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Let Me Add to My Blog of This Morning on Control. . .

Sunday, June 16, 2013

I sometimes don't get personal enough in my blogs. My loss of control started in my marriage. I just explained this to someone who blogged about her problems in hers right now and realized I could expound on my blog and show just where it all started with me.

I figured if my DH didn't do anything illegal or it wasn't too costly, I would let it go by the boards. Then I had balance and there wasn't that power struggle that goes on in so many marriages or relationships. But I didn't see just how much I was giving up of myself. There was no real communication in my marriage.

Then, he up and died nearly two years ago and what I experienced at the onset was a complete unrealistic position in which I found myself. I was overwhelmed, in a daze and felt disconnected, like I was in an out of body state. I was always a pretty independent person and in perfect control of myself. It took awhile for me to realize just how much of myself I had given up and how costly it had become - weightwise and my health. Along the way, had experienced a great deal of stress, so,in desperation, I realized I had been under a lot of stress for the 35 yrs. of my marriage, so I finally went to a chiropractor, almost as soon as I could after his death, because I knew I needed his kind of help!

What I am saying, too, is that a person like myself had to learn where I had started to lose "that control" to finish the picture. It helps along the road. . .

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PRAIRIECROCUS 6/23/2013 1:49AM


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POLYANNA2 6/17/2013 11:53PM

    So many of us women lose ourselves in relationships. Personally, I was a totally different person when I was raising my boys. Once they left the nest, it was very difficult for a while, but I found myself again and have been enjoying the new selfish me This is YOUR time, Helen, and I hope you can enjoy every second of it.

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    Very interesting that you decided you needed a chirpractor. I have often considered a chiropractor myself.

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NILLAPEPSI 6/17/2013 10:17AM

    Once you figure out what the issue is, it makes it so much easier to fix it. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PATRICIAAK 6/16/2013 11:52PM

    IMHO, understanding leads to a better ability to have the future the want.
My belated condolences about the loss of your husband.

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    Yes, those early roads are definitely important to remember. Mine have gone back to childhood.

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