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Day 554- Why I Tell People How Much I Weigh

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Friday, June 07, 2013

Yes, you read that right.

I tell people how much I weigh. Maybe not as shocking now that I've had some weight loss success, but the truth is, I've always told them.

When I was 275 pounds, I told them that. And now looking back on it, I realize my reasons were very strange. It was as if by telling them, "yes, I weigh 275 pounds" and almost always receiving the "Oh, well you don't look it" response, that somehow made it okay.

It was NEVER okay. I can't imagine the stress and strain I put on my body at that weight. I had knee problems when I played soccer and terrible heartburn. Not to mention elevated blood pressure and one blood test that had me at borderline high cholesterol.

I know a lot of people are shy about their weight and could never bring themselves to tell people how much they weigh. And that's absolutely fine. Certainly don't do it for the reason I did. But also realize this.

Your weight is just a number. Just one characteristic of a thousand different things that make you who you are. And while it might correlate to other numbers, your pants size or blood pressure, or other things, your happiness or your physical stamina, it is certainly not the most important part of your life.

I realized that all the other times that I've dieted or attempted to change my life, I became so fixated on my weight because that's all that I thought mattered. When really it's such an infinitesimal part of who I am.

So now when I tell people how much I weigh, it's to tell them so much more than that number. It's to tell them that I hit a very bad low in my life when I was at my highest weight. And that I finally have the passion and drive to change my life into what I want it to be. That number tells them that I'm constantly working to improve myself, and am a goal-setter with dreams to reach.

Telling someone my weight is like telling someone the kind of music I listen to, the type of sports I play or my favorite television show. It's something that makes me who I am, but more importantly is something that I am in complete control of and therefore am proud of.

So here it is.

My name is Jan-Marie, and this morning I weighed 194.8 pounds. 80 pounds down from my highest weight ever, and 12 pounds up from my lowest since joining SparkPeople.

It really is just a number.

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CATNCAG 4/14/2014 5:26PM

    Great blog Jan-Marie! emoticon emoticon

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SUPERSYLPH 8/11/2013 1:40PM

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MONTREAL12 8/7/2013 11:05AM

  Good point; I also have often heard the "You, don't look-it" reply; as you mention, that doesn't make it right! In my case, being obese keeps my focus on some of the treats that I have allowed myself; stating do I really want that ice cream sandwich; am I willing to sacrifice the caloric count emoticon for a few minutes of presumed pleasure; often, it stops me in my tracks; emoticon allowing me to muster the strength to avoid the temptation. So thanks for telling it like it is; emoticon maybe, this doesn't work for everyone; it does for me! emoticon

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MAGNOLIA416 7/6/2013 10:51PM

    Bravo!!

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CAROLJ35 7/1/2013 7:46PM

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GRAMPIAN 6/22/2013 2:55PM

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CORNERKICK 6/20/2013 1:55AM

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CFMOSS 6/19/2013 11:15AM

    Good going - keep it up.

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MYRNA929 6/19/2013 10:48AM

    Great blog! I love your attitude!

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EFFRAYECHILDE 6/19/2013 8:29AM

    emoticon
I totally believe weight is just a number too. And, have honestly always told my true weight to anyone that asks.

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SHANNONK1222 6/17/2013 4:58PM

    You just inspired me in so many ways. Today was my first day back to Sparkpeople.com. Thank you for the motiviation!!!

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NANHBH 6/17/2013 12:33PM

    There's no river called Denial in your life! Love your honesty.
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KJYUMANG 6/17/2013 1:45AM

    Congrats! As of right now I weigh 264 lbs and I get the same reaction you used to. I mostly tell people about my weight to keep myself in check. It somehow keeps me honest with myself.

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LIVINHEALTHY9 6/16/2013 8:14PM

    Great blog! Love your positive attitude.

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MAW_OH 6/16/2013 8:02PM

    WTG, you are brave!

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RUNNINGYOGINIRE 6/14/2013 12:25PM

  Great attitude about the topic of the 'number'.

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HEALTHYMLB 6/14/2013 7:55AM

    emoticon happy flag day

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HEALTHYMLB 6/14/2013 7:55AM

    207 today down 23 and 47 more to go !!!!!! OtHer numbers of importance 8 inches on waist and 2 inches on arms ! Scale of 1 to 10 on self esteem was a 2 to 3 and now a 7 +| depending on they day, physical fitNess level 2 and now a 7 numbers that all work to reenforce this works plus . The more spark points I get a day equal to the stronger and more connected and educated I am with spark to reenforce this healthy lifestyle, thanks for yiur blog ! emoticon

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SKINNYNINNY25 6/13/2013 3:13PM

    It really is just a number. I'm Rhiannon I'm at 206, and that's the biggest I've ever been. My heart sank to my stomach the day I stepped on the scale and saw 200. I would have kept 199 forever just to not see 200. However, I'm past that. I'm so proud of you for looking past the number and to who you are and who you've become! :o) Truly inspirational. You've got this!

