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SPARK COACH SAY'S TO DO A BLOG SO HERE I AM

Saturday, June 15, 2013

COACH SAY IMAGINE YOU EXERCISE EVERYDAY AND HOW DO YOU FEEL?
WELL I DO AND HAVE BEEN FOR SEVERAL YEARS AND AM REALLY PROUD OF MYSELF FOR THAT.
THEN WHY DO I FEEL SO DOWN WELL LAST NIGHT MY HUBBY LET ALL HIS FEELINGS OUT HOW HE WAS SO PROUD OF ME WHEN I LOST WEIGHT AND THOUGHT MAYBE HE SHOULDN'T HAVE SAID ANYTHING CAUSE I PUT IT ALL BACK ON.
I KNOW HE IS TRYING TO HELP BUT GOING ABOUT IT ALL THE WRONG WAY I FEEL SO DOWN LIKE I AM NOT WORTH ANYTHING.
I KNOW IT IS JUST AN EXCUSE BUT I LOST 30 GAINED IT ALL BACK AND A LITTLE MORE ALL THAT HARD WORK DOWN THE TUBES AND HAVE TO START AGIN AND JUST CAN'T GET THIS MIND SET TO DO IT.
SO HARD ALL THE FOOD AND BAD FOOD ALL AROUND YOU ON A DAILY BASIS.
I STOPPED BLOGGING CAUSE I FELL LIKE ALL I AM DOING IS REPEATING MYSELF OVER AND OVER.
FEEL LIKE WHAT IS THE REASON TO BE HERE!
ONE DAY AND ONE STEP AT A TIME I KEEP TELLING EVERYONE ELSE WELL TIME TO DO IT FOR MYSELF.
IT IS NOT GOING TO BE EASY BUT I GOT TO DO THIS AND FOR ME NO ONE ELSE!
I HAVE NO WILL POWER WHAT SO EVER NONE!
I DO THE TALK BUT NOW HAVE TO WALK THE WALK.
AND REMEMBER HOW I FELT LOOSING THAT WEIGHT AND GETTING ALL THE COMPLIMENTS YES IT FELT GOOD GETTING ALL THOSE CLOTHES IN SMALLER SIZES. AND NOT BAGGY CLOTHES TRYING TO HIDE THIS BODY.
SO HARD LOOKING FOR CLOTHES AND NOTHING FITS AT ALL.
OK I AM GOING TO TRY LETS SEE WHAT HAPPENS.
WISH ME LUCK CAUSE I HATE THE FUNK I AM IN RIGHT NOW FEEL LIKE PEOPLE STARING AT ME LIKE NO ONE LIKES ME FOR WHO I AM! FEEL WORTHLESS NOT GOOD AT ALL.

GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE OUT THERE THAT IS WHY WE ARE ALL HERE CAN TALK TO ALL OF YOU BECAUSE YOU ALL KNOW WHERE I AM COMING FROM.
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NOSNACKER-57 7/13/2013 4:55AM

    First thanks for stopping by my blog soooo I thought I'd stop by your page. I hope you are finding yourself in better spirits? I'm in the same boat as you as well as most other, lost all the weight felt great, just to gain it all back and then some.

I wanted to share, that one thing I have changed in the past week is eating in the living room, watching TV. Do you do that? I found a free e-book that I read and applied a couple of the principles and it seems to be having an emotional effect on me in a good way. I eat breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks at the table. I can liquids in the living room only.

Setting this boundary is hard, but my mindless eating lend itself to overeating and night time binging.

Just a thought!

Come check out my blueprint for fat loss, I believe I have the free e-book listed there. A quick and good read.

