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Stress, thy name is "Life"

Saturday, May 25, 2013

My daughter and granddaughter moved in with us week before last. Then they moved out again. Today they came back, this time to stay, I think. After the initial shock has worn off, Iím ready for this to happen. Iím happy to have my granddaughter in a more positive place, even if it takes some adjustment. Iím glad but Iím sad also. Divorce can be messy and is so stressful. But I thgouth I was just fine and dandy with this situation. Unfortunately, my emotional side isnít ready for it AT ALL. Iíve had an over eating frenzy of epic proportions! Ok, itís not that bad but itís obviously how Iím taking out my upset.
I know we all have out ways of working through our problems. When Iím upset, I tend to sleep less and exercise more. It can even make me sick. But right now, I feel I have to project a strong, capable woman for both my daughter and granddaughter. I have to keep my chin up, even though it hurts to see my child in this situation. My husband is also very upset right now.
I guess this is a time to hunker down and be together as a family, my husband has planned a cookout. I know, for myself, I have to work on balance. I plan to exercise but without going overboard. Food will take more focus. I will be conscious with eating and keep with doing more and eating less.
Iíll let yíall know how it all ends. Please pray for my younger daughter! In the meantime, ďten mucho cuidadoĒ means ďtake good careĒ and thatís something we all need this weekend! All the best!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CRAFTSFAN1 6/1/2013 5:33PM

    emoticon Overall all of you are lucky. Your daughter is fortunate to have a family to lean on in times of trouble and you have the means to help her. I wish you all the best during this difficulty time. Cuidate.

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HAPPYERIN 5/30/2013 11:51AM

    I understand your desire to project a strong, positive front for your daughter and granddaughter, but I bet that just by being there for them you are giving them what they need. Try not to be too hard on yourself; you can't be "on" all the time. Having a big adjustment to your personal space is stressful no matter what the circumstances, so make sure you give yourself time for you as well!

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SUNKAT 5/26/2013 9:16AM

    In the struggle to be supportive, don't lose sight of your need for support. You are right to focus on family because, hopefully, that is where you will find your support. Wishing you strength to stay strong for yourself, your husband and your daughter and your granddaughter as all of you work through this life change.

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AGGIELIZ 5/26/2013 8:45AM

    Oh Riisa, what a sad thing to happen. Of course I'll pray, not just for your younger daughter, but also for you. I had this happen with 2 of my sons last year and know how big the temptation is to "eat it all away"! You will find though that exercise helps to process the stress. I don't know how old your granddaughter is, but visits to the park or playground may help both of you - you for the exercise and the granddaughter to help her bond with you and have some fun. Because in the very end, we can't fix it for our children anymore, but we can help our grandchildren realise that there are still lots of people loving them!! xx emoticon

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