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Why I Relay For Life

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

My husband and I lost a very close friend two months ago...just 10 weeks shy of his 50th B-Day. He had had leukemia, but ultimately died from frequent bouts of a result of a compromised immune system due to the chemotherapy treatments to fight the cancer. My dear friend, Dominique, had suggested that we get a team together and participate in the local Relay For Life event, thinking that it may give closure. What a wonderful idea! So, we got our team together. We registered. We asked family, friends and co-workers to join us and/or to donate. We started going to the regularly scheduled meetings. We were looking forward to sharing in this event.

Last Thursday evening, June 13th, we had a meeting. I tried getting in touch with Dom later that afternoon, but she did not return my calls and/or texts. Dom rarely forgets appointments, but life happens. I went to the meeting alone. I tried contacting Dom again after the meeting to bring her up-to-date, but nothing. An hour later, I received a phone call from Dom's ex-boyfriend (my husband's good friend) that Dom had passed away late that afternoon.

I have been in a world of agony since receiving this dreadful news and have been left totally numb. Last night was Dom's Memorial Service. A friend of ours, who is on our team, asked me this evening if we would still be participating in this Relay For Life event this week-end. "I hadn't even thought about that...totally slipped my mind.". However, I've since been giving it some thought and have decided to follow through with remembrance of Dominique. Dom did not die of cancer, nor did she have cancer, but...this was something that she had suggested and that we began together.

My husband and I have lost others to cancer (besides Mineo). Perhaps you, too, have been affected by cancer in some way...or, will in the future. This RELAY FOR LIFE event gives us the power to make a difference and to fight back. This is our opportunity to honor cancer survivors, to remember those we have lost and to help raise funds for research, information and services for those currently fighting a battle with cancer.

I will be participating on June 22-23, 2013 at Juniper Valley Park in Middle Village, NY and would appreciate your support with an online donation.

If you would like to make a donation or dedicate a luminaria, please do so here:

Thank you!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
KNYAGENYA 6/19/2013 2:37PM

    I'm sorry for your loss. emoticon

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BEACH_NUT 6/19/2013 2:07PM

  emoticon all for your comments and support.

Going to be bittersweet doing it without my bestie by my side, but...she'll be there with me in thought and with her gracious spirit!

This is for all of us...those lost and those fighting and, those whom have overcome.

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STRONG_SARAH 6/19/2013 1:23AM

    Yes, go for it! It's a good thing to do, even though your heart is heavy you are helping other people. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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JIACOLO 6/18/2013 11:20PM

    11 years ago I stood at my first RFL and listened to my brother speak about his journey through living with brain cancer. I had never really heard him talk about it before. There he was in his grass skirt and coconut bra talking about what life was like for him in front of hundreds of people, mostly strangers. Being the Survivor Speaker that year, he then led off the Survivor Lap. I could not have been more proud of him than that night. He inspired our whole family to Relay for him, for his fight against cancer. Jan taught me so much about living life to the fullest and fighting with everything you have in you.

Last year I took on the position as Event Chair for our newly established community Relay in our town. I haven't regretted this decision in my two years serving as chair. I know my brother would be proud of the success I have helped bring about in the fight against cancer. Your friend will be proud of you for continuing on this journey you two started.

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SISTERPRETTY 6/18/2013 11:12PM

    My brother and I also participate and run on behave of our mother who died of cancer 11 years now. So emoticon for supporting the cause

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SISTERPRETTY 6/18/2013 11:09PM

    emoticon on your decision to still run after your condolences

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SNIC23 6/18/2013 11:08PM

    I have typed and erased several times a reply to this blog and nothing seems to come out right. I just want to say that I think it's wonderful that you are going ahead with your plans this weekend, especially because it's something you started together.

Cancer is a tough one and it devastates so many people. I believe it's important to fight back any way we know how.

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SISTERPRETTY 6/18/2013 11:07PM

    Oh no emoticon emoticon

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