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Comfort Zone, Missed Opportunities and 'Policies'...

Friday, June 14, 2013

My communication comfort zone is to take in stuff, think about it and then respond/react.

Most times it works for me. I'm finding more and more lately, that it's not. emoticon

I've written many times at lengh that I LOVE to start my day in the early a.m. sipping HOT skinny mochas and reading SP posts. I also pop in several times during the day for a re-charge. emoticon

Unfortunately, I seem to have gotten into a habit of wanting to read everyone's thoughts and haven't contributed my support as much as I would like by commenting/writing. emoticon

I can't tell you how many times I've been touched by the posts here. I would say to myself, "WOW! This is REALLY insightful/ moving/ inspiring/ grabbing/ etc. !!! I REALLY want to think about this before I write something thoughtful and meaningful back."

Unfortunately, many times when I get back to write, I can't find the blog/post/thread where I want to contribute my thoughts and support. Arghhhhhh! emoticon

What a Missed Opportunity! I HATE it when I have those!!!!!

One strategy I've developed to help myself with stuff is to develop and implement what I call 'Personal Policies'.

When I have time and am in a 'thoughtful place' mentally, I think thru a situation/issue/problem that involves making some sort of choice. After evaluating everything, I pick the 'best' choice for me. Then every time that situation pops up, I mentally pull up my policy and follow it.

Do I do this every time? No. But I sure do kick myself when I don't follow my policy and have a 'shoulda, woulda, coulda' moment. emoticon emoticon

So-- Here's my revised SP Communication Policy:

I'm going to work on shortening up the 'thinking about' part of my communication comfort zone. Part of this is just getting rid of my laziness about going thru the effort of the thinking and writing process. I'm going to reduce my missed opportunities to support my Spark friends by replying when I read their posts.

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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    Good for you :) I sometimes write more insightful and motivating things but sometimes its just activity. These activities I may not have been doing in the last year or two of my life. They are meaningful to me if not to other but I love the support and need to remind myself of progress. Just check in you don't always have to be insightful. We like hearing from ya!
    1738 days ago
    Its okay we all get busy, but we all know we are here for each other too!

    I like your new personal policies, sounds inspiring.
    1741 days ago
  • SAMI199
    I agree with 2Hams-we are all friends & enjoy "seeing" each other -I wish had more time to write comments on so many of the blogs I read..emoticons are my way of letting them know I have stopped by.

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    1741 days ago
    I love hearing from you! I also read all of your blogs even if I don't comment all of the time.

    1743 days ago
    I think of Spark as my friends and neighbors. Some times I have time to chat and other times life calls and I just wave. It is all ok in the world of friends. emoticon emoticon
    1743 days ago
  • BRADMILL2922
    Sounds like you have a good revised policy. Don't worry about having the perfect comment, it isn't about that. Just have the comment that is real and comes from your heart. I know I appreciate those the most. I'm sure others do as well. Take advantage of the opportunities you have and don't over think things and then you can stop kicking yourself ;)
    1744 days ago
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