Friday, June 14, 2013
My last two posts were entirely too mopey, or at least existential, for my taste! Heading into a long weekend (YAY!), I'd like to post about a few really positive things happening right now.
My friends are not judging me for my weight gain. (Or if they are, they're very, very polite!) I'm learning to address it in a way that doesn't make anybody uncomfortable, but still helps me share my need for support. I said to a co-worker who's been working very hard and healthfully to lose weight (my boss, actually, but she's a social worker, so oddball conversations are okay in our office), "Laura, you look amazing, really. It's awesome to see how great you're doing!" We chatted about her exercise class for a bit, and I said, "I've gained a lot of weight recently, but it's really inspiring to see you--it's something for me to aspire to," which was a frankly brilliant way for me to let her know what I'm needing from people, but still celebrating her, and not diminishing her hard work.
So I don't sound too braggy about how I handled that, I should clarify: these conversations happened often when I was the one losing the weight, and I really appreciated it. I assumed the world was full of saboteurs and jealous types, and there are definitely some, but for the most part I was fortunate to have people who honored me, while still sharing their own goals.
So, having conversations like this is helping me. I get to honestly, and hopefully un-self consciously deal with my own body, but still putting good stuff in the universe, instead of wallowing in a pit of self-loathing and shame that beings everybody down.
Another positive thing: One of my favorite people and her family are coming through town in a week or so. We met years ago in Texas, and since then, we both moved to Oregon (different cities, but pretty close) for different reasons. We would visit each other regularly, I officiated her wedding, she fostered my dog before I adopted him, and then they moved to Alaska for a couple years. Now they're moving to Northern California, and visiting Portland en route! Amazing Sarah makes me laugh 'til my belly hurts, cry with her insights, and just makes me think more. Her husband is a handsome, brilliant scientist who gives the most unexpectedly awesome bear hugs, and I'll finally get to meet their daughter! And see their dog, who is also sweet and brilliant. I just love everything about these people, and the reality of again seeing them maybe a few times a year (or more!) is beyond thrilling. So, yeah, I'm pretty excited!
My sometime-housemate is moving in a month or so, as planned. He's a nice guy, who's rarely here, but it'll be nice to have my guest room back. He came by last night to talk about dates and details. We had a couple drinks, some snacks, and a few good laughs--it was a nice evening. It's always a relief when things that could go badly (like renting space to a friend) end up being no big deal, you know?
Alright, time to commence my weekend. I've set a few modest goals around food and exercise--I will report back!
Happy Weekend, everybody!