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CYBERCITYSHELL 7/9/2013 7:32AM

    THAT IS SO COOL THAT YOU EXERCISE EVERY DAY CHAR- emoticon emoticon GOOD ON YOU!!!
THANKS FOR VISITING MY BLOG .. YOU SAID ON YOUR PAGE YOU LIKE GOING TO PEOPLES PAGES AND ENCOURAGING THEM. THAT IS SO NICE OF YOU CHAR. I THINK YOU SOUND REALLY NICE .
SOMETIMES IT IS EASY FOR US TO COMPLIMENT OTHER PEOPLE WHICH IS GREAT, BUT WE NEED TO BE NICE TO OURSELVES AS WELL.
THAT IS GREAT THAT YOUR HUSBAND COMPLIMENTED YOU WHEN YOU LOST WEIGHT. AND HE PROBABLY WAS MEANING TO BE HELPFUL WHEN HE SAID HOW YOU HAD PUT IT BACK ON. PEOPLE OFTEN MEAN WELL BUT THEY SAY THE WRONG THINGS.
I THINK IT ID GOOD YOU WROTE A BLOG. BECAUSE YOU ARE WRITING DOWN YOUR FEELINGS,AND THAT CAN BE REALLY THERAPEUTIC. I FIND FOR ME IT IS. ALSO WHEN WE BLOG WE ARE PUTTING OUR FEELINGS OUT THERE, AND IT IS LIKE ACKNOWLEDGING THEM.
I THINK YOU WERE PROBABLY HAVING A BAD DAY WHEN YOU WROTE THIS CHAR. AND WE ALL HAVE BAD DAYS. BAD DAYS CAN WORK IN OUR FAVOUR IN THE WAY THAT THEY TELL US WHAT WE NEED TO WORK ON . AND IT'S THE BAD DAYS THAT MAKE US APPRECIATE THE GOOD DAYS.
YOU CAN DO IT, JUST LIKE YOU DID BEFORE. YOU ARE GOOD AT DOING YOUR EXERCISES AND YOU ARE GOOD AT EATING YOUR FRUIT AND VEGES. AS YOU SAID ONE STEP, AND ONE DAY AT A TIME. AND A BAD DAY IS SIMPLY THAT-ONE BAD DAY. emoticon emoticon


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LMSW55 6/15/2013 2:34PM

    CHAR, I USE CAPS ALL THE TIME MYSELF BECAUSE MY OLD EYES READ EASIER WITH CAPS.
NOW, TO YOUR BLOG...I COMMEND YOU FOR ARTICULATING YOUR FEELINGS IN A WAY THAT WE ALL CAN RELATE TO AND UNDERSTAND. I HAVE LOST 35 POUNDS ON JENNY CRAIG. HOWEVER, OVER THE PAST 6-8 WEEKS, I HAVE BEGUN TO FEEL LIKE I AM "IN A FUNK" AND AS A RESULT HAVE STOPPED CARING. I THINK PART OF IT IS MY SOCIAL WORK WITH NATIVE AMERICANS. I HAVE ALLOWED MYSELF TO BE "DRAINED" BY THEIR PROBLEMS AND IT HAS CARRIED OVER INTO MY PERSONAL LIFE. AWARENESS IS THE FIRST STEP. AND I AM FORTUNATE THAT I DON'T HAVE ANYONE AT HOME WHO INFLUENCES MY THOUGHTS AND CHOICES. ROY DOES HAVE AN EFFECT ON YOU AND IT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE IGNORING HIM. I SAY EMBRACE "THE FUNK" RATHER THAN RESIST IT. ONCE YOU CAN DO THIS, IT WILL ALLOW YOU TO MOVE FORWARD.
YOU ARE IN MY THOUGHTS AND I AM YOUR CHEERLEADER MISS CHAR!

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MARLA7 6/15/2013 1:21PM

    CHAR - I SO AGREE WITH WHAT THE OTHER'S ARE TELLING YOU... ALL EXCEPT FCARMICH. MAKE SURE YOU LET HER KNOW THAT YOU USE ALL CAPS CAUSE IT'S EASIER FOR YOU TO READ AND BESIDES TELL HER, IT'S YOUR BLOG. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO TYPE IT AS YOU PLEASE. HER LITTLE POST P'D ME OFF. SURE WISH I COULD CONTACT HER AND TELL HER SO. GRRRRRRRRRR.

ROY'S P'ING ME OFF TOO. WHAT THE HECK'S WRONG WITH HIM? IS HE THAT INSECURE ABOUT HIMSELF THAT HE HAS TO PUT YOU DOWN? ASK HIM THAT. MAYBE IF HE DRANK ONE LESS BEER AND COULD HOLD A GOOD JOB HE'D FEEL BETTER ABOUT HIMSELF AND STOP PUTTING YOU DOWN. SHAME ON HIM. TSK TSK!

