Thursday, June 06, 2013
I am an HGTV addict. Like much of America, I love shows like House Hunters, or Love It Or List It. On House Hunters we see people saying: "I want a big house with a big gourmet kitchen, hardwood floors throughout, 5 bedrooms, 5 bathrooms, a grand entry, high end finishes. On a large fenced lot where I can't see any neighbors. Walking distance to shops. For $200,000." If they see a house "at the top of my budget" it SHOULD have all those things because they want them, and they are angry. And we laugh.
Or on Love It Or List It: "I will give Hilary $50,000 to add two bedrooms and a bath without making any of the other rooms smaller. AND pay for asbestos remediation and termite damage and the leaking basement wall." We watch the homeowners furious that she can't take that tiny budget and rebuild their home because it's all the money they have so "if she's as good as she says she is, she'll do it because that's what I want." And we laugh.
Then we wonder why if we cave at McDonald's, or hit the buffet or Dunkin Donuts, that we don't lose the weight because "I want it!" And we are angry because "It doesn't work". The desire should be enough because that desire is so strong.
You can't have something because you think you SHOULD have it. Reality is that you can't have a million dollar house for $200,000. You can't have a house rebuilt for $50,000. And you can't eat like you used to and lose weight.
But people finally accept (happily or angrily) their financial constraints because the world won't let them do otherwise. There is no world to force us into realizing that donuts don't lead to weight loss. It isn't funny when it's us, but we can still accept and do it.
Once you've gotten to goal, you can look BACK and chuckle!