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I want ideas... I'm so frustrated!

Thursday, June 13, 2013

I need someone to tell me their strategy. And I mean a strategy that has worked for you. I don’t want a theory or the response you were told should work.

Almost three years ago I found this site and with its help, I lost over 50 pounds. It took almost a whole year to lose the weight, so I have only been maintaining my weight loss for about two years. I don’t consider myself in maintenance because I continue to bounce up and down in a 5-7 pound range, always staying a few pounds above my original goal weight.

Here’s my problem. I can’t figure out how to handle sugar consumption. Sugar is a big problem for me and for the past year I have been “good” for 5 or 6 days and then I binge-usually for a couple days. I gain weight every week and spend the next interval losing it! In the end, everything “looks” just fine as I am still “maintaining,” but I am frustrated with myself and I cannot seem to find the secret to eating like a “normal” person.

What is the right thing to do? A sugar detox? Because I am an addict and should stay away from sugar all together? I certainly feel better when I am eating well balanced meals and staying in my overall calorie range. I just can’t imagine never eating the things I love again. Will the cravings really go away?

So then I think I need to eat sugary foods in moderation. At this point, I overindulge in these yummy things to the point where they cause pain. Can I really just eat a small serving and stop? How have you managed this? What made a difference?

I want to break this cycle! I feel hopeless at this point and I can't stand knowing that without seeking a solution, I am doomed to continue this...forever?

Respond here or in an email or on my Sparkpage. I want ideas… I am so frustrated!

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  • NETSUE64
    I always needed something sweet after meals and in the evenings. Especially in the evening.

    I have found that Fiber One caramel bars are great in the afternoon and I don't need candy anymore at work. Diet coke works for substituting for the after meal sweets. Lately I've been very happy with popsicles in the evening. They take time to eat and usually average about 50 calories and are yummy! I love the grape and the banana.

    I hope this helps.
    1673 days ago
    when i deprive myself of things i like, i binge. I have lost 50 pounds at my lowest and have "maintained" 40. I count calories and cycle them so tue/fri are low and wed/sat high with regular days in between as per the calculator on

    What I do is allow my self sweets, BUT, I have better choice sweets if you can call it that. I LOVE ice cream and chocolate so I found that the fiber one 90 cal brownies REALLY good, satisfy my afternoon choc fix, and at night i usually leave calories for ice cream, skinny cow or weight watchers (whatever on sale lol) nice thing is they have so many varieties and calories are in low-med range so on low cal day i can have to 90-100 calorie treats and on hi cal day i can indulge in the 170 calorie cookies n cream sklinny cow ice cream sandwich!! It becomes the norm over time, you are not killing yourself to stay away from sugar, but you are keeping yuou calories low while satisfying yourself.

    Hope it helps :)
    1734 days ago
    The only solution is abstinence. Time to get honest with you cannot eat certain foods in moderation then you must accept it and abstain. What's worse....the pain of deprivation or the pain of disappointment after a binge? You have a choice.
    1735 days ago
    I don't have a sugar issue so can't help much unfortunately. but don't beat yourself up too much you are doing great!
    1735 days ago
    I have a serious problem with sugar. Here is what has worked for me in the past. I make some sugar free jello and have one serving after lunch (measure it out in individual containers). I put a tablespoon of fat free cool whip on top and eat it slowly. After a few days of that being my only "sweet treat" I don't seem to crave sugar. I also plan ahead before going somewhere. My plan is that I will not eat the sweet stuff, period. I do eventually get to a point where I can have a bite or 2 of something and walk away. I think you have to have little bits if you love it that much. I would be thrilled to stay within 5-7 pounds of goal. I've gained back all I lost plus 20 more!
    1737 days ago
    Haven't been in your shoes, so can't offer any strategies - just wanted to congratulate you on your perseverance and loss of 50 pounds!
    1737 days ago
    If only there were a magic pill! A correct portion of any sweet treat is so small as to be laughable. I don't think there is a "reasonable" limit for sugar consumption. You can either limit yourself or you can't. I just stay away from desserts and don't eat snacks or junk food at all. Sounds drastic, but it's the only way for me to avoid beating myself over the head.

    Incidentally 5-7 pounds can be a normal "bounce" range for maintaining. I was two pounds lower this morning than yesterday just because the weather is cooler. I hold water when it is hot and humid, pee it all off when it's cool or air conditioned. Go figure. As long as I don't have anything I can blame it on, I know it's the weather. No living being can be the same weight all the time.
    1737 days ago
  • EMILY0724
    Join the "Tame your Sweet Tooth Challenge." I just did this but I've been working on this issue for a long time with some success on my own. I am unable to stop with one sensible portion, so I don't eat baked goods. If I ever start, I'm doomed to exceed my calorie limit for the day. On birthdays and special occasions, I plan on splurging. I allow myself a huge piece of cake, pie, or whatever.

    I have added some sweet treats in healthy ways. I use those chewy calcium supplements. I must limit them to one/day or else risk a kidney stone. I use artificial sweetener in coffee and some recipes. I eat yogurt (with artificial sweetener) and fruit for breakfast. I eat prunes--must limit them to one serving/day, but they are oh so sweet! This has worked for me.

    I can't give you a magic formula, but I hope some of my successful tips will be useful.

    1738 days ago
    I have the same problem and am looking for answers to help me permenantly change my sugar eating habits. Staying within 5-7 pounds of your goal weight is a really big accomplishment. I gain and then lose, gain and lose, gain and lose. That is the cycle I have gotten myself caught up in. you have all of our support!! it is frustrating, I agree!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1738 days ago

    It's hard to give great ideas because I struggle with the sugar, too. Also, I think different people probably require different strategies.

    For me, I have learned to set myself a very small portion size. (3 Whoppers or such) I have to just keep my goal in mind--sometimes I go check myself out in the mirror if I want more, because I know what's going to happen if I eat more! I also respect, though, that some people just have to get rid of all of it and steer completely clear.

    Another thing that really helps me is that my spouse is trying to be healthy, too. I try not to sit down with a bowl of ice cream, knowing that he'd want one, too. Works both ways. Is there somebody that you can swap motivation with?

    Also, I hope you're able to give yourself credit for staying even within the 5-7 pounds of your goal weight. Being in maintenance mode myself, I know that it is very difficult to stay anywhere near your goal. It takes time and motivation and an investment. I truly wish I could give you a pat on the back, because I think you deserve it.

    Take care and I hope you get a lot of great ideas about the sugar!
    1738 days ago
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