WE'RE ALWAYS HERE FOR YOU GIRLFRIEND. VENT WHENEVER YOU WANT AND IF YOU WANT TO SHOUT DO IT! LOVE YOU.

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BECYROSE 6/15/2013 1:16PM

    Hi Char, for me when I have my down days I tend to start with gratitude, being thankful for whatever I can think of. Being alive, having taste buds to taste the flavor of food, eyesight to see beautiful things such as nature, a puppy, a newborn baby, hearing so I can hear words of encouragement, love so I can give it and receive it. Gratitude starts the ball rolling for more good things to come into your life, celebrate small successes. Pat yourself on the back for when you do make a good choice and refuse to beat yourself up. We all have bad times in life no matter what shape or size we are, we all have to combat negative feelings and thoughts. But it is up to us in how we respond to what happens to us. I used to be heavy for my size and felt worthless but you must first challenge the way you think about yourself, because no matter how thin you are happiness is a state of mind that you can choose, you don't have to be limited to your weight. You are not worthless, you are a human being created in the image of God that just needs a lot of love and encouragement. You are in the right place! Have a wonderful day and I hope this helps emoticon

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KSNICKER 6/15/2013 12:05PM

    CHAR - GOOD LUCK TO YOU. YOU CAN DO THIS. DON'T THINK OF IT AS STARTING OVER... THINK OF IT AS CONTINUING ON WITH YOUR WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY. BUT MOST OF ALL DO IT FOR YOURSELF NOT FOR ANY OTHERS COMMENTS OR STARES... THIS IS FOR YOU.
I ENVY YOU BECAUSE YOU'VE GOT ALL THE EXERCISING PART DOWN PAT. THAT AS YOU KNOW IS HARD FOR ME.
KEEP IT GOING... CHANGE YOUR EXERCISING UP TO SOMETHING HARDER OR JUST DIFFERENT. AND THEN CHOOSE HEALTHIER SNACKS AND BET YOURSELF YOU CAN STAY AWAY FROM THE BAD SNACKS. WHEN YOU ARE SUCCESSFUL PUT A QUARTER $1 OR IN A JAR TO SAVE FOR YOU SOMETHING YOU REALLY WANT FOR "YOU"...
JUST REMEMBER WE ARE ALWAYS HERE FOR YOU. I'M GLAD THAT YOU BLOGGED. MAYBE SOMEONE ELSE CAN OFFER SOME "POSITIVE" FEEDBACK FOR YOU.
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MSALOETTE 6/15/2013 9:47AM

    CHAR IN YOUR HONOR I TOO WILL USE ALL CAPS! AND FCARMICH SHAME ON YOU FOR SAYING ANYTHING TO CHAR ABOUT USING CAPS IT'S HER RIGHT TO TYPE HOWEVER SHE PLEASES IT'S HER BLOG TO DO AS SHE PLEASES ON YOURS YOU ARE FREE TO TYPE HOWEVER YOU CHOSE AND YOU DO NOT HAVE TO READ HER BLOG IF YOU CHOSE TO NOT LIKE HER CAPS!
CHAR YOU DO SO MANY THINGS SO WELL AND YOU NEED TO PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK FOR THOSE THINGS! YOU HAVE BEEN SO DEDICATED TO YOUR EXERCISE DAILY! YOU ARE DEDICATED TO YOUR FAMILY AND YOU TAKE SUCH GOOD CARE OF THEM AND YOUR HOME AND YOUR JOB IS DONE WELL MY FRIEND!
TIME TO TAKE CARE OF YOU! OFTEN TIMES THE COMMENTS THAT HURT US THE MOST ARE FROM THE PEOPLE WE LOVE THE MOST AND THEY THINK THEY ARE HELPING US SEE WHAT THEY WANT US TO SEE, UNFORTUNATELY IT JUST DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY. YOU NEED TO DO THIS FOR YOU AND YOU ALONE, LOSING WEIGHT IS NOT AN EASY TASK, BUT WE HAVE DONE IT BEFORE AND CAN DO IT AGAIN, AND AGAIN, AND AGAIN IF NECESSARY. BUT NOT WHEN SOMEONE TRIES TO SHAME YOU INTO DOING IT! THIS HAS TO BE YOUR GOAL ALONE YOU NEED TO FEEL THE JOY OF BEING THE YOU THAT YOU SEE IN YOUR VISION. THE SKINNY PEOPLE IN LIFE WHO WANT TO INTIMIDATE YOU HAVE ISSUES THEMSELVES AND THEY SHOULD WORK ON THEIR ISSUES AND LET YOU WORK ON YOURS.
SO CHAR YOU CAN DO THIS! NO EXCUSES! NO FEELING DOWN ON YOURSELF LOOK AT ALL THOSE POSITITVES AND GET YOURSELF WHERE YOU WANT TO BE! YOU ARE NOT ALONE GIRLFRIEND! emoticon