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BANDMOM2012 6/13/2013 10:07AM

    Wonderful blog!

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LORETTA24 6/12/2013 11:34AM

    Isn't Spark wonderful! Not only do they help us shed the pounds but they help us shed the negative thinking. Wow! Love it! Thank you for sharing! emoticon

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SIZE8NOTSOMUCH 6/12/2013 7:41AM

    Way to go Jan-Marie... I wish I had the guts!!!

Best,
J


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LESLIE_2B_LESS 6/12/2013 12:32AM

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KIMBERLY0916 6/11/2013 2:10PM

    awesome!! you're doing great! very inspirational to me. i have never really had qualms about telling my age but i never really told my weight. i do now b/c i like to say how far along I've come and where I'm at now. Yesterday I got to 200. I thought I was hallucinating. That's kind of been my goal even though I usually don't set goals. Realistically I'd like to get back to 180 which is where I was before all my mental health med roulette issues began. That was 2003. I gained over 50 pounds that first year. I remember being terrified every weigh-in as i crept into the 190s then 195, 196, 197, and up over 200. and somehow even at my heaviest weight (270 i believe) i just didn't care, didn't know how to, didn't know what to do either.

I've been thinking about starting to write these blog things but I've never done it. I usually just share my progress and thoughts in the team I lead but now I see how blogs can reach more people and get more support in the good times and bad.

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LEESAAB 6/11/2013 12:02PM

    emoticon Great perspective.

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HLOCHRIDGE 6/11/2013 11:20AM

    Just a number!

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PENOWOK 6/11/2013 7:11AM

    You are right-it's just a number!!

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MAKINGITCOUNT91 6/11/2013 12:05AM

    So proud of you girl! You've come so far since I started my journey in March last year, and I've loved watching you continue to grow and change, just as I have done as well... You have so much to be proud of and excited about! Life for you has changed so much, and you have every right to be thrilled! You were always a wonderful person, but losing the weight has made you a healthier one! You're right that our weight doesn't define us, and hey if we work at it, it's something that can always be changed. Best of luck to you continuing on your journey!!! xx

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CM_GARDNER78 6/10/2013 11:59PM

    Amen girl!! You are totally right!! We all are so much more than a number!! WTG!

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SUSIEMT 6/10/2013 11:30PM

    You are so right! It is only a number!

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ROXYCARIN 6/10/2013 10:45PM

  I lost 80 lbs too

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CRABBYTHING 6/10/2013 8:05PM

    Way to go! I used to be ok with what I weighed, now I just feel yucky after gaining some back.

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BDSTOFF 6/10/2013 8:01PM

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EATVEGAN 6/10/2013 5:30PM

    Thanks, very well thought-out and inspirational. I'll have to give it some thought. I like being thinner (right now I'm not), but after a while I am happier that I am becoming disciplined. The number is just an indication of how out-of-control I am. Congratulations on that 80 lbs.

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JUSTCHELLE75 6/10/2013 5:02PM

    Congrats. I am getting ready to yell mine as well

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APACHESTEVE 6/10/2013 4:20PM

    Hi Jan-Marie: I LOVED this blog and your perspeective. You have given me something big to think about. I've come to understand that weight does not define me, nor should it define my journey to health. What I had not considered is that telling folks my weight is no different than telling them that I like Styx, or Star Trek, or the St Louis Cardinals. Yes, I like your idea!!!

Best Wishes
Steve

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JRRING 6/10/2013 4:19PM

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KABMPH 6/10/2013 3:41PM

    This is interesting. How do people respond? I would feel very uncomfortable if someone told me how much they weighed for no apparent reason. How do you work it into conversation?

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EG8383 6/10/2013 2:49PM

  so empowering. Thank you for giving me a different point of view. It is just a number and wish everyone would see it as that. Thanks for standing your ground and owning it!

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FARIS71 6/10/2013 2:31PM

    Darn skippy!

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ITSGOT-TOGO 6/10/2013 1:59PM

    Keep up the good work, 80lbs is awesome! emoticon
Jayne

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MRSTABER 6/10/2013 1:36PM

    I absolutely love this! Thank you so much!

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SHELLYMOPTOP101 6/10/2013 12:39PM

    Great attitude! When I get upset about my weight I am just going to need to remind myself that it is just a number!

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KWOOD1955 6/10/2013 12:30PM

    Good for you, BOBCATGIRL76, that you tell other what you weigh -- what a relief from hiding! And CONGRATS on your 80 loss!

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SWERTENBERGER1 6/10/2013 12:05PM

    Awesome blog and you are very inspirational! Keep up the good work!!

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CHEETARA79 6/10/2013 11:05AM

    I'm Andrea and I weigh 175!

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JILLRY03 6/10/2013 10:54AM

    I have just started telling people my weight too!! Some how I feel as if it keeps me accountable!! So My name is Jill and I weight 211.6!!
Your blogs are always inspirational!! Keep up the good work! emoticon

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MYKIDSRSWEET 6/10/2013 9:59AM

    Good work!

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