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Wednesday, June 12, 2013

There are two kinds of people.

First, you’ve got the toe-dippers.

These are the ones who stand at the edge of the water. The tip of their toe tells them it’s too cold. They wait to see if there might be weird fish in this lake. They wait to see if anyone else is going to swim with them. They wait to see if they’ll feel foolish. They wait to see if they might feel more comfortable someday in the future.

And there are those who jump in.

These are the ones who go under and burst out with a shout that it’s freakin’ COLD! But then, they swim. Their body warms up. They get the hang of it. They see amazing fish. They laugh with their swimming, splashing friends.

Toe-dippers get the temporary satisfaction of being safe. True, they’ll never have to experience the paralyzing fear that happens when you’re about to step on a stage or host your first event. Or the heart-thumping vulnerability of releasing a book. Or even the heartbreak of losing a great team member or client.

But they will also miss out on the greatest reward of all… who you become when you dance out on the edges of your comfort zone.

In our lives, we’ve all been both kinds of people. But let’s face it. Most people are scared to take even the slightest chance on themselves. They’ve been taught – by their environment, by their families, or by their teachers – not to trust their own ideas and dreams. They’ve been taught to play safe.

Risk is different for everyone. For some, it’s a simple action, like raising your prices. For others, it’s a big giant change, like starting a business or hiring a coach, or ending a dead-end relationship.

Sometimes it’s not really a risk. It’s just an action. But since it’s not something you’re used to doing, it feels like a risk.

So, here.

Let me do something for you.

Let me take you by the shoulders right now.

Let me look you directly in the eyes and say:

If you’ve been waiting, stop it.

You know it’s time.

You simply know it’s time to take the chance or to take some action. You might not know it consciously, but you do know it DEEPLY.


Well, there are always clues.

So let’s do this.

It might be time to take a chance on yourself if…

• You’ve said, “…at least I have benefits” more than once in the last month.

• You’ve written “My job has benefits” in your gratitude journal more than 25 times in the past month.

• You think to yourself, “I need to just learn to surrender to this place and be present and grateful.” And a few seconds later, you think, “Don’t I?”

• You’re waiting to be discovered, rather than committing to discovering yourself.

• You check your email regularly to see if you’ve been discovered yet.

• You’ve convinced yourself that everyone who has their own business works 12 hour days and you most certainly don’t want that.

• There are more than three empty Ben & Jerry’s Cookie Dough Ice Cream containers in your trash this week.

• You envy the cast of Glee.

• You envy your cat.

• You envy. Ever.

• You’ve thought, “Maybe God (or the Universe) just doesn’t want me to succeed.”

• You watched “The Notebook” more than three times in the past month.

• You’ve used any of the following words or phrases when referring to yourself: “Stuck.” “Can’t.” “Shouldn’t.” “Should.” Or “This is just how I am.”

• You’ve used the following word when referring to anyone else: “Fault.”

• You’ve used any of the following words or phrases when referring to your situation: “Wish.” “Yeah, but” “Benefits.” Or “This is just how it is.”

• You sigh more than 8 times a day.

• You bit off your acrylic nails last week.

• You are sure that other people don’t experience fear.

• You worry about upsetting your parents.

• You worry about upsetting your friends.

• You worry about upsetting your spouse.

• You worry about upsetting the cashier at the grocery store.

• You’re waiting until you’re sure you can do it perfectly.

• You think “getting out of your comfort zone” means getting out of bed in the morning.

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    I forgot where I read this was you! Great post & I have thought about it a few times the past weeks. Actually used it in my head. I have taken a step back in the past year & been that toe-dipper, but it ends now.

    Hope you are doing good, Kali Gurl!
    1728 days ago
  • LINDA!
    Wonderful blog!!
    1740 days ago
    This was spot on. It's a shame that for so many of us, we learn this so much later in life. There's no time like the present!
    1741 days ago
  • SHARON10002
    This was emoticon ! I'll jump in a pool, but not the ocean. I can see the bottom of the pool, but not the ocean.
    Loved the humor in this! Thanks for sharing.
    1741 days ago
    I loved this blog and it made me appreciate how far I have come. I grew up with a dad that was very strict and controlling, and didn't let us do anything for fear of something bad happening. I broke free of that thinking and married a man who is so opposite of that.

    Sticking with your theme of jumping in the ocean, two of my favorite experiences ever involved the water. One, we were snorkeling off the Florida Keys and a manatee was at most 100 yards from us. Shocking, thrilling, amazing. Second, we were snorkeling in Kauai and a monk seal swam right underneath me, surfaced about 6 feet away, and just looked at me for a while before swimming away.

    Those moments for me are what I live for, aside of course from family and friends. Thanks for sharing. emoticon
    1741 days ago
    Letting Go is that very frightening 1st step:::..but Oh The Rewards after you Decide to JUMP emoticon are not comparable to what was before!
    ...:::and that Metamorphosis Dance becomes more dazzling the 2nd time!

    Thanks for always sharing the emoticon stuff! ~ Laura
    1742 days ago
    "You're waiting until you're sure you can do it perfectly." I recognize that too often in my life! Thank you for posting this, Kal!
    1742 days ago
  • PRIZM96
    GREAT BLOG, Mama Kal! Thank you for sharing! :-)
    1742 days ago
    It's fear of failure (or for me, public failure) that keeps me back. I carefully select opportunities that I have a chance at. We see others who should be more discriminating, too; ever watch American Idol? And we wish some of them would have stayed home? They DID try, and humiliated themselves. Not for me. Privacy is part of the selection equation.
    1742 days ago
    emoticon blog!! Thanks for posting this!!
    1742 days ago
    Wonderful and truly useful blog. I think the words are so true and the thought behind the words is amazing - THANK YOU for sharing this with us. You are a really special person.
    1742 days ago
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