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MAURIZIA 6/15/2013 7:37AM

    FIRST, FCARMICH, SHE USES ALL CAPS BECAUSE SHE HAS A VISION PROBLEM. A SUGGESTION, NEXT TIME MAYBE POSE IT AS A QUESTION: WHY DID YOU USE ALL CAPS? WHEN SOMEONE IS ALREADY FEELING AS SHE IS, YOUR COMMENTS CAN BE MISTRUED AS YET ANOTHER PUT-DOWN.

CHAR, SORRY TO HAVE POSTED THAT IN MY COMMENT, BUT FCARMICH'S PAGE IS SET TO PRIVATE...SO JUST IN CASE S/HE COMES BACK.
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CHAR, I KNOW HOW HARD YOU TRY AND I AM SORRY YOUR HUBBY MADE THOSE COMMENTS. AS YOU KNOW, JOHN SOMETIMES SAYS THINGS TO ME THAT ARE HURTFUL. IT'S JUST HOW THEY ARE. THEY THINK THEY ARE BEING SUPPORTIVE AND DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY WE DON'T SEE IT THAT WAY.

WHEN I RESTARTED MY SPARK PLAN LAST MONTH, I THOUGHT ABOUT HOW I LOST THOSE 32 LBS. FIRST TIME AROUND. I REMEMBERED THAT IF YOU GO BACK TO LEVEL 1 AS A NEW PERSON HERE, IT'S TO MAKE ONE CHANGE AT A TIME. I DECIDED ON THREE, AS YOU KNOW. TRACKING FOOD, BLOGGING, AND VISITING OUR TEAM & 2 OTHERS. SOMETIMES WE CAN TRY TOO HARD.

THE OTHER LESSON I'VE LEARNED, DIFFICULT AS IT IS, IS TO FORGIVE MYSELF. INSTEAD OF FOCUSING ON "I'M EXERCISING SO HARD EVERY MORNING AND NOTHING IS HAPPENING," THINK, "WOW, ME! LOOK WHAT I'M DOING." TAKE THE FOCUS OFF THE NEGATIVE.

AS YOU KNOW, FOOD IS THE HARDEST PART FOR ME. TRACKING EACH DAY & RUNNING THE ANALYSIS IS REALLY HELPING. IT HELPS ME TO SEE WHERE THE RIGHT CHOICES ARE AND WHERE NOT. I DO GET FRUSTRATED SOMEDAYS BECAUSE I CAN'T AFFORD TO GROCERY SHOP SO HAVE TO MAKE DO WITH THINGS I CAN GET AT THE DOLLAR TREE. TRACK FOR A WEEK OR TWO, THEN SEE WHAT FOODS YOU NEED TO AVOID...AND JUST ELIMINATE ONE OF THEM FOR TWO WEEKS. IT THEN BECOMES A HABIT AND YOU CAN ELIMINATE THE 2ND FOOD FOR THE NEXT TWO WEEKS...REPLACING THEM WITH SOMETHING HEALTHY.

HUGS AND LOVE. WE ARE IN THIS TOGETHER.

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JOYCRN 6/15/2013 7:14AM

    We can be hard on ourselves when we have to "start again" however you have learned some things about your self in the process. One of the motivational posters I frequently see on Sparkpeople says "If you don't want to start over, don't quit!" emoticon

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FCARMICH 6/15/2013 6:14AM

  Please don't use all CAPS -- its shouting and not necessary....
thanx

Be good to you and have a great day!

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