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Sunday, May 26, 2013

I read a blog about taking control for your own weight loss and doing instead of saying poor me and that led me to write this answer.
I have also done the poor me attitude before so I am one of those...but I do take responsibility.
I do feel down sometimes when the scale does not move but I know fault entirely.
I used to blame my gram for the giant meals and still do as a kid but I grew up and it is my fault now. It is not up to the government to set portion control for our kids..It is up to the parents. I have seen many overweight kids in the stores that throw a fit and their parents shove more candy at them. why can't people see that we are raising the next generation to be even more unhealthy than we are? Portion control in a restaurant has gone crazy because people demand it! I don't think all comments are made from the truth...a lot of times I console the person just because I don't want to hurt their feelings and I am sure a lot of my comments are for the same reason. The truth will set you free but it will also make you feel bad. I would hope that people are honest with me as it would hurt at first but then maybe sink in. I always say that words don't break bones but it can break hearts. So I guess what I would want would be suggestions to help me along the way without harsh words. The person who wrote the blog is a wonderful person and just had enough and I can't blame her. I blow up at myself for writing and sometimes not doing. I love your blogs and your know who you are LOL.
It is the children that we need to be role models for and can't tell them not to eat unhealthy food if we do it ourselves. So it takes work and takes finding out why we became this way,,,is it unhappiness, grief, habit...what is it....maybe we should look deeper. So to myself I say.

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    Role Models - you are right - somewhere we've come to think someone should be a role model, but too many of us have forgotten, that again, WE are that someone.
    1731 days ago
    It's so hard to place the blame on yourself, when it is so much more convenient o blame others. Time for a wake up call!
    1731 days ago
    Shawn is awesome and a fountain of knowledge. I am learning a lot from her. I knew about gmo's but there is so much more and I have been eating all the wrong brands of the food I eat. Even though I gave up meat, I need to change everything else too. I need to really feel what each food does to me.
    1732 days ago
    I have come to the conclusion that I need to be healthy
    by being mindful of what I put in to my body. As Shawn
    says, the food industry has only profits in mind. They
    keep adding while at the same time, stripping all the
    good nutrients from our food. I try to make as much
    of my food as possible from fresh. Even fresh is debate-
    able as we don't know how long fresh produce travels
    before it reaches our tables.
    I am responsible for my body and my health. Let's
    not put too much emphasis on the number on the scale.
    Just do the right thing. As coach Nicole says, even 5 or 10
    minutes of some movement is better than nothing at all.
    1732 days ago
    So true! My niece is raising her little ones to love fruit. When she brings home groceries, the treats her 2 and 3 year olds go for first are apples. I hope that remains the norm. My brother keeps giving his grandbabies marshmallows and laughing. Fortunately, the kids still see those as special treats. I'll have to slap my brother next time. lol

    I agree with you totally about shifting responsibilities as we become adults. I didn't adequately address my issues when I grew up and let things get out of control. No one did that but me.

    1733 days ago
    Criticism is all very well if good constructive suggestions are made to help the blogger. I have never seen any point in the blame thing, either blaming myself, or others. It is what is is. Far more important is changing what is. I agree about the role models, also have you noticed how many people eat reasonably healthily themselves, then say that their children won't eat it. They're still buying all the stuff they KNOW is unhealthy, the sodas, the sweets, the burgers, and feeding it to their children! emoticon That's the one that's beyond me. My suggestion for healthy eating is to cut out the sugar! 99% of it.
    1733 days ago
    I know there are gmo's in so many foods and hormones and other unhealthy things but how do you know what to eat? There are hidden additives and high fructose corn syrup. I don't eat meat anymore but even fresh food has problems unless you buy organic and now they say because it says organic, it doesn't always mean it is. So no matter what you buy, the only way to tell is if you grew it yourself. We don't have room for a garden. so how do you tell?
    1733 days ago
  • -SHAWN-
    The food industry have scientists on board for the sole purpose to make their food products addictive, they also strip their food products from nutrition.

    So the weight issue is a bit broader then just walking/moving and the amount of food taken in.

    A mind that continually thinks of food is craving and since body hasn't met it's nutritional requirements the 'body' itself craves. It's a double whammy.

    It's a vicious cycle for those, not in the know :-(

    For those in the know it takes 4 to 8 weeks of clean eating to stop the double craving whammy.

    Time for my walk emoticon
    1733 days ago
    You make some great points about the balance that's needed between blaming others and blaming ourselves. I think it's natural to get down and feel down, and when things go wrong, it can be healthy to point to something outside ourselves and say, "Well, that's the reason." My mom made all her kids drink whole milk three times a day and all her kids were fat. Do I blame her for "making me" fat? You bet. Do I see her as responsible for what I put in my body today? No way! I love that you see how important it is that we help children understand how to make healthy choices. When we act as role models - and I strive every day to do just that for my grandkids - we end up making good choices ourselves.

    Now everyone - if you must drink milk - drink skim!!

    1733 days ago
    I think you're right about people not wanting to hurt the feelings of others or make them feel worse by telling them the truth. On the other hand (the way I look at it), people already know they need to do something, they just often don't know what. I'd like to think when I give advice I tell people the truth but do it in a way that says, "I know how you're feeling because I've felt the same way. This is what I do when I feel that way ..."
    It's kind of like the joke about the wife asking her husband, "Does this dress make me look fat?" Is there really a good answer to that question? If you don't want to hurt someone's feelings you need to find a way to tread lightly with the truth.
    1733 days ago
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    1733 days ago
  • DLITE719
    Walk. That is the key. I enjoy waling on my treadmill more then walking outdoors. Probably sounds odd to most but I like the feel of the treadmill much better then the slightly sloped sidewalks and streets. I enjoy watching movies while walking and I surely enjoy the temperature and the fact that there are no bugs. I guess it really doesn't matter where we walk as long as we do.
    1733 days ago
    Very enlightening blog...great self-evaluation that all of us should do from time to time when not getting the results we desire. With this said, we need to find a way not to be too hard on ourselves. Make realistic goals in all areas of one's life.

    It is very true that we are accountable for our own health and parents are for their young children's health. Good nutrition and exercise starts at home "showing" our children the "healthy way". I grew up in a home where fitness was a big part but on the flip-side there was also an abundance of sweets and other high calorie & salty foods available. My mom was the cook and my dad was the I tended to carry on both of their "ways" until I had children then I stopped fitness.

    I wish the knowledge that I've gained in the past few years was used in the early days when my children were still home. Now, they are all adults with just two of them being an avid exerciser and watching what they eat. The other (DD) is struggling. I am her biggest supporter and try to offer suggestions to help her set and reach realistic goals. I like the motto "no one can do this for you but YOU".

    Pam, thank you for sharing your thoughts and that photo message to yourself or to any of us is AWESOME!! Now, go get in those 7000 steps!! LOL!
    1733 days ago
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