just the way he is. I love him unconditionally and I can't imagine not having him in my life. . .Like you I worry about him as I know when older it will be time to place him somewhere if I'm then unable to help & take care of him. It breaks my break to think about his future as he's very much homebody and hates getting out much. Unfortunately the group homes for disabled adults here leave a lot to be desired and most of them are in really bad areas. I try to do my best for him and getting myself healthier is one of them. I'll be praying for you and your sons for continued strength and good health. You are a Beautiful Caring Mom & person. God Bless you and your sons.

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JSEATTLE 6/23/2013 11:54AM

  Wow that is a wonderful post. Thank you for sharing about your blessed family!

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CICELY360 6/23/2013 11:54AM

  Sweet blog

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    Such a sweet inspiring story .. thank you for sharing emoticon

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AUTUMNHOPE 6/23/2013 11:44AM

    Oh what a beautiful blog ! I was told about it by a friend. My boy is 21. I too, lost myself. He developed Bi-polar on top of the Autism though, so things are MUCH more difficult, but meds seem to be helping.
My son also loves music. He won't allow me to sing, though OCD(a rule).

I am glad you & he are finding a more centered & healthy place in your world.
Thanks for sharing this. You sound like a GREAT mom.

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CELIAMINER 6/23/2013 11:32AM

    What a beautiful story! I am awed by people who have the physical and emotional strength to continue caring for special children long after they become adults. I have two colleagues with autistic children, one an adult about your son's age and the other still a youth. Caregivers like you and those colleagues have my utmost respect!

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GARIANNA1 6/23/2013 11:26AM

  Our God sure knows how to connect people when they need it most...

First..loved your blog!

Second I have a "special Child of Mine" also...Her name is Tia! I took care of Tia until the age of 33 and then the lifting got to be too much for me...it was a step that I thought I would never have to make...But I did! She is in a special nursing home where she has people who can take care of her needs...as I can no longer do it! My child as you put it will be 53 in January...She is such a happy young lady now...and how do I really know this by her disposition.. her smiling face... :)

I am glad I took good care of my body also as I know what you mean about getting depressed sometimes...now I feel that Tia has taught me so many good lessons...I couldn't be a more caring person, sensitive to others feelings in so so many ways!

See there are lots of us out here who have a "special" child in our life...

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BELDONDOG1 6/23/2013 11:07AM

    God Bless You, Hon! Although, it sounds like He blesses you everyday!! Give your son a Happy Birthday hug for me.

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GINA180847 6/23/2013 11:07AM

    What a loving tribute to the relationship you have to your precious son. You are lucky to have each other

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JERICHO1991 6/23/2013 11:03AM

    Lots of emotion as I read this. You are a blessing to your son, and you are being blessed in return. I took care of my mom, battling dementia, in my home for 5 years. I can relate to your feeling loved without hearing the words. Thank God you realized the blessing of good health, and you are taking appropriate actions for your health, and your son's.

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SHAN09 6/23/2013 10:58AM

  It is often hard to remember yourself when being a caretaker to family members, especially young ones. Congratulations on your successes...children make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for. emoticon

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SUNSHINEGB 6/23/2013 10:28AM

    "Happy Birthday" to that sweet child of yours Pixie.
Being the mother of a special needs child myself, I know how sweet they are, their innocent, childlike ways are priceless and a joy to behold!
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NIKKIJ55 6/23/2013 10:25AM

    Beautiful blog! Thanks for sharing. Happy Birthday to your son. I am glad you became healthy for yourself and for him!

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BLUEANGELLK 6/23/2013 10:21AM

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A mother's love is so very special!

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NANCY- 6/23/2013 10:20AM

    You are an amazing woman and faced many challenges presented to you with grace.
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CRYSTALJEM 6/23/2013 10:05AM

    You are a wonderful mom. Thanks for reminding us all of where that important beauty in life is. Namaste.

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