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R.I.P., T

Thursday, June 20, 2013

I'm really sad about the passing of James Gandolfini. He was a great actor, and will be missed by many.

It makes me think though of all the people out there, my BIL in particular, who are not taking care of themselves (and obviously I have no clue of cause of death here, but it seems for men in particular, heart attacks at this young age are so common, and PREVENTABLE. And of course not just men, either. An old colleague who smoked, ate horribly, and never EVER worked out had a fatal heart attack in her 40s).

It just makes me want to scream: THIS WILL HAPPEN TO YOU IF YOU DO NOT START TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF. Yes, we all meet the same fate eventually, this life does not last forever, but it breaks my heart that he leaves behind a teenage son.

I might fret over my weight, or have this (superficial) goal of feeling good in a bikini in public, but the reason I have lost 70+ lbs, and work out 4-6 hours a week and try to eat things that are GOOD for me at least 85% of the time is simple:

I do not want to have a heart attack
I do not want to be at risk for diabetes
I do not want to be a bigger target for the cancer that is killing my family
I do not want my body to be a broken down decrepit useless thing at ANY age

Which is why it frustrates me to hear people's LAME excuses for NOT making any effort to be healthy. What I'm hearing is: I don't care about myself. I don't care about my children. I don't care about my friends and family.

Don't think it hasn't crossed my mind to wonder WHO will take care of my nephews if something should happen to BIL and his wife. Both are already on medication, and have been given several warnings by their doctors, and do NOTHING about it. Ugh. I just don't see why they can't see the bigger picture. It's not about vanity. it's about YOUR LIFE, literally.

emoticon emoticon OK, rant over. And yes, healthy people die prematurely as well, but isn't it at least WORTH it to try to stack the odds in your favor?!?!?!?


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
TIME-4-TINA 6/21/2013 8:08AM

    You are right! The fear of a heart attack is what prompted me to lose 50 lbs.

Last year, when I was 46, I was on the phone with my mom. She said "do you realize your father was only 47 when he had his heart attack and triple bypass"? I knew it was a long time ago (30 yrs) but I didn't realize he was that young. That "phone call" was a "wake up call". My life changed from that point on. Other than being overweight, I did not have any other health issues, however, I was not going to sit around and wait for something to happen. Along the way I have discovered that I do love eating healthy and I do love to exercise. Go figure...

(btw, my father is now 76 yrs. old, 150 lbs., he eats right, exercises daily, plays golf, tennis, acts in a theatre group, and can run circles around everyone. Thank God he got a second chance to turn his life around.)

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CAROLCRC 6/21/2013 7:57AM

    My BIL (overweight, diabetic, etc., etc.) says "You'll give yourself a heart attack with all that running." I say "no, actually, I'll prevent one."

With you all the way on this topic.

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RUNCHRISTY76 6/20/2013 11:00PM

    I know, I saw that this morning on GMA. SO sad. He was actually on a father/son trip at the time. All sources are reporting a heart attack, but that's not official I suppose.

I LOVED him on The Sopranos! Such a sad end...It does make you think about being kinder to your own body and doing your best to ensure you at least attempt to prevent something like this from happening to you.

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CELTATHEART517 6/20/2013 6:05PM

    I didn't know he passed. So sad that he was young and left behind children. I agree with you on all points here. I think people get caught up in believing we work as hard as we do just to look "skinny," but the real reasons are on the inside, not the outward appearance. My family may not have cancer in the genes, but heart disease and diabetes have already reared their ugly heads. I am of the same opinion...I don't want those deadly diseases to even have a chance in my body. Granted, I have my moments where I slip into old habits (mom's gatherings for pasta and meatballs will NEVER be turned down), but for the most part, I try to eat as healthily as I can. It's amazing what a lifestyle change can do...diabetes is a REVERSIBLE disease, but it's getting that person (and others in the family) to realize that they could get so much more out of life if they weren't on medications that is the struggle.

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    I totally agree with you. My husband, son, and I all need to get back on our diet and exercise regime.

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FITGIRL15 6/20/2013 12:41PM

    PS... he also leaves hbehind a daughter, who isn't even 1 year old yet!

Yes, sad BUT preventable!!!! Great Blog!

I thought the VERY same thing when I heard this story! Health is not just a matter of vanity, it's a matter of LIFE (and the quality of that life) or DEATH!

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-AMANDA79- 6/20/2013 12:27PM

    What a great picture of him! I always had the hots for the character and am also very saddened by his passing :(

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LIVING4HIM_INWI 6/20/2013 12:25PM

    You are doing the right thing by trying to be the best you that you can be! I used to be one of those people that would tell myself "Why take care of myself? What good would it do as I could get hit by a truck tomorrow?" Oye, the silly things we get in our head! Now I tell everyone that even if I would get hit by a truck tomorrow, I will go living life to its fullest and enjoying more moments whereas before I was missing out on a lot because I didn't have the energy, was sick most of the time and just couldn't do much. We all do it in physical health issues and in spiritual health. People will know once they try but something keeps them back. I do really like Tanya Beardsley's photo and long quote that states that we are most afraid of success that we think of ourselves as unworthy but we are children of God, designed by the best. We were important enough for Christ to die for us, but it is hard to think of ourselves in that light.

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