Saturday, June 22, 2013
First off, I want to thank everyone for all your support on my last blog. It's been a really rough week, but I think I've got most of it worked through now.
Okay, and now for my rant. So I'm a very active Tumblr user. I mostly use it for reblogging fandom things, but I've always been spending a lot of time lately looking under the #bodypositive tag. Now I will say, a lot of it is great. There's a lot of people both male and female, who are working towards accepting their bodies just the way they are. They're learning to love themselves, whether they be skinny and just a little too boney, or fat and a little too squishy. There's a lot of pictures of people who would not be considered "pretty" by society, because societies version of "beauty" has become so skewed over the years. But they are learning to move past the media who says that their type isn't beautiful. And if you ask me, I think this whole movement is wonderful. I think that we should all come to terms with who we are, and be happy with it. Am I happy with my body? No, not the visual of it. I hate that I am overweight. But here is the difference, I am working to change it. Because I love myself enough to want to be healthy, strong, and fit, so that I can live for many years and be healthy and happy. NOW here's where I start to get angry. Amongst all the pictures and blogs of people like me who are loving themselves enough to want to do what is best for their health and their lives, there are the opposite. There is a sickening amount of blogs of people who are BOASTING about being 300+ pounds. Talking about how much they loooooove being fat because f*ck what society says about how they should lose weight. I've seen countless posts from people saying "eating a whole bag of cookies and a pizza because #bodypositive I don't care what anyone says". I even saw a picture yesterday of a girl who had to be over 400 lbs, she was knitting on her stomach and said "I never want to lose weight, I love my stomach! It's like a built in shelf!". Now okay. Like I said, I'm all for people loving their bodies, no matter how they may look. HOWEVER. I'm sorry, but when you are 300-400 lbs and you keep saying that you don't want to lose weight because that would be betraying yourself and giving in to society, I STRONGLY disagree. Yea, it is possible to be fat and healthy. I am a prime example of that. BUT the more you weigh, the more pressure you are putting on your joints. Ample belly fat puts you at a higher risk for heart disease. If you are mostly bedridden because of your weight, you run the risk of bed sores. Being obese highly raises your risk for diabetes, and with diabetes, you run the risk of losing limbs. More so if you cannot/will not be active. Drinking 2 and 3 liters of soda a day and washing it down with an extra large pizza IS NOT BODY POSITIVE. YOU ARE KILLING YOURSELF. And this is why I feel like this whole movement has gotten so far off the tracks. In my opinion, body positive means that you love yourself for who you are, and you want to be the best person you can be, both inside and out. I DO NOT think that it gives people an excuse to eating loads and loads of junk food and gain weight as much as you want because you won't conform to societies standards of "thin". That is actually inflicting massive abuse on your body, and if you are supposed to be loving yourself, how is the abuse helping? A lot of them say "I love being fat ill never change!" To which I'm thinking "really.. You love being fat?" Cause if you ask me, I HATE being fat. I hate that I jiggle when I walk. I hate that my arm fat keeps waving for 30 minutes after I do. I hate that I used to get out of breath walking up a lot of stairs. I hate that I feel like my butt is going to swallow a bar stool whole if I sit on it. I mean, does anyone ACTUALLY enjoy that stuff?!
If this blog offends anyone, I truly apologize because that was not my intent. My whole standpoint is that I don't think that this positivity thing is being interpreted correctly, and it really bothers me. People are killing themselves with obesity, and they think that it's okay as long as they love who they are. My aunt died from a combination of obesity related diseases, but she never wanted to change. She ate massive quantities of junk food, and was severely obese which caused her to get diabetes. She did NOT care for her diabetes, which caused other diseases to happen to her. All because she did not care enough to change. Is this really a "positive" thing?
I guess what I'm trying to say is, LOVE YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE. But in loving yourself, love yourself for the best you that you can be. Love yourself enough to lovingly care for your body. Make your body strong, and fill it with good nourishing foods. Don't abuse it in the name of "positivity", because I'm sorry, but nothing about abuse is positive!