Do you FEEL like a success?
I was thinking about this yesterday on my run. Not to go all Negative Nellie on you, I don't always feel like a success.
I have lost weight. success
I have kept that weight off. success
I would like to lose a bit more. Not doing so well with that.
I became a runner. When I first started running I saw success every time I laced up. My improvements were very tangible evidence of success and I KNEW I was being successful.
Enter a list of issues and my self expectations don't always match my reality. When that happens, I don't feel very successful even though I know I am.
This discrepancy between our success and our feelings of success can be applied to other aspects of our life too and if we let it, it can lead to feelings of failure, helplessness and just plain frustration.
The very simplistic response is to just not allow those feelings to drive us....but that is easier said than done. My best efforts to fight this have to do with going out and defying it.
When I laced up yesterday, I knew I was not meeting my planned mileage for the week. I told myself, "Big deal, slight set back, just repeat the weeks plan in the next week and build from there." But of course my mind wasn't entirely buying it which is why these thoughts of success and failure were running through my head while my feet were running around the lake. LOL While I won't say that any run is totally bad, this one wasn't exactly pretty, there were lots of reasons for that, not the least of which the weather and my allergies.....but I went out and ran. And I thought about my successes and those things that don't feel like successes but really are.
I'm still thinking about those things.
Can I suggest you do the same? Don't dwell on just the wins. Break things down and recognize that sometimes just getting up and trying are successes in themselves. Every run is unique in some way and every day is too. Maybe we step on the scale and it doesn't say what we want to hear...but the scale isn't the only thing speaking to us...what does the mirror say?...forget about those things....what does the body say? I'm not where I was last year when it comes to running...maybe I'm smarter? After all I seem to be getting much much better at maintaining my pace and I'm still lacing up and getting out there so what's not to love?
We won't always feel entirely successful in everything we do....but we are ALWAYS successful at something.