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Thankful Thursday

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Making it through the week without my co-worker. It has been so busy at times. I just keep plugging through.

Hubby is a big source of stress for me right now as we work with a contractor to put in a patio under our deck. He makes things so much more difficult. Which way to lay the pavers because a major crisis to him.. Trying not to dwell on the negative. Hubby wants them to get started...they can start this weekend and then it throws hubby all off his "schedule" and they can't do that. It's like make up your mind dear. Guess hubby is a great source of stress in my life.

Talked with MIL yesterday and she informed me she wasn't going to my daughter's shower unless something is done with her hair. She can walk to a beautician who does her hair nicely...but she won't go any longer. Says she's can't do her hair right. She wants us to take her somewhere else that knows how to do hair. We go through this again and again. We go some place and then she suddenly doesn't think they can do her hair right and then we have to take her somewhere else. Her hair looks really bad right now as she puts gel on it and smashes it to her head - probably so we'll feel sorry for her and take her someplace new. Hubby won't take her anywhere cause she's never happy about it. I thought it was great she could walk there - right in her complex and take care of it herself and give her independence. Not sure if she wants our attention, us to take the blame if we take her to the wrong place or what. So trying to look at the big picture...decided to schedule appt for a perm at Great Clips for her to get a perm. So on Saturday I'll spend my precious time off...sitting while she gets a perm...cause we can't leave her alone there. I feel like she's won again....and I know it's not a contest...I feel like she's manipulated me again. I know something has to be done before the wedding. Hubby thought if we waited long enough maybe she would go back down to the lady in their retirement community. She used to be the best hairdresser ever....UGH! Then I try to pull in my thoughts and remember she is our precious mother(in law) and treasure the times we have together. Hopefully I can get my emotions under control and have a nice time with her and not be so resentful. I agreed to have her out here and help care for her in her latter years. I know one day she'll be gone and I don't want to have regrets.

Just feeling the pressure of two difficult people in my life right now over things that don't have to be so difficult and they make it so much so....and I usually give in to get them calmed down.

Choosing to make it a great day and do the "right" things.
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    1715 days ago
    I didn't invite my MIL to come live in my two bedroom home. Social agencies had gotten involved and she landed here. I sacrificed all my time and personal space and smiles to give her the best care one could possibly have with ALZ for almost 3 years. Exhausted when she had to go into a nursing home, it took me a very long time to recover and have company in my house again. We do the "right" thing because Christ did the right thing for us. Squeeze in relaxation when you can, Kathleen! God bless.

    My dad with ALZ went into the Soldiers and Sailors Home and it was a Godsend.
    1716 days ago
    By: Victoria Tiegert.

    When you gave birth to your first child
    I wonder what you thought
    As tears flowed down in joy that day
    For the treasure God had wrought

    As you looked into your baby's eyes
    And held his tiny hand
    Did you know how thankful I would be
    For the boy you made a man

    No boy grows into such a man
    Without a mother's care
    Teaching him and loving him
    And always being there

    And now I look into the eyes
    Of the son you raised to be
    A man who stands above the crowd
    And it's your eyes that I see

    Those steely eyes of strength and hope
    And of character so rare
    The eyes of love and faithfulness
    And wisdom that you shared

    I want to take this moment
    And thank you for the one
    That you have shared and let me love
    Your work of art, your son

    emoticon Donna
    1716 days ago
    There is a lot of anger in aging. Many older people hurt physically and emotionally and take it out on those they love. My mom was horrible for years after my dad died. When she fell and broke her hip for some reason she totally changed back to being sweet again. It was such a relief. I feel for you, it can be overwhelming!

    Lord, lift this one today, give her the needed rest and refreshing that only you can give. Even if the circumstances don't change around her, give her peace. Thank you Lord for her care of her MIL and help her MIL to not be so negative. In your precious name, Amen
    1716 days ago
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