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Sometimes reality checks are needed...

Saturday, May 25, 2013

I recently got a reality check. My Mother has had another stroke, but refused to go to the hospital. Within a month of this, she has now fallen and broken her arm, which required surgery. I am thankful that she is getting the care that she so desperately needed when she had the stroke, but she's not real happy about it. She was not a good candidate for rehab so they told her she needed to go to a skilled nursing facility. It once again reminded me why I originally began my journey. I didn't want my family to have to go through what I am having to go through with my Mom. Being an only child, the responsibility is mine. I am thankful that I have family, but it is often hard.

I did really well for awhile after my Mom's heart attack, but I need to take better care of myself. It is not always easy, but I have to put for the effort and make it happen. I have come to the realization that it is ultimately about choices. Some I may not like at the time, but overall, I know I can rock this and be a healthier me! Working out makes ME feel better. Eating better makes ME feel better. And I'm sure my body appreciates it so much more.

I am hereby respectfully requesting some assistance for someone to check in with me, etc. I don't have a workout buddy anymore and I know that helps me greatly. I just need to get my mojo going again so I can continue down this healthy road. I don't want to be a burden to any of my children.
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    I have been in very similar situations. Family health issues - father had heart attack in front of me and arrested twice on the way to the hospital.

    No time to look after yourself.
    Book time for you to workout - Make it an appointment , a habit and then after a while that time is not open for any other purpose.

    Preplan and definitely track food.

    Realise that high calorie food is not your best friend and really is no comfort.

    Come keep me on track and accountable and I will happily do the same for you emoticon emoticon

    1762 days ago
    Best advice to you is go see your mom all different times during a day, if they see that you come in at a set time they'll make sure everything goes great while your there, you honestly have to be sneaky and catch them off guard. Good Luck!
    1762 days ago
    oh my heart goes out to you. I have seen several go through this.

    My mom got was requested to leave the hospital because she wanted to not do what they said, and sit in a chair.

    Now she is majorly upset because she probably loose her licence |( DMV ). I don't blame her for not liking it but she doesn't want to take the driving test because she already did this committee , a doctor's note and written test.She thinks the DMV wants seniors off the road, and wants us o sue DMV for it.

    She doesn't think her attitude is making it real hard. She thinks she will be dying soon. emoticon
    1762 days ago
    1763 days ago
    I'm with you on advance food prep (on your page), and I had a mother who kept falling and breaking everything, every limb, lots of titanium rods in her back, hips, and bones. She was recalcitrant also, and had to go into care - she died in an alzheimer's unit.

    It IS a reality check, isn't it?

    We DON'T want to go down those roads, do we?

    So we have to pay the price every day - today getting tomorrow's food, clothes, and exercise plan ready and included in tomorrow's schedule. The we have to follow through every day, DO IT. Eat balanced, healthy, whole food choices all the time for the rest of our life, instead of dieting. Exercise every day, to up the metabolism and to build muscle. Sustainable, long-term, every-day healthy habits. If we don't want to pay THAT price that we see in our mothers, then we must choose to pay the DAILY "healthy" price.

    Swap good, healthy things for the path of our mothers? Um, yeah!, no prob, sign me up.

    I use the No S Diet for food, and The Step Diet for exercise. Both team icons are on my page, and I found them through SparkPeople. They, also, echo the common-sense, every-day, healthy choices message. Not weird diets, and no gym needed. I'm using dumbbells and bodyweight exercises for strength training to build muscle. I'm not consistent yet, but I've lost quite a bit, and am learning more and more. I saw someone on The Biggest Loser say she was naive to think there was no emotional connection to obesity. I have found that to be true in my life as well. I was very, very naive when it came to the emotional connection to my morbid obesity. I use my faith life and spiritual life, to help me handle the emotional part, and reach out to others MUCH more - both online and in real life (RL).

    So I'm like a 4-cylinder car; when one of the cylinders aren't firing, the car limps along. But when all 4 cylinders are firing and working together, my weightloss and health improvement are immense and very rewarding, and I speed down the SparkJourney road.

    Everyone's Journey is different. For me, the 4 cylinders are the LifeStyle Changes of:
    Food - No S Diet
    Exercise - The Step Diet for cardio; Leslie Sansone WATP DVD when there are weather issues.
    Strength Training (ST) - dumbbells & bodyweight exercises
    Emotions - go deeper into daily spiritual life, and reach out to others much more

    I just realized one reason that walking is so integral to my Lifestyle Changes and works for me, is because there's an emotional component to it. Only took me a few years to notice. emoticon Yep, very naieve, very disconnected emotionally. Now I get it; now I understand why runners describe a spiritual aspect to it.

    I've never been into buddying, but SP is very into it. (An excellent avenue of "reaching out to others".) You can find a buddy through SP, or join a buddy team.
    1763 days ago
    Oh I sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo hear you! My parents were also so stubborn, my mom passed last year cause she wouldn't go to the hospital ( I of course didn't know she was even sick but that's another story, wasn't allowed there by my nephew and they all watched her die that last weekend and no one let me know she was ill).
    I have saved my dad's life twice!!!!!!!!!!! I'm his medical proxy and had to be a pitbull with the doctors to get him off the respirator 4 times!
    I have 2 brothers that could care less and yet they are put on this pedestal and I've always been the black sheep. I have promised myself that I won't put my son in the situations my parents have put me in ( I had also saved my moms life twice before she passed).
    We have to think of the ones that will take care of us when we're old and we can't be stubborn as we see where that gets a person.
    My dad use to think it was funny smoking all those cigarettes and drinking now he's got Afib, COPD, CHF, diabetes, etc and who is the only one that cares? ME!
    I'm sorry to hear about all the health problems your mom is having , make sure you check on her at the rehab nursing facility you really do have to watch those guys like hawks!!!!!
    My son is an only child and I'd never want to burden him either, that's why I have to succeed and god please help me that I'm never that stubborn that I'd let myself die like my mother did.
    God Bless hope mom is out soon! emoticon
    1763 days ago
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