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Mom's open heart surgery is our open door

Friday, June 14, 2013

Mom has had her open heart surgery set for July 1. The doc thinks she'll do great. She's among the very lucky - first, she's not one of the 6 billion people on the planet who have no access to this kind of health care. Second, she has not had a heart attack and has no heart damage.

The doctor said everyone has antherosclerosis of some kind. It's a human thing. He said he hopes he dies of it, that his 12-year-old son dies of it some day, because dying of it is really what happens when you die of "old age." At least 50% die of it, with the other half dying some much worse way, say, of diabetes/complications, cancer, trauma, or other disease.

It's a funny way to look at it. "I hope I die of anther sclerosis." o.0

Mom is about 50 pounds overweight. We didn't tell him she's lost about 12 pounds in the last several weeks! He was very blunt. Although he can do heart surgery, the only thing she can do, and needs to do, is to lose the weight.

Although everyone gets antherosclerosis, it is accelerated by carrying too much weight. Instead of living healthy into her 90s, Mom (and Dad, because he had his bypass last year) has speeded up the process because of her weight. She's 73.

And there I sat. Thinking about the fact that I lost 92 pounds and gained back 60. It's a pretty good reminder of why I lost it in the first place.

So now Mom and I are going to motivate each other. She's going to really work on healthy breakfast and lunches and not snacking out of boredom. She's going to walk every day once she can after her surgery. She doesn't dare to too much before it. I'm going to start my morning workouts next week. I'm going to start my 5K program all over again. Since it's been less than a year that I've stopped running, I think I can pick it up again fairly well.

Sometimes you need a kick in the a$$ to walk through an open door, and this is mine.

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  • LAURA7051
    Best wishes to your mom for a successful surgery and a speedy recovery. Nothing like a significant kick in the arse to get yourself back on the right path. You can do it!!!
    1524 days ago
    All my best to your Mom during her upcoming surgery. kudos to you for getting back on track.
    1529 days ago
    Wow. Talk about tough times. You can do this. You did it before with style, grace and wit. You have an army of Sparkers cheering you on.
    1529 days ago
    Great lesson! emoticon
    1530 days ago
    I think that losing weight is a skill we acquire, something like learning how to ride a bike for instance. We need to fall a few times before we can master it.

    As kriskeck said, you haven't taken it all back! It wouldn't be surprising if you started again after having taken it all back plus some. right?

    And I'm glad to see you back here at sparkpeople emoticon
    1530 days ago
  • PEG2584
    Yes, sometimes it does take getting kicked in the a$$ to get the motivation to do something.

    Both you and your mom seem to have really good plans. Good luck and stay motivated!
    1530 days ago
  • SHIRE33
    Having a plan is really important. That's one reason I'm setting up plans now. Last year, after Dad's open heart, my daughter's wedding, a radical change at work, threats of job loss, bad weather and hard farm year, I was stressed to the max and it's one reason I think I got off my routine, to bad consequences. So I'm still trying to regroup from that. So I know you are right!
    1531 days ago
    Good for you both! My grandmother had a similar sugery when she was in her 70s and she is now 92. She swims almost every day.

    Best wishes for a speedy recovery. Do you have a plan for taking care of yourself while she is ill? My parents recently had a kidney transplant (dad=donor, mom=decipient) and in spite of planning ahead as much as possible, it really threw me off track.
    1531 days ago
    Hey there, so good to hear from you. Sorry to hear that your mom needs surgery but it sounds like the prognosis is good.

    Don't beat yourself up:

    1. you learned you can lose the weight.
    2. you are still 32 pounds down from your highest weight. I think you would still qualify for the National Weight Loss registry.
    3. you probably have a pretty good idea of what you would do differently to maintain.

    You will get their again - and I am sure you'll help your mom get where she needs to be too.

    You are strong, and you are always taking care of others. Be sure to take care of yourself too.

    I am losing again too. I am going more slowly this time and thinking a lot more about how to maintain it when I get to my goal.

    I'll be staying in touch!

    1531 days ago
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