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Sunday, June 16, 2013

I used to think that if I wasn't perfectly on track 100% of the time, I was "doing it wrong" or a "failure". I believed that if I made one mistake with my eating, or skipped exercise for one day, I might as well eat whatever i wanted and give up. I would feel so guilty and bad about myself that I would just start eating and that would be the end of my attempt. I thought that I would always be fat, so why bother?

I have come to see this pattern of thinking as the root of my weight problem. I gave up way too easily, because I really thought I couldn't do it. I thought I had to be perfect.

But lately I have come to realize that although I am not perfect, that's totally okay, because neither is anyone else. There are plenty of people that have lost weight and kept it off and NONE of them did it by being perfect. They made mistakes, fell down, picked themselves up and kept trudging on.

I don't have to be perfect. And neither do you. All we have to do is keep trying.

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    is overrated. my new phrase for the summer is "good enough" emoticon
    1708 days ago
  • SCRAP317
    Yep - my new mantra is "better not perfect" choices.
    1712 days ago
    This is absolutely so true! I have recently learned that same lesson--don't have to be perfect! It's okay to miss a day of working out once in a while if you need a break or to eat a treat now and then. Not the end of the world. Congrats for realizing this. It will help you to reach your goals all that much faster! emoticon
    1712 days ago
    You have learned one of the valuable keys to success.
    1713 days ago
    Glad you've realized it. No one is perfect, just need to love your self and love yourself enough to keep going. emoticon emoticon
    1713 days ago
  • ANNIE924
    So true, I tend to think its "all or nothing" also, but I'm gradually changing this mindset.

    I am changing my lifestyle and one slip does not negate all the positive changes I have made. Thank you for the timely reminder.

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    1713 days ago
    You are correct! No one is perfect and we are learning to control our urges to over eat, eating unhealthy crap and eating too much. emoticon emoticon

    emoticon Much success on your journey! emoticon

    1713 days ago
    Perfectionism is my biggest weakness, and it's a hard thing to come to terms with and overcome!
    1713 days ago
  • MARIANNE9855
    thanks for the great blog- perfectionism derails me all the time - this is just what I needed to read to keep pulling myself up out of my funk! emoticon emoticon
    1713 days ago
    You nailed it! If we need perfection to attain our goals, that would mean that everyone who is at a healthy weight must be totally perfect.......hahaha NOT. When I was at a healthy weight, I ate junk food, skipped meals, etc. No way was I thin from eating perfectly, and "all" thin people don't eat perfectly either. This way of learning healthy habits over time is much better. I totally get what you're saying~ I used to "start over" constantly, because of one slip-up. For me, I think it was an unconcious excuse to have "one last day" of bad eating, until "starting over" from perfect. Same with excercise. Now, I make my choices and move on, for one continuous journey. I read somewhere that we have a holi-DAY or birth-DAY, not a holi-week or a holi-month LOL. One day will not add 10 lbs. Keep going strong! emoticon
    1714 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/16/2013 1:04:40 PM
  • CHERYLA2012
    Perfectionism will drive you mad. Yes it's attainable, but definitely not sustainable.

    Glad that you're doing the work you need to do to become the healthiest you can be!
    1714 days ago
    Amen, Sister!!! Totally agree with the idea that perfectionism is the root of the problem for many of us. Everything amazing is accomplished by imperfect people... because all of us are imperfect. Thanks for the reminder.

    1714 days ago
    Very wise words
    1714 days ago
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