Friday, May 31, 2013
It all started with that stupid doughnut eating situation last weekend. Then Saturday night, KADY had an an engagement party at a local bar. We went to dinner with friends first, then went and had drinks. Her band was playing and my plan was to dance for hours! About the second song in, I got a message. 2 of our fellow racers were killed ina racing incident. I went outside to verify the truth and it was confirmed. We were not REAL close but we saw these 2 several times a year and they truly were 2 great guys, really an asset to the sport, smiling, happy people. We were very shocked and since we had been drinking, called a cab. It took too long so we ended up walking home about 4 miles and talking and burning off some of the upset. The last few days have been filled with calls and messages and making memorial stickers and trying to support the community.
Then, we did a roof on a restaurant in January and the very wealthy ATTORNEY we did it for decided he didn't need to pay us the full amount. I have had to lien the property, contact our own attorney, send letters etc. We finally agreed to a settlement and I'm very upset about it. He is a powerful man and it is cheaper to accept this than sue him and probably lose because of his prominence in the community.
It does not sit well with me. Injustice, people throwing their power around, his smugness...I just really am having a hard time. That lead to cookies and just trying to accept it (stuff it down). Not the best choice I know. I ate about 200 calories a day over my limit this week.. just all in all not a good food week.
We are very busy at work and leaving Monday for UTAH for our annual 2 week mountain escape..I cant wait! We will end up at a national race at the end of that, then head home on fathers day. This also bring s stress trying to organize all the work stuff so my employees can work while we are gone, doing payroll, processing orders etc.
On top of that, My daughter KADy is having a career change from Bakery to bartending and another part time job a a coffee shop. She just isn't making enough money to get where they need to be to get married next year but that also means she will be back on our health insurance. My oldest girl we just had to help get a new car (used) so that has been a pain but is now complete too.
Just a lot of stuff going on and I'm feeling very overwhelmed which leads to less than stellar eating.
Tomorrow, all should be resolved then off to vacation. I will have internet so I will be checking in and I always log my food even on vacation.. thanks for reading all my drama!
Member Comments About This Blog Post
My sympathies on the loss of fellow racers. So much stress at one time... Life can sure bite sometimes. Hoping you vacation is giving you some time to rest and recharge!
1745 days ago
Oh, honey, I hope your heart is getting a much needed rest, on this vacation. The sadness of the racers untimely death, and the STRESS of the situation with the @#@#$ attorney makes me upset on your behalf. Karma is a big, strong girl and when she catches up to that attorney, and she will, she is going to kick his cheating, lying, stingy @$$! In the meantime, you just take good, good care of yourself, doll. I have been thinking of you. I hope all goes well with Kady's job change but does this mean she will be bringing home bottles of booze instead of boxes of donuts?! Booze &sugar - they are basically twins and either one can be big trouble for girls like us. Take care, Miss Jan.
1746 days ago
Sorry about your friends Super sad stuff. Hopefully you are having a fantastic time on vacation and forgetting about everything. hugs. T
1746 days ago
Awwww honey I am so sorry! What a HUGE load to bear. Your heart breaks for the loss, then gets frustrated with those who are being just plain cruel. finally, adding more financial stress is just...wow. I wish I could help!
All I can offer is my hugs of support and to remind you tha you CAN do this.
You are awesome, and I admire you,
1747 days ago
Comment edited on: 6/5/2013 12:50:31 PM
Man, that sucks! It seems that when it rains it pours. There is NEVER just ONE thing to deal with at a time. It sounds that after this week, you definitely NEED a vacation.
1749 days ago
I'm sorry you're having a rough time. It seems things always happen all at once. I hope it gets better. That is awful that guy not paying you. What is wrong with people?
1750 days ago
I don't consider what you shared drama at all. What an ars that attorney is. I really get that "power/rich" attitude you described as we live in a very wealthy community. It makes me sick when people treat people like that....seriously/physically sick!!! Shame on him!
So sorry to hear about the two drivers, so sad. Sounds like you are assisting pulling the racing community together ... may God bless your efforts Jan.
Hope you have a GREAT time on your vacay. We are off to see our son for a quickie visit and then I am off to Big Bear area for 9 nights..WOOT WOOT! LOVE the mountains!
1751 days ago
Wow, that’s a lot of suck and stress rolled into one week. I’m sorry, but that lawyer is a major prick. Hang in there! Your vacation sounds great. : )
1751 days ago
WOW, that is a LOT of activity/stress. Through all of this I am so impressed that you are still logging. That is HUGE! pat yourself on the back for that little lady. Also, if it was me I could have over eaten by 1000 calories.
It sounds like you have had a large list of responsibilities and stress. I am hopeful that your time away can help you to center yourself again and also kick start getting back on track with food. You know you can. It is up to you. It is ok if you decide to wait until a week into the trip or start right away. Either way it is your call. I know you can pull this together.
1752 days ago
Sorry to hear about your racing buds. That is always a terrible shock. I am glad you have that vacay coming up. You will walk and hike and everything will be great!
1752 days ago
I'm sorry to hear about your fellow racers, it is always gut-wrenching to deal with situations like that.
Do you guys network among your fellow contractors? If you do, I'd get the word out about this guy and warn them to pad their estimates for him or avoid him altogether. I wouldn't go real public with this in case he might find a way to retaliate, I'd just get the word out among friends and family and fellow contractors to avoid this guy and any business that he is involved in.
From where I'm sitting, 200 calories per day over doesn't look too bad. I've been doing that quite regularly for the past month or two. So far all it has done has stalled the weight loss. I am working on trying to stay below my upper limit for a week or two and then working my way down to the lower end. That should get a few pounds off.
Have a good vacation.
1752 days ago
Well, maybe it's the stars or something but I have also had my share of "dramas" this week. It would be laborious to detail but in finality, my oldest daughter's estranged husband overdosed on crystal meth and now, just days before my 60th birthday party, my husband and I are flying to her hometown to be with two very lost young men (their sons) and my crumbling daughter. Do I see light at the end of the tunnel?...not yet.
I went out last night, made a mistake and bought a $5 bowl of yogurt and ate the whole damn thing. Eating for comfort? Yup! Luckily I have kept my trainings going.
This journey called "life" is so difficult sometimes.
Sending you a hug and a "yup, I know just what you mean." Hang in there. At least we're conscious that we're blowing it. I'm trying to take one day at a time. I hope you can too. Vacation should help.
1752 days ago
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