Sunday, May 26, 2013
I've been doing some great reading in Dr. Wayne Dyer's "Wishes Fulfilled". I can't read that book without taking notes. Its about how to manifest what you want in your life, say, weight loss, for instance, or peace, wealth, generosity, or love. The key, he says, is to believe (and believe strongly enough that you feel it) that you have already achieved your goal, and then the universe will align with that belief. Once you have that belief, you live from that outcome. It all comes from your imagination. Not what someone else thinks you should do. Its a fascinating read, and the concepts are huge. It explains how a lot of Tony Robbins' techniques work, I think.
A lot of Dyer's information for this book comes from an earlier writer called Neville Goddard, which I have also been slogging through.
One of the most powerful tools that I was reintroduced to was the difference between subjective and objective attention. This is a key piece of information. Tony Robbins uses scratching a record as a way to change a memory from an emotion-laden subjective memory to an objective one. The "I'm OK You're Okay" books by Harris also have you use this tool to examine interactions between people. Even Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" uses that same tool when he tells you to watch yourself thinking your own thoughts...
Your subjective attention, your emotion-laden attention, should only be applied toward things you want to have happen, because your feelings create your present reality. Once again, YOUR FEELINGS CREATE YOUR REALITY. You can choose to feel good, or bad, happy or sad. You can change your mind. If you dwell on being depressed, you will be. Change what you focus on and you change how you feel. If something begins to irritate or upset you, flex your mind, and find a way to look at it objectively so that you don't start flooding your body with negative emotions. Only positive emotions beget positive change. One more time... Only Positive Emotions Beget Positive Change.
Objective attention is just as important in a different way. This is viewing things without emotional attachment. The importance of being able to employ objective attention is what enables you to act in a crisis, to not lose your head in a discussion with your boss, or your spouse, allows you to decipher what is really the issue, and lets you focus on what you want your outcome to be. Do you really want to have a heated argument where both of you end up feeling bad, saying things you can't take back, or would you rather have a discussion which leads to both sides getting what they want or need, and that strengthens the relationship in question? When someone comes up to you and says negative things about you, your diet, or sees how you are improving (because they feel threatened), this is when you put on your other goggles, and view what they say objectively. Don't ever let them sway you from your goals.
The only place you should focus your subjective attention is on your own goals. What other people think just doesn't matter. Look at their opinions objectively, without emotion. Look at them, put them away, and focus on your vision on you and your life. Be a role model. This is what gives me strength to follow through on my dreams. Influence other people rather than being influenced by them.
On a different note, I see the jealousy over losing weight thing as a bear in the woods. The old joke is, I donít have to outrun the bear, I just have to outrun youÖ We have relatives and friends that support us, tell us yeah, lose that weight! When when we do, they try to sabotage us into falling back into our old habits. It isnít that they donít want us to succeed; I think it is more that we are rocking their boat of how they seem themselves. They feel jealous because we can make that change, and they havenít done it yet.
This is why it is so important to recognize the difference between subjective and objective attention. Once you compare yourself to other people, you have stepped into subjective attention. Subjective attention toward other people or their lives leads to negative emotions, jealousy, avarice, greed, or sadness to name a few. Focus on your goals and donít compare yourself to anyone, even yourself, if that provokes negative subjective attention.