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Drama - Why Me?

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

The past couple of years have been very stressful for me due to a family situation. There has been a lot of drama involved. One place I have tried to work through the stress and drama has been the gym. I have made some friends there and know most of the wonderful staff.
I train with two different trainers, one on Mondays, one on Fridays. Both have been so helpful and supportive.
Last Monday, while training, a young guy kept hitting on my trainer. He kept walking by telling her she looked beautiful. At the end of the session, he asked her to go out with him in front of me and 4 other people in the training room. It was awkward. He is several years younger than my trainer and she does not want to get involved with anyone from the gym, as she works there.
The gym has a policy that only people working with a trainer can use the special training room. It is open on both sides so people can see or walk in easily.
Yesterday as I was training in there, this same guy dragged a bench into the room, placing it right in front the TRX machine which we were using during the rotation. He left the room, so my trainer moved it out of the way. WHen he returned, she told him we were using that machine. He asked for how long, she said two more sets at least. He stood there staring at me as I was training. It made me feel very uncomfortable and awkward.
After a couple of minutes,my trainer told him we were not going to change our schedule of workout exercises to suit him, because only people with a trainer were allowed to use this room. He began to argue with her. WHen he said he had permission to be in there, I flipped out. I pay a lot of extra money to work with trainers. Now he is not only wasting my time, but abusing the privilege. I said, "I'll go find out if you have permission". I went up to the desk and they knew I was upset. I explained the situation and told them he was arguing with my trainer. Two of the staff accompanied me back to the training room. WHen he saw them he said, "I'm out of here" and left. They asked the trainer if she was ok and told us they would have a talk with him about gym policies.
I finished my session. When I got home, after running errands and walking my grand dog, there was a message from the manager of the gym, apologizing for the incident, telling me they had talked with the offender, and she wanted to make sure I was ok.
I am feeling a bit weird about going to the gym today, wondering if that guy is going to take it out on me in some way. I have friends there and the staff is great, but I still am a bit anxious.
It will not keep me home, but I am sorry this happened to the one place that has been a stress reliever for me.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SWEET-SUE 4/26/2014 2:58PM

    Demon possessed...creepy...eeeeeekkkkkkk.

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GGRANLDY 7/10/2013 7:25PM

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    You are spot one right and should hold your chin up. Sounds like the guy should really be escorted out for good.

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AMY-MIMI77 6/25/2013 6:22PM

    So glad that you spoke up and sorry about the experience
You definitely deserve every minute of what you pay for and don't deserve his rudeness


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AQUAGIRL08 6/24/2013 12:30PM

    I'm so sorry that you had to go through this in the one place you have that is a "stress free zone". It isn't like you need more stress in your life or something. Hopefully the gym will take care of the situation and you. It is their job to make sure you have a safe, stress-free place to work out. Kudos to you for speaking up. He was using your paid training time which is unacceptable! If it happens again, you should tell him that you will go to the desk and ask them to bill HIM for your personal training time. I can't believe that your trainer is the only attractive female this guy has been hitting on. It is obvious that he can't take rejection and refuses to give up. I guess all you can do right now is take a deep breathe and just move on. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ELECTRICITY3699 6/24/2013 9:44AM

    So glad you spoke up! What a jerk, but you handled it great. Hope he doesn't bother anyone again!

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DEBI60X60 6/19/2013 9:34PM

    Good for you, standing up for yourself! I hope everything works out okay and the creep does not return. Enjoy your workouts! emoticon

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DOREENKNIGHT64 6/19/2013 1:00PM

    You handled the situation with assertiveness, which was just right. You have the support of the gym staff and your trainer, which is right too.

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RUNNER4LIFE08 6/19/2013 12:00PM

    Good for you for standing up for yourself and your PAID time with your trainer. That bothered me when people would interrupt my training time as well because you pay for the gym membership but you are paying EXTRA for a personal trainer. So I am glad you said something.

Don't let this guy win and bring you down or discourage you about your gym time. You have every right to be there and feel comfortable because that is what you are paying for.

I had a situation once with a gym member. She was a very friendly lady and would always talk to my friend and I. One day though she snubbed us and did not say hi. We just thought that she didn't hear us. The next time we saw her, we said hi again. She snubbed us yet again. So around Christmas week we saw her in the weight room and my friend went up to her and was going to wish her a good Christmas. She blew up at us saying that we are harassing her and stalking her. WHAT!!!!


We told the front desk and found out that she did that to our gym's cleaning lady too. So we stayed clear of her and have not said a word to her since. It did make us feel uncomfortable but we knew we did nothing wrong and we pay for this membership so we weren't going to let her ruin it for us. It was very weird though....

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VALYNN26 6/19/2013 9:42AM

    Good for you standing up for yourself!! I think you handled the situation very appropriately! Shine bright diamond girl!

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WALLAHALLA 6/18/2013 10:43PM

    bummer...glad you spoke up...this guy obviously has issues

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FORBANDE 6/18/2013 10:37PM

    You are right to feel anxious. A person like that guy seems to have very little boundaries. I'm guessing though it will pass. Since there were many people involved, he will be watched and made to be on his best behavior.

I'm glad you are not letting this stop you from going. It shouldn't. I imagine it will be "old news" soon. Hang in there!!! You are awesome!

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ANNMACP0212 6/18/2013 10:03PM

    You did the right thing!! Gotta stand up for yourself!!

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OKBACK2ME 6/18/2013 9:54PM

    Ruthie it was right to go and ask, it also alerted them to potential trouble from the guy. emoticon

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ORCHIDLADY56 6/18/2013 9:43PM

    Good for you for standing up for yourself and your trainer! If he has treated the two of you that way, heaven only knows how many other people he has offended and abused there! I bet the staff and other gym members are relieved that someone had the courage to finally get this jerk to behave.
Hold your head high, and enjoy those well earned workouts!

