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Black & White Thinking

Monday, June 03, 2013

Black and white thinking is our tendency to look at the world in terms of “all or nothing.” My husband & I had a running joke that he was black & white and I was all or nothing-but we but learned that by engaging in this type of thinking, it can actually cause a lot of unnecessary problems in our life,such as increased stress,depression & strained relationships.

Black and white thinking limits our perspective& we miss out on alternative ways of viewing the world. Black and white thinking often creates a false choice between “A” and “B,” when “C” is the more accurate and helpful view. Unfortunately, if we only think in black and white terms, then we are unlikely to even consider “C” a possibility in the first place.

Black and white thinking increases depression by creating artificial “needs” in our life that lead to disappointment and depression.
The cognitive-based psychotherapist Albert Ellis called one example of this “musterbation.” This is our tendency to think that we must have something, or we must do something, or life must be a certain way – or it will be awful.
Black and white thinking doesn’t open us up to the possibility that even if life doesn’t work out exactly the way we think it should, we can still find happiness

Black and white thinking makes us less adaptive,and hinders our growth as individuals. It’s also what keeps us stuck in old habits and thought patterns. By trying new approaches with an open mind we can avoid always be trapped with our same limitations.

Black and white thinking makes us less willing to compromise.
Black and white thinking doesn’t just hurt us, but also the relationships we try to build with other people. When we think everything needs to be a specific way, and we aren’t willing to deviate,it is frustrating to everyone. Flexibility leads to building stronger & happier relationships .

It is amazing when we leave the black & white,all or nothing way of thinking & begin to see all the possibilities. Step outside the box and breathe in the colors.

I found this song which sums it up in an awesome way...

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Thanks for stopping by & let your Spark Shine!

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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SHARON10002 6/9/2013 11:18PM

    Yes, I used to catch myself in this dilemma quite often. I have become better with being aware and present in the moment, but it takes awareness and a change in perception. Thanks for this great reminder to start the new week!
Love the last closing picture! Great work!

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MSLZZY 6/6/2013 9:25AM

    Super song and a great blog!

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CMCGRUN 6/5/2013 7:09PM

    So, true!

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MDMNINA 6/5/2013 2:37PM

    Great thoughts! Thanks for sharing.

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1BEACHWALKER 6/5/2013 12:15AM

    So true!! Awesome blog!! emoticon

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TXMEMAW6 6/4/2013 11:31PM

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    I love color and embrace it so It should come as second nature to me to avoid black and white thinking. I hope that I embrace diversity.

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NPA4LOSS 6/4/2013 10:09PM

    You've done it again! emoticon

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JUMPINJULIE 6/4/2013 5:22PM

    Love your blogs and I love rainbows.

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JANEMARIE77 6/4/2013 7:49AM

    Girl you are awesome thank you I don't know how you found the sound but you are amazing

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LAURELSPARK 6/4/2013 6:55AM

    I needed to be black and white with my job. Now that I'm retired I get to be as colorful as I want. Feels great!

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2HAMSDIET 6/4/2013 1:15AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Let the rainbows fill our lives.. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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GABIBEAR 6/3/2013 11:51PM

    I'm with Jessica, I love colors too! Thank God that I think in colors. I am not a black or white person. I was out walking today and stared at the beautiful picture that God painted on an empty canvas and I was sincerely AWESTRUCK! Great blog Sami!!!!! Great song too!

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JESSICABOOTY 6/3/2013 8:15PM

    I love colors...imagine a world without them. This is as much fun to read as it is to just wallow in color. And the babes from Australia add to the fun!

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    Love it! I am one of those outside of the box thinkers. Great blog.

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1CRAZYDOG 6/3/2013 7:43PM

    Definitely like to see rainbows in my thinking! Hugs and smiles. Appreciate this blog so much.

As a Mom to 2 adopted kids from Korea, there is a LOT of diversity in our home! But tha'ts a GOOD thing!

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JANIEWWJD 6/3/2013 7:34PM

    Thanks for the blog!!!! I know that I am definitely a colorful thinker!!!!
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KELTIC-CARA 6/3/2013 4:10PM

    As I was reading this blog I started thinking; am I a black and white thinker, the answer is no. I tend to see both sides of everything and therefore am not one or the other. I just love colour it is many many degrees. emoticon Thanks Sami

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DLDMIL 6/3/2013 3:00PM

    Thanks for sharing, I definitely need to take all this in and see the rainbows.

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MOMMACASSEY 6/3/2013 1:56PM

    I love these!

Hopefully I can pass this idea on to my girls so they don't have to face the difficulties of musterbation.

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LINDAKAY228 6/3/2013 1:12PM

    I used to be more black and white many years ago but I've learned to be much more openminded and accepting than I used to be. It made me much happier to be free not to have to see everything in black and white!

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MADAMES 6/3/2013 12:55PM

    We have those discussions about all or nothing thinking at our house, too!

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