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A Thank You, A Clarification of Sorts, and Something to Share


Friday, June 14, 2013

Thanks to all of you for the love, support and insight on my past few blogs. Trust me I can feel the love. So I say to each of you "Namaste."

I want to clarify something. While that convenience store attendant hurt me with her words, I shared the story to make a point. Out of the clear blue sky something as silly as being called a whale knocked me on my butt. Yes, the girl had no right to say what she did but within that bit of pain I learned that there were things about my over all health and well being that needed as much attention as my nutrition and my exercise program. I needed to fortify my own self image and not pay as much attention to, as VP Spiro T Agnew once said, "Nabobs of negativity." Someone taught that young lady to perceive other people through a filter of prejudice. She didn't learn it on her own. Remember my two little bird friends? Unfortunately, one day, when they see me they'll fly to cover. As the robot said in Lost In Space "Warning, warning, Will Robinson!!" They will acquire that fear and mistrust just like some kids will acquire the ability to hate and judge other people simply by the way they look or for what they do or don't believe. I cant change any of those things. I can blog and speak and pray over them but in the end what I control are my own actions and reactions. Second, I used that instance to show that the things you and I say can be devastating to others and that when we are hurt its okay to show it and share it.I am and always have been comfortable with sharing my feelings. In many ways I am an open book. Many people are not and I'd hazard a guess that some of you who read what I write feel the same hurt, pain and shame and are reluctant to share it. It's as if we look into the mirror and we see an additional arm growing out of out of our foreheads. I write to bring HOPE to those who are lonley and feel adrift and abandoned. I have been there, I have felt the pain and I know how empty the feeling can be at times. I write to tell you that it can and it will get better if and when you choose for it to get better.

I want to share something I think is cool. To me it says it all:



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EFFRAYECHILDE 6/27/2013 10:07AM

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MORTICIAADDAMS 6/19/2013 9:42AM

    We have to love ourselves first. We are the best judges of our true worth.

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KABMPH 6/17/2013 11:42AM

    Thank you so much for sharing this, John. I'm sorry that the convenience store clerk was cruel, but I'm glad that you shared your humanity with us.

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SUSIEMT 6/17/2013 11:40AM

    Thank you!

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PENOWOK 6/16/2013 10:03PM

    People say hurtful things for lots of reasons...hurting people hurt people. The girl must have been hurt pretty badly at some point to try to hurt back and build herself up at another's expense. I see that in my daughter-in-law, though she refuses to get help. Sad.

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IAMAGEMLOVER 6/16/2013 10:32AM

    emoticon John. Some people just don't know when to keep their mouths shut.

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SANDYCRANE 6/16/2013 6:35AM

    Great blog, thanks for sharing.

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PAM_COOPER 6/16/2013 2:54AM

    I don't know your story but remember as a first grader coming to the harsh realization how cruel people were--I've experienced a life time of hurtful comments -- 95% over my weight.

I am finally 150 lbs. lighter (at 56 yrs. old) and I finally feel comfortable in my own (but, loose) skin. I have ALWAYS been mindful of how my words affect others---I KNOW how hurtful words have affected me! In fact, I have often believed my 'fat' life was my life lesson in learning how to be wise, and humble, and compassionate. I have lost and gained hundreds of pounds over the years and have experienced somewhat normal (size wise) periods in my life and chose to NEVER hurt someone through painful, harsh or judgmental words for whatever reason I may feel justified. If I must say something critical to someone, I try to do it with understanding and compassion about how it will affect the receiver.

Wise people will learn, foolish people will continue to make foolish comments.

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KARRENLYNN 6/15/2013 6:37PM

    Well said, John. People either don't realize or don't care how much power words have good and bad.

Karen

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PATRICIAANN46 6/15/2013 4:42PM

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SHERYLP461 6/15/2013 3:52PM

    Wonderfully explained John, thank you.

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    In the spark mail again. emoticon

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CICELY360 6/15/2013 2:07PM

  good blog

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JOANNHUNT 6/15/2013 2:00PM

    VERY WELL DESCRIBED.

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DELLMEL 6/15/2013 11:21AM

  Well said John

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IDICEM 6/15/2013 11:09AM

  Learning how to rise above the negative energy we regularly face is a lifelong project. Thank you for reinforcing that.

