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Rant/Vent - Be Warned -

Thursday, June 20, 2013

Attention! This is a rant/vent ** Then I will get to my day

Why can't people understand that I do not want children? I don't understand what is so hard to understand about that.

My co-worker's wife is due soon. I am very happy for them. I know they are excited and I am excited for them, however I don't want to be in that boat. Another co-worker asked him when his wife was due and he said next month. The co-worker then said "now all we need is Cortney on board" I looked at him and said "I would rather die" He just stared at me open mouthed. He didn't know what to say.

Children aren't for everyone. I recognize that I would not make a good parent, so I decided not to be one. I love other peoples' children (in small doses) I volunteer with Kids at the library... I just don't want kids of my own... ever.


In other news, my day was pretty decent. I volunteered at the Library today for the United Way of Blair County's Day of Caring. Area business allow employees to volunteer with the United Way for the day and pay them their regular salary. The volunteers are then sent to different community organizations. Our group of volunteers helped with outside maintenance. They trimmed the trees and shrubs, planted flowers and tilled up the mulch in front of the library.

I was in charge of getting lunch together for our team (go figure lol) - We had Ox Roast, potato salad, chips and cookies. I set up a nice buffet style lunch for them and everyone enjoyed it. There was so much left over food! I brought a container of Ox Roast (ox roast is made by putting seasoned, cooked roast beef through a meat grinder, then placed in a slow cooker with water and spices) for my boyfriend. I did ok at lunch. I didn't overeat, but I did have a few chips and some potato salad. It was good!

After the library, I went tanning then to the gym. Now I am at work. Whoo hoo!

Exciting stuff!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
KELSEY65 6/23/2013 12:00AM

    I didn't want kids either. I just knew I would be a terrible Mom. I did have one though, and I am a better friend to her than parent. Not the ideal set up.

Have a great and thanks for the rant!

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DESERTJULZ 6/22/2013 9:32PM

    First, congratulations for realizing that having kids is not right for you. It makes me so sad that some people who really don't want to have children do so anyhow, then the poor children don't receive the parenting they should. YOU are brilliant to make your own choice here!

Second, what a wonderful way to spend your day! Thank you for being a volunteer and giving back to your community.

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KNITTY_JESS 6/21/2013 9:22AM

    I agree, some people do not need kids. Some people aren't kid people. There are some parents out there that should never have had kids. Ever.

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SPARKCHANTAL 6/21/2013 4:46AM

    I double you on all your reasons for not wanting kids of my own. was the oldest of 5, spent my school years babysitting, so I had borrowed kids enough to know how time-consuming they are.

then I lived in a hick area of Germany (with my own ballet school-- borrowing kids again) and just about the only topic these natives had was why I don't have kids of my own. have to admit, this was a big reason I left the place. such a bunch of medulla oblongatas!

the medulla oblongata is the area of the brain responsible for instincts, not reasoning.

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NYARAMULA 6/21/2013 3:57AM

    Glad you had a good day.

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HINK2013 6/20/2013 11:41PM

    Don't worry about what others think... people have a hard time understanding and accepting that for some women/people ... having kids is NOT what they are called to do.... YOU just have to do what is BEST for you and let the others GET OVER IT!!

It's kind of the same reaction I get from some people, when I say that I wouldn't want to be a full time stay at home mom.... I know that is NOT for me, but most women I know, think all mothers would want to be stay at home moms! And I am not saying that to "diss" the SAHM.... just saying that I couldn't do it!

DON'T worry about others.... they probably will never understand your choice, so you have to accept that you can't change that!

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PENNYSAVER2 6/20/2013 4:50PM

    Do what's best for you. I think it would be more selfish to have a child to just "fit in" if you really don't want to be a parent. emoticon

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CECE0330 6/20/2013 1:24PM

    I'm not sure why people think it's OK to comment on something so obviously personal. I have two close friends who are childless by choice and I would NEVER think to speculate on, hint at, or otherwise encourage them to change their minds. (Um, if anything I probably help them with their decision since I vent to them about the downsides of parenting. lol)

If it were me, I'd come up with something totally inappropriate to say, I'm sure. emoticon

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SNOW_LEOPARD_74 6/20/2013 11:00AM

    I feel your pain on the no kids. I have been hearing it for years from ex-MIL to total strangers. People forget that having a child is a choice and a personal one and not everyone has the chance to make. Some of us can't have children! Stick to your guns and if you don't want kids then don't have them. So many people with older/grown children have applauded what they think is my choice not to have kids and although they love their kids dearly, think I made the better choice. Be true to yourself!

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BILL60 6/20/2013 9:40AM

    It's your decision. If you can live with it, hang tough!!

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TOGEMON 6/20/2013 8:26AM

    I'm with you on the kids thing! I don't want them either... I don't even like most of them, lol.

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CBLENS 6/20/2013 6:38AM

    There is nothing wrong with not wanting children. Good for you to stand up for yourself.

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LOVINGAFRICA 6/20/2013 5:54AM

    I never wanted kids. My funny metabolic system and hormones kicked me in the butt. Had more than 3x contraceptive fails, now have 3 kids.
I really did not know that I would be the great mom I am. I also did not know that i would love them so much, and that the selfless mother love could be so rewarding and scary.
For me it was the best thing that could have happened.
But I know that everybody should not have kids, and would hate it.
I also think that you know yourself better at your age than I did. So you rock on Girlfriend.
Nobody should even comment on anybody's kids, lack of kids, or not wanting kids, unless it is possitive and affirming.
(And in some small way all parents envy you sometimes, when Crazy strikes)

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BRADMILL2922 6/20/2013 1:25AM

    I love the visual of someone just standing there in open mouthed awe after you said that you would rather die! Lol! But you are right, kids aren't for everyone so people should respect that decision!

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COCK-ROBIN 6/20/2013 1:17AM

    Very good!

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