Pouring it out.......my heart......
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Well, I am just all about blogging the last few days- I have had so many emotions pouring out of me that I just have to put them somewhere- so basically, I found out that a lady that my husband has been working with for a long time- who I had SERIOUS reservations about- turned out to be a villain to my family- I cannot tell you how many conversations that my hubby and I had- and I told him....I do no trust her.....I dont know why- I just dont- he assured me that I needed to squash it- that it was all in my head- turns out it was SO not in my head- He abruptly quit working for her about 6 months ago- he told me that it was over some money/ hours breakdown (he is a contractor and she is an interior designer- who hired him to help on jobs she was working on)........she is single, after being divorced twice- and she has no kids, nothing to do but owrk, make money, remodel her home, take care of her dogs....etc etc etc.......well, my husband and I went on a marriage retreat last weekend- and while we have a great marriage and an amazing relationship- I could just tell that he had been struggling with something and finally this weekend he set me down and told me that she had been begging him to leave me and our 2 little girls for months- and finally she waited until everyone left one day and went after him- I am so upset- I want to hunt her down and just take her in my hands- but I have been reaching out to my girls for advice and comfort- and trying to realize that there is nothing else to be done- my husband did all that needed to be done- he just walked away- I wish that he would have left her sooner :( that kind of breaks my heart- but now I am left with all of these emotions- he waited 6 months to tell me- he said that he knew he had to tell me, but he knew what a hard time I would have with it- and he jsut wanted to wait until he felt like it was the right time- so now that all this time has passed- it is somewhat old news to him- not that he is taking it lightly, but to me it is like it happened yesterday- I do have to throw in the inevitable- and I am sure that you all can identify with this- she has a great body- no scars from babies- no stratch marks- no nothing- and now, with the info that my hubby has given me- I know that she made sure that he saw all of her before he even had a chance to register everything- it makes me want to cry thinking of all my loose hanging skin- and the thoughts that there is no comparison- God, I am crying my eyes out right now- how could someone do this to my family? To my babies? To top it all off, my husband is one of the sweetest nost caring people that you will ever meet- that being said, I know that we have passed by her a couple of times and they have waved to each other- and said hi in passing- of course, I have to be honest...not sure how I will handle it if I ever lay eyes on her- but I want him to hate her as much as I do- to know that she tried to ruin not only my life but my babies- I am sorry- I just had to get the poison out!!
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1312 days ago
You are a beautiful person! Don't ever forget that.
Have a blessed day!
~ Mary Alice ~
1312 days ago
HEY GURL? SORRY I'M JUST GETTING THIS (6-15 @ 8:15PM) B/C I BEEN OFF FOR A FEW DAYS, AND I'M GLAD YOU GOT IT ALL OUT HONEY. I REALLY DON'T FEEL LIKE TYPING ALL THIS B/C THIS WILL BE A LONG ONE SO YOU GONNA HAVE TO GET YOU A YAHOO IM (CREATE A YAHOO EMAIL GURL AND THATS YOUR YAHOO IM NAME) AND IM ME WHEN YOU GET IT B/C I GOT LOTS TO SAY TO YOU BOUT THIS HONEY JUST HOLLA AT ME THERE WHEN YOU GET YOURS.
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1314 days ago
Women and some men like this are the scourge of the earth. I lost my Husband to one of these evil witches, she put it out there, and he was weak. They lasted 3 years with 1 child, she left him and the child. He has also been married 4 times. I chose to not remarry after we split up.
Anyway, you are one lucky woman to have the strong husband you do, because it's very hard for the weak ones, when these Black Widows are searching for the weakest of men.
Your marriage is strong, keep the faith, and trust your Husband, he came to you and told you what was happening. Most would not.
1316 days ago
I have to say I was amazed to read this. You are such a beautiful woman and I can understand why your husband chose you. Your beautiful, your honest, you are caring, and your all around amazing. She obviously couldn't do half the things that you have. She a very weak and pathetic woman to try and go after a married man. She obviously doesn't think much of herself if she is looking get a married man. I bet you she is only doing it to make herself feel good. I am sure she hates herself. Your husband obviously loves you dearly. Men just for some reason like us can't see when the opposite sex is attracted to them but the same sex can. No worries hon it will get better because you have a beautiful and strong family!
1316 days ago
Thanks for stopping by my blog and friending me. I think all these women below my comment have excellent things to say. He chose YOU. He got honest though it took time and he walked away from a bad situation. That woman was trouble. Though I know you're so torn up inside about this, I know you're strong woman and can make it through this. Try not to dwell on the what-ifs and stay in the present moment...where you have a beautiful family that was not destroyed by some piss-poor passerby. Depression and anxiety are deceiving and tell us to worry and fret over things that have happened and things that might happen when really we just have the stay in the moment and breathe. You are poised and faithful. Believe you will get through this and talk out your feelings with someone you trust.
1317 days ago
Don't let this ruin your marriage. Be careful that you don't talk about this with hubby while children might hear. Get past this and time will heal some of those wounds. Hubby was smart enough to recognize the danger in this woman and get awayfrom her. Good for him!
1317 days ago
OMG you told me about her SO long ago! You were so right! Women know! Your hubby did everything right- I just know it hurts and you wish he would have told you sooner- you are one SKINNY lucky beautiful lady INSIDE and OUT!!!!!
1318 days ago
Just remember,no matter how hard you are on yourself or how hard your self esteem was hit.....
He picked you...NOT her :)
1318 days ago
first, i think it's great that your husband was honest with you, even though it took so long. second, props to him for rejecting her and getting himself out of the situation. a lot of guys aren't that strong. now, for you! you're a million times better than this woman! you repect yourself enough to not go after someone elses man. you are strong and motivated, as your stretch marks, etc indicate. and most of all, you're not selfish like her. she's obviously very sad and lonely and unhappy with her own life. that is no excuse to try to ruin you and your family's happy life. keep your chin up and lean on your husband. use this to make your relationship stronger. it may take a while, but you will come out happier and stronger once you weather the storm together. be honest with him! let him know it upsets you that they still have contact, not matter how little. his job is to make you not doubt him or lose trust in him.
1318 days ago
Wow, I'd want to "take her down" if I ever saw her. (Our womenly instincts are usually always right!) Your husband obviously loves you and walked away from her and the job. That says a lot about him and his dedication to your family.
To me she is the worst kind of person. She may "look good" on the outside, but she is pure ugly inside! Others see through such people! Besides, stretch marks and "saggy skin" are badges of honor for us moms!
Hang in there! Remember that your husband already "chose" you when he married you and he "chose" you again!!! You should feel great about that!
P.S. You are beautiful!
1318 days ago
Comment edited on: 6/11/2013 5:15:01 PM
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