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Before You Remember

Saturday, May 25, 2013

Long before you really remember, you were told you were smart, or pretty, or cute, or dumb, or silly.. You were rewarded for being creative, or scolded for being loud...told to sit still, or speak up. Far behind your memory, in hidden places you defined yourself, and decided who you are.

Some definitions were more comfortable than others. Some categories may have been less easy to slip into. But repeated often enough, became "true", whether they were or not.

Without even realizing it, you do it now. You secretly, silently, tell yourself you're good, or not. You internally whisper "this is just like me", and "I always..."

These tiny thoughts, seemingly inconsequential, have more power than money, circumstance, or even happiness. They frame, color, and redefine your ENTIRE world.

Like re-designing your food, and making new choices, or deciding to wake up and take a walk instead of hitting the snooze button, your thoughts may need a little examination. You can make a decision about how to treat yourself, describe yourself and your actions and your life.

Find the kindness, and filter out the unnecessary criticism. Be genuine, and honest in your evaluation, praise, and appreciation. Be positive.

It's true that you ought to treat others the way you want to be treated. "Love yourself" is a summary. "Treat yourself the way you want to treat others," is a step closer to instruction.

Before you remember how someone once said you were, think of how wonderful you are. It's there, and you are right for recognizing it. You deserve it, but aren't required to earn it.

Note to self.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
BASS6196 5/30/2013 9:54AM

    Love this! Thank you!

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    Great blog! Can I tattoo this somewhere?

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SPARCTICUS 5/27/2013 9:31PM

    I loved your blog. Thank you for sharing! emoticon

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PUMPKINFACE73 5/27/2013 6:41AM

  Well said! So true!

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MINEA999 5/26/2013 11:26AM

    So right!! Our internal dialogue can be our worst enemy or our best friend!

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40PUDDLEJUMPER 5/26/2013 6:40AM

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VALERIEMAHA 5/25/2013 9:19PM

    Amen sistah -- preachin' to my soul!

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DDOORN 5/25/2013 9:07PM

    This note is a keeper and so spot on it takes my breath away...

Thank you,


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SNOOPYMOMMA72 5/25/2013 8:47PM

    emoticon Blog! You are very right!

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JESPAH 5/25/2013 7:39PM

    Note to self!

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    That was beautiful.... you really should write professionally... or have a blog.. or write for someone elses blog.. you have a gift!

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PRETTYPITHY 5/25/2013 4:14PM

    Love it! Well done!

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THOMS1 5/25/2013 4:05PM

    emoticon blog! emoticon

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MERRY_XMAS 5/25/2013 3:52PM

    Thank you so much for sharing and reminding us...
Amazing blog entry!

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INSANITY77 5/25/2013 2:07PM

    this is so true

your blog really resonated with me

it is really difficult I think to make the switch / erase years of other people's commentaries/criticisms

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LITTLEGUYSMOM1 5/25/2013 1:48PM

    Great blog! Definitely food for thought.

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