If I Had My Life To Live Over
by Erma Bombeck
The following was written by the late Erma Bombeck
after she found out she had a fatal disease.
If I had my life to live over, I would have talked less and listened more.
I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.
I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.
I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television - and more while watching life.
I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.
I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.
I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."
AND THIS IS THE BEST - THE MOST CRITICAL PART TO READ OVER AND OVER (CUZ SERIOUSLY WHO HAS PINK ROSE CANDLES ANYWAY?!*)....
And you heard it from me that nothing here on Spark is more important than those Littles coming to you and asking you to play or help them or just BE with them. NOTHING cuz soon....TOO SOON....they will be all grown up (humming "The Cat's In The Cradle") and you will so regret that "Just another minute and I'll be done here. Just let me post these points. Just let me read this blog"....I love you ALL immensely but I would love to have some of those pudgy hands tugging at me again. Even the teen conversations driving in the car to/from soccer or scouts or where ever we were with Steven and then Briana and now Tori. Don't miss out because as annoying as those interferences MAY seem now, you WILL miss them. As much as you long for the empty nest days and plan for and dream about them, you WILL miss the camaraderie. I know....Called Steven today from the co-op to ask him a chef ? and it made me smile like this
soar and you know what? I think he still likes those conversations too. Spoke to Briana today when she had a fender bender and even though she's ready to spread her wings and fly, guess who she called? Yep....Mama Kal. Make memories because these times are fleeting and saving the good stuff and wishing away the petty annoyances and wishing for tomorrow is wasting TODAY!
There would have been more I love yous … more I’m sorrys … more I’m listenings … but mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute of it … look at it and really see it … try it on … live it … exhaust it … and never give that minute back until there was nothing left of it.
What About You?
What do you think of this? What would you like to do differently in your life?
you all more than words can say! Make it count - make it epic!