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Which role model are you of these two?

Saturday, June 08, 2013

This weekend, I’m in Budapest for a training weekend. I organized it, but I was not the facilitator, sort of a personally made business trip. I also took my running gear with me, as usual. Although I didn’t plan ahead this time when and how much will I run, but I set the goal to run at least one time, and walk 30 minutes every day.

Suddenly I had some free time in the morning yesterday. I decided to use it for a short run as I contracted with myself. I asked my host the night before if there are any good locations nearby to run. I was surprised, as he said there is a running track a few blocks away in the park. I didn't know about it all! So, shoes on, let’s hit the track.

During the 2nd lap, I noticed this ~60 year old guy running in front of me. It was the second time I passed him, but now, he came into my attention.

I was thinking, how great, at this age, I also want to be like him. Be out, and running. Maybe I will have some issues with my health, I won’t look like a new titan, but I want to be out there like him.

Then I noticed another guy, about 45-50, sitting on a bench, drinking a beer. And I started to think, yes sitting, time off, on a nice bench, in a park, this is something good to do. Relax, time for myself.

Then, I passed by him, and the running “grandpa” was again in sight. Yes, and again, my thoughts came, I want to do like him, when I’ll be 60.

And then I realized: these two persons were modeling a behavior for me, without even knowing that they are doing it. There simple presence, and doing what they were doing, had an effect on me.

And probably I do the same for other people.
I’m also a role model for my friends, family, colleagues, training participants, people on the street. I AM present somewhere in the World, and I do MODEL a behavior for others, intentionally or not.

So, what behavior do you model with your behavior for the people around you?

Do you like what you model?

If you could do in intentionally, what behavior would you model for others?

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CLAIRESML 6/15/2013 10:58PM

    Hi Oliver,
Great blog getting us to think and consider......
Its funny, but being 54 and right at the edge of obese/overweight I used to have the opinion that everyone is looking at me 'slow jogging' and thinking "oh I feel sorry for her".....
But, I got over that, and decided either people probably didn't even notice me or perhaps some would smile and wave ; as would I.
But, now I actually feel good that I take the time and effort to do this for my health instead of just drinking my nightly martinis .
I like your advice to focus on a singular goal at a time, and will take that up tomorrow and chart things as well.
Thanks for your good advise!

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MILLIE5522 6/11/2013 5:12PM

    Being kind towards others.......... its' a much underestimated quality.

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ALDEBARANIAN 6/8/2013 7:41PM

    Drive gently

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    LOVE the 60 yr old !!!! I need to do a blog based also on what happened today that I went thru. It was sooo sad, but showed me how FAR I've COME ALONG !!!

to be the man who WAS Jogging/running at age 60 WOOHOOO !! I WISH I COULD !! my feet have broken 8 times in 3 yrs, so that's OUT for me,,, and I in general use a wheelchair to get around, but ITS ALL IN THE ATTITUDE !! Cos there are PLENTY OF OTHER exercises I CAN AND DO !!!!! one can sit by IDLEY and CRY "over spilt milk" or they can get UP AND LIVE LIFE !! its UP TO US !! So yuppers,,, gonna go and write that blog,, ThANKS cos I wanted to write one, but didn't know how to start off. this guy on the bus today,,, was really upsetting, and yet, also inspiring.

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FITFOODIE806 6/8/2013 2:15PM

    Great blog! I want to be the old runner. I do my best to live a healthy, positive life everyday.

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    I am 60 and although I am not out running, I am working on yoga everyday. Recently a much younger woman came up to me after a class and told me that I am an inspiration to her because I try to do everything. She didn't realize I was standing on jelly-legs. A year and a half ago I was an example of how not to live. Now I think I am an example of how choosing a healthy lifestyle improves every aspect of your life.

