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Depressed, Discouraged, Disguisted!!!!!

Sunday, June 16, 2013

I am depressed because this is the first Father's Day without my Dad. He passed in March, and I miss him terribly! I am trying to stay focused on the fact that I was blessed with a wonderful father; so many people are not.

I am discouraged because I have increased my exercise and have been sticking to my plan, and I actually gained weight! Can't say I lost inches, because my clothes are tighter than ever!

I am disgusted because I seem to be going nowhere, and I have given up bread and sweets and have gotten no results, and weighed a pound more today than when I started.

Getting ready to throw in the towel, or maybe I should just throw out the scale, or maybe both!!!

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JANTWO 6/17/2013 12:30AM

    Hey PLEASE DO NOT GIVE UP!!!! My weight loss has been slow too. I miss my daddy, want to cry for him and my mother. My daddy died March 1997. I miss him so very much. My mother died when I was 18.
They would want the best for us. You know that. Hang in there with me please and let us kick this depression out of the park!!!! emoticon

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KERRYG155 6/16/2013 6:11PM

    I'm so sorry you don't have your dad with you today at least in person. I'll agree that sometimes when you begin exercising there is a weight gain-just keep doing it and try some different things. Do you use the food trackers? I shouldn't be giving any advice right now since I'm on vacation and will probably come home with a gain but I will say to keep tracking and eat the healthy things and keep on exercising. emoticon

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KACAR51 6/16/2013 1:26PM

    Dont give up! I am going through the same thing! When we start a new exercise program we do Gain weight at first! But it is a GOOD gain, because it is muscle! While it is frustrating to see that on the scale, it is helping you to be able to burn more fat in the long run! Stick with it! You will see results! emoticon emoticon

I lost my Dad in 1992 and I still grieve for him. and miss him! But like you said, I was blessed with a wonderful dad and I can remember him that way! emoticon emoticon

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SUGARSMOM2 6/16/2013 1:15PM

  on this first fathers day without your father I am sending you a friendly pat on your back .I know how it feels to miss your dad . I to also lost my dad , no I did not misplace him . He passed away almost ten years ago . I can not believe how long ago it was but the pain is still as fresh as yesterday . On days like today when others are honoring their fathers I turn my thoughts to happy days . I miss his loud voice and big frame he filled a room with his presence . bigger then life was my father . sadly missed . emoticon emoticon m

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CIRANDELLA 6/16/2013 1:11PM

    First and foremost, I want to send you lots and lots of virtual emoticon today especially, Jo, because sometimes, what's normal (especially for a loving, caring daughter like you) feels agonizing and really depressing. You lost a dad whom, I can tell, you deeply loved and cherished, and Father's Day has a way of revitalizing and deepening that pain of loss... So my heart goes out to you today. My own dad has been gone for 11 years now, and I was more away today of the ways life feels diminished now that he's gone. It helped, though, that I had found a couple of hilarious Father's Day cards for both my husband and brother...neither of whom has ever been a dad :) So doing that made me much, much happier.

As for the exercise and lack of weight loss, my own experience has been that tracking my food intake and sticking to a level of calories that would ensure my weight loss is what enabled me to lose weight. I am limited in what I can do physically, so although I do some strength exercises every day and a little walking, that's scarcely enough to really burn calories. Yet I'm at goal weight and have been for 2+ years's only because I track every bite that I eat. Sounds obsessive - and it is! - but it's the only thing that worked for me. If you've been diligent about tracking your food intake, though, and are still unable to lose weight, talk to your doctor. You may have a thyroid or other metabolic abnormality, and most of these can be corrected. We women are more prone to hypothyroidism as we age - in fact, my internist always checks my thyroid level several times a year. It's fine, fortunately, but he checks it anyway, which is fine with me.

So focus on that food intake even more than exercise and see what happens...let me know, okay? All the best to you, dearest Jo, on this difficult day... I'd do anything if I could just bring our dads back. - Susan emoticon

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CYND59 6/16/2013 1:06PM

    I miss my dad also. I hope you feel better. Hugs! emoticon

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