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My Fiance is 28 and developed Shingles due to Stress (I am scared)

Monday, June 17, 2013

I found out to today that my fiance (28 years old) has Shingles along with his panic disorder and stomach problems. I am super worried because his stress is literally taking a huge toll on his body, while I am healthy as a horse. I feel very anxious about this and needed to vent to people that understand this type of thing. I've talked to him about exercising, but he probably won't. I told him that cardio and strength training are beneficial to the body, especially stress but I doubt he will do it. Honestly, I do not want to marry and have children with someone that is constantly battling stress related illnesses. That sounds harsh, but it is true. I love him and I do not know how to cope or talk him into exercising. He is on an anti-anxiety med, but it does not seem to work. I feel powerless, angry at him, resentful, and worried. Thanks for listening, any advice for this type of thing would be very much appreciated.

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MAMAJAHMAI 6/18/2013 4:33PM

    Talk to him, coax him into taking long walks, going swimming, rollerblading- simple activities that you spend time together and talk. I agree. This healthy way of life is one of your core values- he needs to understand that. Hang in there ((((hugs))))

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CHANGINGSAM 6/18/2013 3:22PM

    Aw, I'm sorry you are dealing with this. However, I think communication is key. Talk with him about it. Maybe if he's willing to change, you guys can do it together.

I support both of the previous comments too. They've got some good insight.

Hope things work out. emoticon

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AUNTIEANNE22 6/17/2013 8:34PM

  Sounds like you may need some premarital counseling to work through these issues. If he knows how this could affect your future plans, he might be more willing to try some things to reduce his stress.

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DONDAIN 6/17/2013 4:26PM

    Love him, talk to him, explain to him. You cannot force him. And then lead by example. Show him how happy and not stressed you are because you exercise and eat right. Make him healthy meals when you can. Give it some time. You may eventually have to make a choice between you and your health and him. But let him know that he is choosing poor health instead of you and good health, or if not good health at least better health. Explain to him that you don't want to watch him die by inches. Start out small, like walking after dinner when it is cooler or in the morning with a fresh start to the day.

Good luck

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