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SASSYLJB 6/18/2013 9:32PM

    Ruthie you did the right thing! I am very proud of you to standing up for what is truly right! If the gym handle it right you should have no further run ins with I will say loosely the young man! Stay strong Diamond Girl!

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TKOVACH1 6/18/2013 8:57PM

    You handled it just right. Hopefully he won't bother you again and will adhere to the gym's policies.

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1CRAZYDOG 6/18/2013 8:32PM

    You did the right thing. They undoubtedly followed their protocol for such situations. I am sure they'll keep a wary eye out for this guy. Sounds like a hustler to me. Oh well, glad at least he was talked to. I imagine your trainer was mighty uncomfortable as well.

HUGS and good for you for keeping your resolve to go back regardless.

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SAM60SUMTHINK 6/18/2013 3:31PM

    Ruthie, your decision to be proactive and address the right people, get them to the location, was absolutely the best approach to that situation. Ok, there is no way of knowing what a stalker-type (which he apparently IS!) may do, but frankly I think his interest in your trainer is too fixed to be diverted to you.

Best to continue with your trainer and simply (?simply!?) be on the alert for his presence either in the room or watching through the windows; if he continues to even WATCH, the manager should be notified discreetly. Indeed, this was drama. I feel sorry for the trainer and hope she takes precautions in the parking lot and by driving circuitous route when going home?

Stress stinks. Keep on using your gym, and... I hope they are giving you some free time with your trainer/s for the inconvenience and stress that should have been avoided and handled by staff, not you!! You are such an inspiration to me, my friend!
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SHANSHE 6/18/2013 1:11PM

    Good for you for standing up for yourself, but I totally understand being stressed about the situation. I pray he leaves everyone alone and that the drama will stop!

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 6/18/2013 12:46PM

    Ruthie, I'm glad you stood up for yourself and complained about this guy. I hope he just lets it go and you can now workout without him there.

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FIT4MEIN2013 6/18/2013 12:22PM

    It can still be a stress reliever. Look at the positive that you have done! I doubt the guy will be allowed back at the gym if he does this again. You have saved someone else from this harassment. Good for you! emoticon

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PINKNFITCARLA 6/18/2013 11:29AM

    Ruthie, what a terrible thing to happen! I think you handled it wonderfully and I really hope you hear nothing more from him. Hang in there!

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PHATPAT18 6/18/2013 11:02AM

    Stay strong, you were right. If he bothers you again, you can have him kicked out. emoticon

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JULENA1 6/18/2013 10:44AM

    You made the best choice when you reported him to the staff. Hopefully if he starts trouble again they will make him leave for good.

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MISSG180 6/18/2013 10:40AM

    Don't let him keep you away! He was completely in the wrong, and the gym is aware of it now. You will get support.

Creepsters are frustrating. Sorry you're going through that.

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NILLAPEPSI 6/18/2013 10:39AM

    That guy was a total jerk!!! To interrupt your trainer so that time is taken away from you -- time that you PAY for, is inexcusable. I can be pretty fiesty, like a Chihuahua with a Pit Bull attitude. I would walk my butt into that gym, head held high & DARE him to say anything to me.

Put on your Pit Bull attitude. If you need to, you can borrow mine. emoticon emoticon

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PATJOONWW 6/18/2013 10:35AM

    I would have done the same thing! You pay alot of money for a trainer and for him to waste your time with her is not right. And when he ran like a baby proves he should not have been there. Rules are rules for everyone.

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX12 6/18/2013 10:29AM

    Hope things are back to normal when you go back to the gym. emoticon

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CARRAND 6/18/2013 10:26AM

    Wow, what a bummer! i can understand how you feel. But don't give up something you love because of one bad apple. I think the gym will handle this guy for you and hopefully keep him out of your way entirely.

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KITT52 6/18/2013 9:44AM

    Ruthie you have a right to feel weird about this, hopefully that person is gone....
see how it goes, maybe things will be back to the norm if not you have every right to complain and if so ask for a different trainer....hopefully it won't come to that..

Our daughter is a personal trainer and she tells us about things like this....some people thing because they pay there dues they can do what ever they want....

let us know how it goes....

have a good work out

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DROWSYMAGGIE 6/18/2013 9:25AM

    Ruthie, I am sorry to hear that this happened to you. I know how much your time at the gym means to you.
It's good that you stood up for yourself and your trainer. Employees might try to handle a troublemaker with kid gloves but once a customer steps up like you did then they have to take steps.
I understand about you being leary of this guy now. He is probably more upset with the gym and the trainer who spurned his advances than with you but keep alert all the same.
That gym is YOURS and no punk with a bad attitude is going to get in the way of you and your workouts.

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RAINBOWMF 6/18/2013 9:17AM

    It is good that you handled the situation. I do feel how ever that your trainer should have taken care of this guy, she should have went to staff, not let you get all upset.

You go back to the gym with your head held high and if that guy is around your just turn your back on him.

Hugs Mary

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BUSYGRANNY5 6/18/2013 9:00AM

    Good for you for handling the situation! Get yourself right back to the gym and don't stress over this person! You ARE in the right and the gym stood by YOU!!! Keep on keeping on!!

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CLASSYLADYMAY 6/18/2013 8:36AM

    Hey girl you did the right thing. Remember it's not your fault so you shouldn't feel uneasy or bad. ! I am glad you told them so that won't happen again. ! Just keep working out. And ignore that person. You are awesome for being strong and complaining !

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CAROLCRC 6/18/2013 8:16AM

    Sounds like you handled it very appropriately.

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