Emit your own frequency. Spot on.
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CARPROTH 6/15/2013 10:51AM

    The adage that "we were given two ears and one mouth so we could listen twice as much as we speak " is certainly borne out.

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CLIMBERS_ROCK 6/15/2013 10:17AM

    I try to teach this to my students. emoticon

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SHANNONY84 6/15/2013 10:14AM

    I love the picture with the quote! It was great to ready this morning! Thank you!

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MIMIDOT 6/15/2013 8:55AM

    Love your blogs! They are always interesting and have good advice. Hope you have a blessed Father's Day.

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MOMMY445 6/15/2013 7:52AM

    thank you for sharing such a wonderful blog,John! have a terrific day!

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WATERDIAMONDS 6/15/2013 7:31AM

    Thank you, John, for a beautifully written, pertinent post.

Namaste...

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CHERYLHURT 6/15/2013 6:58AM

  Good point...

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TRYINGHARD54 6/15/2013 6:28AM

    Mu uncle always said nasty comments to me about my weight.
One day I had enough.. So the next time he said something to me I looked at him and said. I can lose this weight when I try hard but you will always be ugly.
no more comments after that !

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GRUMBLEGIRL 6/15/2013 6:22AM

    What a beautiful quote. Although I'm not familiar with your earlier story, I think I've pieced it together and am sorry someone was so hurtful to you. Sadly, I have found that the nasty encounters I've had with people or behaviors that I've witnessed come from those who are very insecure and feel the need to lash out or be mean to make themselves feel better. It doesn't make your encounter with them any more pleasant but I've found it makes it easier for me to move on and let it go when I realize their problem is much bigger than the current situation. Stay proud and strong!!!!

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MEDDYPEDDY 6/15/2013 2:41AM

    I am working hard to become a better listener and more open to people. I have found that I let fear, prejudice and assumptions block real meetings. I love it when people truthfully share their feelings, you reaction to the drive-thru comments could have been mine, and I am happy that I am not alone in being that sensitive...
At the doctor he took a tuning-tork and put it against my feet, asking if I felt the vibration... and sometimes I feel like a tuning-fork, expressing the vibrations from the world around me, and I think somehow it is right. The bad thing is when I make those vibrations a personal rsponsibility, I should not react that hard... what I should do (I think) is to let that feeling of pain flow through me and make me more humble to the impact we have on each other.

I am vulnerable, thatīs okay. If I dare to show and share, not to be a victim and not to blame, just admit that I am vulnerable – I will get very storng because it will be John Donneish...

No man is an island,
Entire of itself,
Every man is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thy friend's
Or of thine own were:
Any man's death diminishes me,
Because I am involved in mankind,
And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;
It tolls for thee.

So thank you John!

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LYNMEINDERS 6/15/2013 1:12AM

    AMEN John AMEN

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NASFKAB 6/14/2013 9:45PM

  thanks for sharing

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AJDOVER1 6/14/2013 4:39PM

    thank you, John!

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DEEDEE1102 6/14/2013 1:34PM

    Thank you for clearly demonstrating your dual points: That words can hurt and we all need to watch what we teach our young!
I enjoyed your blog and your insight and sensitivity.

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CELIAMINER 6/14/2013 1:17PM

    Thanks for another great blog. I especially like the quote and picture at the end.

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REGILIEH 6/14/2013 11:51AM

    You certainly contribute to my having a good day, any day! emoticon emoticon

I always miss you when you don't blog as you are either uplifting and/ or I learn something.

I'm ready to buy your book!

Anne

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EDWARDS1411 6/14/2013 11:48AM

    You write so eloquently John - we can all learn from your insightfulness!!!
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TERMITEMOM 6/14/2013 11:15AM

    Excellent point.

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CHESSARIA 6/14/2013 11:05AM

    And we wanted to let you know we support you for being such a great person!

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JEANNETTE59 6/14/2013 10:40AM

  So true, we must be what we want the world to be. Thank you for allowing your inner light to be a beacon to others. emoticon

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AVANDREA_ 6/14/2013 10:34AM

    Well said John, I just finished posting something similar on your earlier blog.

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