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Two years later... and time to stop the chase.

Thursday, June 20, 2013

Have you ever wondered what happens here on Sparkpeople when the deadline you have personally set for reaching your goals expires? When this date that you anticipate as the glorious day that youíll be exactly where you have dreamed of, comes and passes andÖ youíre not there yet?

I used to change that date every time I saw it approaching and I knew I didnít have enough time to reach my goal. I would push it a few months later and use the opportunity to regroup and rethink about my strategies.

Yesterday was one of these days. Two years after I embarked on this life-altering health journey, I expected to have reached my ultimate weight goal of 65 kilos.

But I havenít.

This time I didnít change the date. And if youíre still wondering, nothing happened. No ďdeadline expiredĒ e-mail came into my inbox, no reminder to change the date for reaching my goals.

So, two years later Iím not at goal yet.
And quite honestly I donít care.

Frankly, my dear Sparkfriends, I donít give a damn.

Now, I would be a liar if I told you that I wouldnít like to see this number on my scale one day. But Iíve reached the point in my journey when Iíve realized what it is: just a number. And I know youíre going to tell me that we all knew that for a very long time but thereís a big difference between knowing something and actually act like you fully realize it. Havenít we all been chasing numbers for quite a while?

But there comes a time when you really donít want to do that any more. When the wish and the need to sustain the wonderful health habits that youíve acquired all this time become much more important than the reading on the scale. Thereís always a line that we donít want to cross. My success was based on making changes in my life that I could keep forever. And thatís what has helped me maintain a healthy BMI for more than a year. I could push more and reach that ultimate goal. I could start exercising like crazy and cut out every bit of fat and sugar from my eating. But for how long would I be able to do that? Whatís the point of reaching a weight that I canít maintain? It sounds like a wild goose chase to me. I may touch the goose but Iíll never actually catch it.

So, Iím officially switching to maintenance. And yes, Iím changing my ticker, too. Sustainability is my new goal. Being a lifetime member of this ďeliteĒ 5% of the people who actually manage to maintain their weight loss for life.

As for the two-year journey, hereís what Iíve accomplished.

At my little girlís baptism and at my heaviestÖ

After a 45 poundsí loss.
At a recent wedding and a baptism with my girls.

Thank you for everything Sparkfriends!
I couldn't have done it without your support.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
_JODI404 6/28/2013 2:41PM


I think you have made a very sound decision!! The scale is only one of many tools to measure our success -- and too much focus on that number can drive you crazy!

You are at a healthy BMI, and maintained that for a year -- that sounds like a successful year of maintenance already accomplished!!

It's easy to get stuck on a certain number in our minds -- but it is much more important to be healthy, strong, and fit than to reach an "ultimate" number -- especially if it involves struggle to maintain it. I firmly believe that goal weight should be fairly easy to maintain. (no "struggle").

Continue on with all those healthy habits, you will do great!

Love your pictures, you look beautiful!

Cheers to sustainability & being in that 5% club!!

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IRON_RESOLVE 6/26/2013 10:20PM

    You DO look amazing!

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FIT_MAMA_2_FOUR 6/24/2013 9:43AM

    You look fabuloso! It is freeing to rid yourself from that magically number when you know you are a healthy person. I'm happy you did this and now you can move on and enjoy this body you worked hard for!

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WORKNPROGRESS49 6/21/2013 7:13PM

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KELLIEBEAN 6/21/2013 11:10AM

    You look great and you have a wonderful attitude. It is a wonderful feeling to break the grip of the scale and FEEL GOOD!

Congratulations on our achievements!


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AEROBISAURUS 6/21/2013 11:04AM

    Elle, you are gorgeous at any size but I'm so happy for your realization and that there will be no expired goal email coming neither your way or mine. Lol. I have a ridiculous goal weight of 125 lbs. But I'm at the same point as you. emoticon You are such an inspiration to all!

Me :P

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FUNLOVEN 6/21/2013 10:59AM

    I generally just take one day at a time so I don't set myself up for failure. I love the new you - looks and attitude emoticon !

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KANOE10 6/21/2013 10:23AM

    You look wonderful. I think it is great that you are choosing to maintain a sustainable weight. You have developed the healthy habits over these last two years and are doing a great job of staying in that 5 percent who keep the weight off.


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2BEHEALTHY2014 6/21/2013 6:36AM

    I think you made an excellent choice to start maintenance. You look great!

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 6/20/2013 7:45PM

    YOU ARE AWESOME!!! I think it's great that you are happy where you are. And to have maintained that for a year, is PHENOMENAL! I thought I'd be done with this inside of 2 years. Here we are 3 years later and I'm still working on it, sheesh! Way to go Elle!!!

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123ELAINE456 6/20/2013 6:41PM

  Awesome Blog and Pictures. You Look Great. God Blessings to You and Everyone. Have a Marvelous Day. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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DESERTJULZ 6/20/2013 6:33PM

    The only numbers I chase now are how far I can run without taking a walk break, how many miles I run/walk/hike/bike every month, and how many total minutes I exercise every month. :D

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ANNIE1114 6/20/2013 6:19PM

    You look great!

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BAKER1009 6/20/2013 5:07PM

    Ahh...I finally get to "meet" the girls. They are beautiful Elle, just as I had imagine...and most definitely just like their mother!

I have seen what you've done here on Spark and to call it anything less than successful would not be right. You have done amazing things and you have shared your wonderful tools with the rest of us, helping us all to reach our goals on living a healthier life. You are right, because living a healthier life is really what it is all about!!
Congrats to you for reaching maintenance mode! So proud of you Elle!

And of course, LOVE the dress!! Glad to finally see it! You look stunning!!

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FITFOODIE806 6/20/2013 4:39PM

    I am so happy for you! Sometimes we need our heads and hearts to catch up with each other. I'm glad you're in a good place. And you look beautiful!! And those girls!!! I think you'll find so much more satisfaction doing fun active things with them (like biking!) than from chasing some number on the scale.

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ANNIEONLI 6/20/2013 2:28PM

    I love sustainability and maintainability! Yay you!!
And you looks so fab it's not funny! Healthy vibrant active happy - that's how we need to live our lives!!

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THOMS1 6/20/2013 2:03PM

    emoticon Good for you and by the way, you look wonderful. emoticon

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POINDEXTRA 6/20/2013 2:01PM

    I agree completely! Sustainability is SO much more important than "the number."

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THEEXERCISER 6/20/2013 1:58PM

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