Thank you everyone for their comments, by the end of the day I was feeling a whole lot more positive, you have all been helpful and I asked a similar question on FB and got interesting comments.
Looks like the average cost for a family of food is between $250 - $400 a week, so it gave me a good idea as to what is realistic to expect.
Today I am having a meeting with a couple who are going to talk about how to save money on a budget ( tailored to my situation) and I will let you know what they say.
One of the people that responded on Fb sent me her menu for the week, I wanted to see how she came out at the lower end of the scale on food. Well looking at her menu I realized just why, she used more pre made packaged food than I do.
She does not buy organic at all, just no name or store brand stuff.
I don't' buy all organic, but I try to get it when I can and when it is on sale etc. I will not buy anything with glucose- fructose in it and I try to avoid GMO's!
When you factor in that my daughter drinks almond milk and I drink Rice milk, it makes a difference too!
My DH and I had a chat about it all last night and I am feeling much better about the whole situation. Granted part of the problem is that because I don't have a car I tend to go to the more expensive 24/7 stores, and it is usually late and I am tired so I don't always make the best decisions! So we are trying to work around that a little bit.
I know I can be more careful about what we spend on food I admit it, but I can't do miracles so the object of yesterday's questions about food budgets and eating healthy were to see where in the spectrum our family fits in. I am not very far off but could probably shave a few $$'s off here and there with more care.
I am looking forward to learning from others on how to be better at this! ( it does not come naturally to me! ) planning a week's menu in advance and sticking to it is HARD for me! I am more spontaneous and tend to want to prepare what I feel like at the time with what I have on hand. Being a creative, spontaneous sort of personality does not lend itself to rigid meal plans .
My husband and I did agree that we will not compromise our health by buying cheap and nasty food, I dont' care how cheap hot dogs are, they will NOT become a regular meal in our home! I will not buy the high sodium soups, I will continue to make mine from scratch even if it may be more expensive than the can that is on sale.
I will continue to get fresh produce and try to do the best I can to get local, non GMO foods.
I just can't back down on that.
So...it is with a little bit more optimism that I tackle the day! Yesterday I felt rather discouraged and overwhelmed!
So thanks for all the advice and support! You are all so priceless!
Oh and the update on the DUCK NEST:
More good news, I am down 1.4 pounds this morning!