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Thursday, June 06, 2013

Sometimes I feel like I don't have anything profound to say, so I shouldn't blog. I know intellectually that I will figure out how to deal with the situation I'll describe. But I sure am anxious about it. And I want to eat, eat, eat.

We moved my mother from the old assisted living place (OP) to a new and better-for-her place (NP) closer to me last week. It looks like short term her cash flow is messed up, I'm going to have to cover it, and generally fix things. She had plenty of money in the bank and has a generous pension to cover her expenses. Except, I didn't know the OP was going to take out an automatic payment for June. I was involved in her move to the old place, so I didn't know this was coming. So, her bank balance and two months of months of pension are not going to quite cover May and June at the OP and part May, all of June and last month's rent at the NP. Essentially, four months of rent out two months of income and a small bank balance. Arggh. And did I mention Mother asked us to help her buy a laptop for my DD's HS graduation? So, we will not get reimbursed for that, the moving truck and a few other things for awhile. I have been very very anxious about money and trying to pay off some bills to get that stressor off me. Argggh.

In time, the money will get straightened out. But I am so stressed by the fact that it keeps getting put off further and further.

Update: Finally got in touch with the director and billing for OP - she will be getting credits for the June rent and unused personal services from 5.27 on. But it may take 45 days. The billing person said she will put it through as a rush so that it hopefully will come out sooner. I feel like I can breathe, I can relax again.
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  • OWL_20
    $$ is always a stressful topic! So glad you got it partially sorted out, and Mom, too. emoticon
    1705 days ago
    Wow, so sorry about that. Well at least there is light at the end of the tunnel, but the next few weeks sound stressful.

    I can so relate to that. I have a feeling whenever you have a bigger planned expense, then somethin unexpected comes out fo the wood work to further mess you up....


    I can also totally relate to the urge to overeat in such situations
    1713 days ago
    1717 days ago
    What a great choice you made!! You are doing great! I'm so glad "things" are working out because you are choosing to work through them! you are wonderful!
    1718 days ago
    So glad you chose blogging over eating! I know that can be a hard choice to make. Glad to hear the OP is going to make things right even if it does take some time. Hang in there. Sounds like you are doing such a great job supporting your mom. I'm sure she appreciates all of you efforts. You are an awesome daughter!
    1718 days ago
  • CHERYLA2012
    You're not alone on SP - come and blog - it's your place to say what you want.

    I'm glad to see that you're feeling better about this.
    1719 days ago
  • BOOKWORM2011
    I love writing when I'm feeling like I am going to stress eat. Just getting it out helps, often getting it down on paper, or screen helps it get off my mind and I see a solution faster. I am glad to hear that they are going to give you a credit and I hope it gets to you soon. emoticon
    1719 days ago
  • BECCA315
    I don't always know what I'm going to say when I start a blog, either. Sometimes just the thought of 'talking' helps...

    1719 days ago
    Blog just because! I think it is helpful in so many ways so even if you think you must have something to say, you don't, you can truly and honestly post your random thoughts emoticon
    1719 days ago
    1719 days ago
    I have dealt with some family's with all that you are going through. This is very stressful . You try so hard to help your parents but don't know all of the black tape.

    Try to breath and it take it one step at a time.

    I just wish there was more daughters like you. My heart goes out to you.

    1719 days ago
    Blogging is a great stress reliever. Good luck with the transition with your mother.
    1719 days ago
    Stress eating -- I know it well. Blogging is a good alternative. Don't worry if nobody responds. (Generally I do not get responses or I just get one or two.) It is there to help you put your thoughts down.

    If you feel like your thoughts are too personal, there is a private journal on Spark that you can use as well.

    What's good is you recognize that this anxiety is making you want to eat. That's the best way to defeat something: figuring out the cause.

    Keep your chin up. You'll get through this one day at a time.
    1719 days ago
    It is very stressful to be everyone's bank! I deal with that too. And it's hard to remember that it will all be OK in the long run.
    Take a deep breath.
    Keep blogging - it's a good thing to let things out.

    I also try to be grateful that I have the means to help my family out. Notice I said try. I'm not always successful, and sometimes just downright grumpy about it.

    That's OK too!

    1719 days ago
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