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It's All About HOW You Say It.......

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Accountability. Accountable. Whatever form this word comes in, I HATE it!!! emoticon

For me, this word evokes images of misery and punishment. Something MAKING me do something I DONT want to do. It grates on my nerves every time I see it. My first reaction is to avoid and defy whatever 'makes' me 'accountable'. Hmmm sounds like I've got some issues to ferret out and work on around this thought.... emoticon

So I prefer to frame the concept as 'guidance'. emoticon

My chief guidance tools are my scale and my Blue Book (food log-
I also 'reframed' this term to make the concept more palatable. emoticon )

Each day I use a different color Ink Joy pen to 'capture' what I eat, when, calories and protein amts. I use this info as a 'memory tool' to remind me where I am in the moment. When I write stuff down, I don't have to remember it. Also, it gives me an 'objective factual' view of my eating. No exaggerations or minimizing as my brain likes to do.... :)

I used to think of this tool as a punishment and guilt log. If I wasn't perfect, I'd have a mini-meltdown and stop logging for the day(s) until my bad feelings went away.

After MUCH trial and error, I finally figured out that I need to reframe the concept for myself.

I'm a very visual person, so I envisioned my Blue Book as a daily visual of my eating. When I write stuff down on paper, I don't have to carry the mental clutter swirling around in my head. My policy is 'NO JUDGEMENT'. I don't stress or beat myself up if I eat more than I'd like or something not on plan. I just use the info to adjust something else in my life like adding more activity, fun, rest, etc. Or subtracting something like less caffeine, which I have a tendency to think of as 'more is better'....NOT!

I also LOVE words- Reading to get my mind started in the morning and also Writing my thoughts--- as you all can tell! emoticon

THANKS Sparkfriends for being here!!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SAMI199 6/16/2013 5:09PM

    emoticon I have read so many articles about how positive approaches make ALL the difference.It does matter how we say it.


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MPETERSON2311 6/13/2013 11:01AM

    what a great blog! Thanks for the inspiration.

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JANEMARIE77 6/13/2013 9:28AM

    your doing great they are just words just thoughts your changing them to help you instead of using them to hurt you what a wonderfully smart women you are

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2HAMSDIET 6/13/2013 8:54AM

    I too love colored pens and have a rainbow set. Stickers are another on of my weakness. I think I am going to start taking pictures of what I eat when I go out. Not so much for me but to try and get my husband to do the same. All part of my push to be more and more mindful with my eating.

You are doing great you don't need perfection but to live it and that you are doing.
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LJCANNON 6/12/2013 5:16PM

    emoticon It is Truly Liberating when we discover the "Right" Words or Actions forOur Own Journey!!
emoticon CONGRATULATIONS on finding Yours!!

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CAKEMAKERMOM 6/12/2013 4:46PM

    Some words just bring up thoughts like that. I'm glad you figured out the right words for you. Keep it up!

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CORTNEY-LEE 6/12/2013 1:43PM

    You are doing such a great job.

I log on Spark every day. I like the concept of "guidance tools" - that is a good one.

I love using colored pens and stuff. That is a great idea!!

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LAURELSPARK 6/12/2013 1:35PM

    Make the most of what motivates you!!

I'm also a visual person. I still have an old fashioned desk-blotter calendar and highlight with green, blue, pink, and yellow, depending on the purpose of the entry. My husband thinks I'm a little looney but I can see it across the room.

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BUTEAFULL 6/12/2013 10:48AM

    an EXCELLENT idea to use different colors for each days' tally

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MLDRLD 6/12/2013 10:35AM

    I admire the way you have taken "button pushing" words like accountability and renamed and reworked them to they work in a positive way for you! emoticon

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