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Over 10 answers to my ad about needing a health aide!

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

I had no idea there would be so many answers. emoticon This is a good thing, of course. But I am very tired. The first 7 or 8 times it was fun talking to people. Now I am exhausted!

I asked for someone for 2 days each week to work 3 hours each day. I asked them to
make lunch for DH, take him for a walk, do his exercises with him, get him the 100 little things he needs each day, chat with him, maybe clean up after incontinence if needed, etc. etc. I will be out some money but not as much as when I used agency aides each morning and evening. I will keep the great agency aide in the morning.

I am so relieved. The first person to answer the ad was divine! I already interviewed her.

Up till now I never could find someone close enough to come for only a couple of hours . If they drive too far, it isn't worth it to them. I can understand that. So in the ad I asked for someone local to our town. That worked well. People who have been answering the ad are either older , retired, or in school for nursing or for being a licensed aide. All have had experience. One person just had knee surgery. I doubt that that person will work out. emoticon

I think I tried an ad once before but had no luck. And before I was too exhausted to handle all these phone calls. DH has been in the hospital and then in rehab. He isn't home yet. So I have had a few weeks to get my strength back.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MAYBER 6/19/2013 11:59PM

    Chris am so happy for you and your response to your ad
Just do not want to do that here where we live in a metro area
Have had a bad experience with private agency aide she was a smoker and was not very knowledgeable about bath time for my DH
think have convinced our children that I can do it myself
and will have Catholic Charity volunteers come in twice a week to give me respite
Taking one day at a time
Love Prayers Peace

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 6/19/2013 6:03PM

    emoticon good job on taking care of things
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  This is really a job in itself getting someone to help you. I sure do hope you get what you want quickly. emoticon

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SOAPSTRESS1 6/19/2013 1:03PM

    I am glad you are getting some help. Make sure they are either licensed in your state, you can call your state or even on the computer look up their license and if they have had any problems the state took action on. If not licensed and a student of nursing make sure they at least completed one semester of nursing school clinical. The first semester they will learn the basics and most nursing facilities will not hire til they at least have the first semester and they know about body mechanics ect. I'm a Rn I think I told you that before so if you have any questions feel free to send me a sparkmail. emoticon

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GINA180847 6/19/2013 12:17PM

    So glad you found a good person. This is something I used to do and it is a great job as long as one is suited to the client. One thing to keep in mind is that if some physical work is involved like lifts that the person is large and strong enough. I often tackled people I was not really big enough to lift and that is bad. I am barely 5' and it was iffy.

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LOOKINGUP2012 6/19/2013 12:00PM

    So glad you are able to find someone to help him when he gets home. emoticon

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IAMWINNING 6/19/2013 11:20AM

    Oh, how God has blessed you. I'm so happy for you and for your DH as he will adjust to the new way of things. I hope you get well-rested before he gets home, and the aides work out really well for you both.

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MARITIMER3 6/19/2013 10:51AM

    So glad that you have found some possible caregivers. I'm sure your DH will be glad to get home again.

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IOEINC 6/19/2013 10:26AM

    That is such great news Chris!! You really do need the respite care. Caretakers need to care for themselves. I took care of my mom for a year before she passed away and being a nurse, thought I could do it all. While it was totally worth it to me being in a position to be able to care for my wonderful mother, it was completely exhausting and I never did take care of myself properly. I am glad that I never had to get hospice involved until the very end. I do have to agree though do a thorough background check when bringing someone into your home. Check references too. Just a precaution but it will give you peace of mind when you find that just right person.

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GRNDMOM43 6/19/2013 9:09AM

    I am glad that you are having some success. It will be good to have the help. emoticon

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PYNETREE 6/19/2013 8:18AM

    Wishing you luck to find just the right person as an aide. It is wise of you to start looking now.
Also put a card up at the Nursing Home or place he is at now. Or if you have a Medical Tech School near a Card on their Bulletin Board.

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1STATEOFDENIAL 6/19/2013 4:42AM

    Are you looking for someone with some kind of schooling? Are you planning on doing a background check? How about creating a contract with them for their services? The one bad part about not going through an agency and bringing a stranger into your home is that you have to do your due diligence to weed out anyone who is a potential hazzard or problem. Having a contract explaining what their duties are, what the pay will be, and explaining it is an at-will employment so you can fire them with no notice should they do something bad enough could save you a lot of problems in the future. The last thing you want is to leave a stranger in your house and have them take advantage of you and your husband. Just be careful.

Hopefully you'll get a great person who will be a wonderful fit and will be completely trustworthy. I just know how easy it is to end up with a person who is none of those things and not have any recourse even when they were hired by an agency.

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SUSIEPH1 6/19/2013 4:25AM

    How wonderful Chris, so glad you found someone to help with DH . I am also happy that you are getting some much needed rest ..
Caring for our Hubby's is so exhausting .. Both mentally and physically.
Thinking of you my friend .. Much Love Susie emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DJ4HEALTH 6/19/2013 12:45AM

    That is great!!

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NANCYPAT1 6/19/2013 12:36AM

    That is fantastic for you. I KNOW you needed the break that rehab has provided for you to rest, regain your focus, and return to your very blessed and special self. I am almost jumping for JOY for you.

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123ELAINE456 6/19/2013 12:09AM

  Great News. I hope the Aides work out for You with DH. You need much needed Rest, Relaxation and time to do the things you want to do. 'God Blessings To You and Everyone. Have a Super Nice Day. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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GRAMMAP1 6/19/2013 12:05AM

    That is a great answer to getting the help you need. I hope that works well for you and DH. It would work well for people that don't want to get involved in long hours. I may use that system to help us get ready for assisted living. Thanks for the idea. emoticon Jane

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WALLAHALLA 6/18/2013 10:33PM

    emoticon good news

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FROSTY99 6/18/2013 10:14PM

    Wonderful that you got so many responses and hopefully you will find just the perfect one so that you can get some rest and me time-being a caregiver 24/7 can totally wear the caregiver out.

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    Finding the right person is what matters and one that you can trust. Take some time to breath and rest.

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IGSBETH 6/18/2013 9:40PM

    Good luck!

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TRYNAGAIN194 6/18/2013 8:36PM

glad you found someone .
I used to work as a Home Health aide. The job is rewarding . I still miss some of the people I assisted. I do hope all works out for you.

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KACAR51 6/18/2013 8:04PM

    emoticon You need a break! emoticon

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KATHARINE1948 6/18/2013 7:52PM

    I am so happy you have a aide Chris .Good for you that you get a mini break from it all.

you need rest & quaLITY TIME .

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