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Friday, June 14, 2013

I don't know if it is because I am sick and I am horrible when I am sick; I get over emotional, cranky and a lot of attitude so be warned at this point.

I have been catching up on my sparks reading some blogs I had put off. I dont know at this point it is something like 12 i have read this morning and although inspiring more than half made me roll my eyes ( I know read the first line please and accept my apologies here).

I get asked all the time what diet I am following and my answer is the same I am not following a diet ( go ahead be shocked they always are). I will explain it for you and maybe it will help you.

I did the diets all of them and probably some you have never heard of and spent all this money out to get no where. Diets are temporary fixes. Diets are people who want to loose 10 to 20 pounds. You already basically know how to do it you just make bad choices. Diets are deprivation and filled with sacrafice. Diets give you the ability to beat yourself up when you dont loose the weight or worst loose it then gain it back once off the diet. I purposely stay away from people who make me feel bad and I wouldnt pay you to hit me so why would I go to a place that by walking in the door I am giving someone permission and even paying them to tell me I am bad. That is the thought I had when I decided to do something.

When you are morbidly obese as i was 200 pounds overweight. You dont diet. What you do is you change your life and your mindset. I dont deprive myself at all. I don't make sacrifices. I don't have bad eating days or good ones for that fact. I don't guilt other people into eating what I eat nor do I force them to. The only person I ever lecture about their eating habits is the husband but he deserves and he still does what he wants.

So I guess i have lied and there is a secret for my success. I really have done what most would say in my world would say is impossible. I undid my mind and reset it. I replaced my emotional eating with exercise. I eat what I want because I research that food and how to prepare. I love fried okra but instead of frying it on top of the stove I have a recipe for oven fried okra taste the same and i dont have to give up a food I love. I like ice cream so i keep a healthier choice for me in the freezer right next to theirs . I go out to eat but i think before I order. I am very vocal to everyone around me about what i will do and what i will not do. I never change something that I can not live with forever. I have good days and I have bad days in general but food doesnt play into them days. I made a choice to change my life not just what I was eating. And that is where the success has laid. I continually make that choice every day but now it is just life nothing more nothing less.

So if you are on a diet and need to loose weight, step back and think to yourself is this something that i am going to for the rest of my life no matter what happens and if the answer is no then rethink what you are doing and dont set yourself up failure to start with. Don't think for others just think for yourself make the best choice for you that you can make and stop by all means beating yourself for those choices I promise the rest of world will beat you up enough so be the one that loves you enough to just live life to the best of your ability.

Ok like i said a little attitude but well i had to say it ... have a great day emoticon
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  • LINDA!
    I also like your outlook... emoticon
    1737 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/15/2013 7:29:11 PM
    Great post Darlene "diets" are quick fix for that special party emoticon they don't work and why set ones self up for failure You always do such emoticon post
    1738 days ago
    Very impressed. I like your attitude and agree about the life change instead of a diet. I can't follow a diet successfully so just managing portions and make better choices seems to help. Thank you for sharing.
    1739 days ago
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