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EVER-HOPEFUL 6/8/2013 1:55PM

    i donīt try to be a role model well not consciously but i was always brought up to always do my best no matter friends are always commiting how strong i am so are the drī dr called me to all his assistant drīs his miricle women,my gp things i am the strongest person she knows.everyone who knows me wonders how i keep going and always seem to have a smile on my face and look at the positive no matter what the situation.they all say how i give them hope and also how i sometimes make them feel guilty when they let the small things get them down and then see or thing of me .they say i and my life help them put their own life into perspective and when in a bad situation in their life they think of me and their life doesnīt seem so bad.on one side i am pleased i help them feel better and cope with their own life better but on the other side i donīt like them feel ashamed on my behalf or that they put me on so high a pedistile as i donīt see myself as strong at all.i live by the philosophy that god wouldnīt give me anything i couldnīt cope with.if god thinks i can cope with what life comes my way who am i to say god is wrong so i just get on with it so you could say my faith carries me.donīt know weather this answers your question or not.well done for getting your run in. emoticon

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MOBYCARP 6/8/2013 10:44AM

    I want to be the guy out there running who doesn't give a crap about the guy sitting around drinking beer but will wave to the younger runner. I want to be the guy who doesn't think 60 pushups are exercise, but they're more of a morning routine like brushing his teeth. I want to be the guy who does pullups every day, just because he can and so he'll still be able to do that tomorrow.

Wait a minute . . . I *am* that guy! And I think maybe you're the role model you really want to be, right now, without waiting for your 60th birthday.

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KCLARK89 6/8/2013 10:13AM

    Awesome blog!! I think too more often than not, it isn't anything that we say or do deliberately, but it's how we ARE as a person that people notice.

I hope people can see my work ethic. I bust my butt to get where I want to go, and I want people to see that you CAN do it even if it is hard along the way :)

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AEROBISAURUS 6/8/2013 10:03AM

    Yes! Strength, Positivity, Love, Truth, Acceptance, and Balance! We are all connected in the chain of life, we are all one, all made up of the same matter. What you reap is what you sew.

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BESSHAILE 6/8/2013 8:29AM

    I got so much from attending Weight Watcher meetings that had members who had reached their goals, so I go now that I've reached mine, to show them that it's possible to get there if you just don't quit.

:) You are a role model for us all.

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GETSTRONGRRR 6/8/2013 8:01AM

    I always try to set the example! I did 75 pushups in 1 minute yesterday....a bunch of 20 & 30 year olds around me struggled to get only 40-50. I got a bunch of high fives for a "53-year old man"!

I heard a good saying a while ago. "If you want to look good at 80....take good care of yourself at 40!"

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MARGARITTM 6/8/2013 7:34AM

    Great pics and you are so right.

I AM the old one!!!!! It always surprises me when people say I have inspired them.

I always feel like ME? ME? I have zero self discipline...really???? but if I can do it - you can too!

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KELLIEBEAN 6/8/2013 7:15AM

    I am always amazed when I run in 5Ks and see many older people. It's always inspiring.

I definitely want to remain active and healthy as long as I can and hope that others are inspired a little when they see me out there running.

Great blog. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

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KRISZTA11 6/8/2013 6:11AM

    Thank you for sharing!
I'm glad you had a chance to run on the island before it was closed down because of the floods.

I hope people around me see how healthy lifestyle makes me stronger and happier, and choose to make positive choices for themselves.

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CHARITY1973 6/8/2013 4:37AM

    Nice blog! As I ran today I went past a lot of people walking and they all seemed really surprised to see someone running where they only thought people walked. I'm guessing that they may have found a quicker stride once they saw me running.

I however saw a woman in her 70's running this week and I wanted to be her. She ran with a slight stiffness in her hips but otherwise she ran upright, quickly and had her head high. Awesome!

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SUNSET09 6/8/2013 3:20AM

  I like to be the one that sets the examples for others to follow; whether it's to eat right, work out, be honest, get down and dirty as how can you ask others to do, if you won't do it yourself!? emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Run on! emoticon

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STRIVERONE 6/8/2013 2:55AM

    I would like to be a model of consistency and commitment tempered by moderation.

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VISUALLYRICS 6/8/2013 1:15AM

    Thank you for your words of wisdom.
I choose to be a simple presence for others to see and hopefully I may encourage them to make improvements in their lives without a word....:::just through my living example. emoticon

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