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June goals


Saturday, June 01, 2013

I know that I have really gotten off track and quit coming on spark for almost the entire month of May. I really don't know what to say other than the fact that I get overwhelmed way too easily. I try to take on too many goals at once and then I seem to just withdraw and people wonder where I went. I know that from now on I need to break this spell, and start to let go of my perfectionist attitude once and for all.

If I don't do all my exercises that day, eat the exact foods according to my meal planner, or even remember to track everything...It seems I have gotten super frustrated with myself and just say well, I might as well give up and start over the next month. This just does not work. In this book I am reading it tells you to focus on the small accomplishments you make through out the day so that you can gradually work your way forward, and I feel that is the very thing that I need to do. I don't understand why I feel like I have to do things perfectly in order to be considered acceptable. This mindset makes me feel like my efforts are going in circles.

Does anyone else struggle with perfectionism? Do you have any advice for me? What's helped you get through that type of thinking? I really tried not to exhaust myself with thoughts today, and all in all, it went pretty good. I did not do perfect today, but I am trying to focus on the things I did accomplish instead of thinking "I should do better."

My goal for this June is to really start coming on spark everyday, just really truly using the resources on here, reading the articles, and taking in the support that is on here, as well as being a friend to others who need support too. I know I've said it before but I am really beyond tired of starting over at this point, so like the quote says, "If you want to quit starting over, stop giving up." Here are the four goals I am focusing on and that is it, I am not overwhelming myself anymore.

1. Daily water 8 glasses emoticon

2. Get in some kind of exercise each day/every other day emoticon

3. follow my list of "things to do instead of overeating" when I need them emoticon

4. keeping up with Spark and staying in contact with friends on here emoticon
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OKIE30 6/8/2013 10:29PM

    Keep plugging away!

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HEALTHYKIM101 6/8/2013 4:07PM

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TEENY_BIKINI 6/8/2013 1:18PM

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GLAMIT 6/6/2013 10:05AM

    Just be accountable for what ever happens. Honesty with yourself and a good kick in the pants. It really is a lot harder to start over then it is to keep going. We find excuses to give up cause really the work is to keep going. Try to think of it as a new way of life. Expect to slip up but know that the answer is to always get back on track.
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ROCKYCPA 6/5/2013 9:43PM

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LIVINGFREE19 6/5/2013 9:08PM

    Great goals!

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WHYNOTJ1 6/3/2013 11:17AM

    Lots of us struggle with the perfection thing. Hang in there!

Harness your powers for the forces of AWESOME!

When you feel like you may as well give up, try doing one mini-step that is positive.

An example of one of my mini-steps: Say an affirmation, such as: I get my body moving every day, or My life is now filled with joy and beauty, or I am strong and healthy and beautiful.

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RYDERB 6/2/2013 9:34PM

    Perfectionism is a tough battle, but your'e on the right track. At the end of each day, I try to focus on the good choices I made and the ways I made myself proud, and let go of the rest. Good luck with your June goals.
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ILOVEMALI 6/2/2013 4:41PM

    Let's make this month count! We Can DO IT!!!

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CHERIJ16 6/2/2013 1:55PM

    I was always a perfectionist and then I heard a psychologist on the radio who said that being a perfectionist is a form of procrastination. I realized that was true of me. I would put things off until I could find the time to do them perfectly. Consequently I would miss out on things because I never did find that perfect time.

I did well academically in high school and college but I put myself through a lot of unnecessary work trying to be perfect. I also did that in my diet. If I didn't get it perfectly right I would stop the diet and eat, eat, eat! Then I wouldn't start again until the time was just right! That's how I gained 50 lbs. and became a diabetic!

Spark People has helped me realize that I need to take one day at a time and not to beat myself up if I am not perfect. I also realize the faulty thinking of "Oh well. I blew it at lunch so I will eat whatever for the rest of the day. I like the analogy of the flat tire.
For exercise; the 10 minute rule has really helped me to just do it! Usually when I get into it I do more that 10 minutes but it helps to know I can just start with 10 minutes if I really want to. emoticon Good luck.

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AWESOMECHELZ 6/2/2013 11:24AM

    I used to be THE perfectionist and the way I got away from it was by doing things imperfectly and seating with the feelings - feeling them, writing about them, walking the frustrations off - whatever helped me to let go. It is actually liberating!

Also, each day is a new start and each Sunday, is my day to reset goals if I need to. That's liberating too. Thanks for sharing here and the best to you this week. emoticon

Love, Chelsea emoticon

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JMC155 6/2/2013 7:26AM

    emoticon wish I had the magic wand to wave and we could have what we want. I understand your struggles as May is a month I want to forget. June is a start over month for me also. emoticon

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REFFIE1 6/1/2013 11:05PM

    Hi, glad to see you back! About perfectionism maybe this analogy will help. I think I read it on Sparkpeople. If you car breaks down because you have one flat tire, you fix that tire and move on. You don't go and puncture all the other tires because one needs fixing. So, don't throw the baby out with the bath water. Start with doing some small things and go from there. That is what those spark streaks are for. You are perfect for awhile, fall down, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start a new streak. Even when I do poorly, I try not to beat myself up and think about what I have done right even if it is the past. Be kind to yourself. All the best for a new start. emoticon

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LIZ324_NYC 6/1/2013 9:50PM

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FELINEBETTER 6/1/2013 8:22PM

    Hi Amy!
Your goals for this month sound very good and reasonable. For me, the whole key has been "baby steps," and one bad decision doesn't have to lead to another. If you don't exercise one day (for whatever reason), rather than beating yourself up about it -- just tell yourself that tomorrow you will do better -- and do it. Spark suggests you commit to 10 minutes per day. When you think in terms of 24hr -- that's really nothing. If you don't feel like doing anything vigorous - -just walk for that long. Every little bit counts.

I think you're well on your way. Just above all -- try to get out of the shaming/beating yourself up for anything less than perfect. You can always do better, but do what you can.

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KYLIECAT1 6/1/2013 8:15PM

    It sounds like you have a good plan , I think I share your problems with perfection , I just watched last night on Netflix a documentary called American the Beautiful 2 The thin commandments. It gave me something to think about , Its all about the diet industry and how eating healthy should be a life style not a diet , Last night I went out to eat it was so hot I just ordered a turkey sandwich but then had a large sundae , I was already to say I BLEW it but when I got home and tracked I still had 23 calories left ! :D So sometimes you dont do as badly as you think , Good Luck ! emoticon

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