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If I had my life to live over....

Friday, May 24, 2013

If I Had My Life To Live Over

by Erma Bombeck

The following was written by the late Erma Bombeck
after she found out she had a fatal disease.

If I had my life to live over, I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television - and more while watching life.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."


And you heard it from me that nothing here on Spark is more important than those Littles coming to you and asking you to play or help them or just BE with them. NOTHING cuz soon....TOO SOON....they will be all grown up (humming "The Cat's In The Cradle") and you will so regret that "Just another minute and I'll be done here. Just let me post these points. Just let me read this blog"....I love you ALL immensely but I would love to have some of those pudgy hands tugging at me again. Even the teen conversations driving in the car to/from soccer or scouts or where ever we were with Steven and then Briana and now Tori. Don't miss out because as annoying as those interferences MAY seem now, you WILL miss them. As much as you long for the empty nest days and plan for and dream about them, you WILL miss the camaraderie. I know....Called Steven today from the co-op to ask him a chef ? and it made me smile like this emoticon and my emoticon soar and you know what? I think he still likes those conversations too. Spoke to Briana today when she had a fender bender and even though she's ready to spread her wings and fly, guess who she called? Yep....Mama Kal. Make memories because these times are fleeting and saving the good stuff and wishing away the petty annoyances and wishing for tomorrow is wasting TODAY!

There would have been more I love yous … more I’m sorrys … more I’m listenings … but mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute of it … look at it and really see it … try it on … live it … exhaust it … and never give that minute back until there was nothing left of it.

What About You?

What do you think of this? What would you like to do differently in your life?

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    I love this thanks Kal 4 sharing. first forgive yourself for not joining a few those moments . second thanks for the reminder at to us . to do what you have suggested has been my first thought ever since I first heard the song the cat in the cradle . I'm a guy . yet I cried when I heard it and I'm not ashamed to admit it . my son asked me the other day , dad how did you know and when that you were going to be a good dad . I had a good dad and wind out I never had is that I would be a good dad . nevertheless I love him for asking a question , the way that you did ask the question . I remember holding my oldest son when he was two months old in for half second wishing he was four we can wrestle on the floor . I promised my self then that I would always enjoyed cherih the time he was when he was it . even now that he's 15half and I'm teaching him how to drive a car I am relishing the time.
    1754 days ago
    I'm at the tail end of this with 5 children who have already left home and 4 of which are married, 3 with children of their own. I have not looked forward to the "empty nest" as my children are thousands of miles from me, and I see them 2 times a year at the most - normally only once. I loved having kids and raising them - even though I know there were times I didn't take advantage of each moment given to me as a gift from God.
    Still, great things to ponder. What is really important - our 'stuff' or our kids? I always say my children are the only thing I can take with me to heaven, so that is where my investment should be.
    1757 days ago
  • TEKRU1
    SO true! My baby is a Senior in High School next year! Where did the time go? At some point you start treasuring those interruptions and realize THAT's where life happens. The crabby vacations and soothing away the bad days - part of the fabric that binds your family together.
    1759 days ago
    Thanks for posting this. I love Erma Bombeck and it has been a long time since I read anything by her. It was just what I needed to read today.
    1759 days ago
  • ELSAT137
    Thanks so much for this Kal. I am in the middle of the grubby hands and runny noses of life. I need to take time to spend with them and not wish that they grow up faster. Thanks for the reminder to make the most of each day!!

    1759 days ago
  • 4CYNDI
    Thanks for the thought provoking blog. The only thing I think I'd change... well 2 things. First I'd stay more physically active, always. But if I had I might never have met you. Sigh.

    Okay - the 2nd thing I would change? Hmm... Nothing. Without the choices I've made I wouldn't be me today. I LIKE me and who I am. However, I will agree that I would like to live in the moment more.
    1759 days ago
    Oh my goodness, I can so relate to this blog in EVERY way. First of all, I love that piece by Bombeck. Secondly, I'm so with you on the "littles" AND the bigs. I wish I'd been more "present" when my son was so young that I couldn't "get" him yet - I was there physically and emotionally and the best I knew how, but I'd ENJOY it so much more this time around! ;-) Anyway, I'm certainly enjoying the wonderful young man I have now.

    Lovely, lovely post, Kal!
    1759 days ago
  • 3016DEBRA
    All of that is so true ~ thanks for the reminder! Happy Memorial Day to you!
    1759 days ago
    Great blog, as I'm sitting here reading it I'm thinking of my 16 yr old son who I have listened to, hugged, loved , enjoyed cartoons, talking and our closeness. He still gives me hugs and a kiss before bed and always says I love you.
    The thing I wish I could of changed in this life is only that I had been blessed with another just like him as he's an only child.
    I'd also of never moved to this snobby town that the school system has bullied and tried to beat my son down and I'd of never of let my parents and siblings get to me with their cold hearted ways.
    This was a very moving blog and really makes you think, it brought tears to my eyes because I know things will change someday soon with our son as he becomes a man, but I know in my heart that I've given him all the love and attention that I never had as a child from my own parents.
    1759 days ago
    I never get tired of reading this by Erma Bombeck...she was great!

    Have a great weekend!
    1759 days ago
    Fandarntastic BLOG! emoticon .....::::and speaking of making/cherishing memories, I'm OFF to take my 4 blessings to swim lessons, and laugh histerically as they show off! LOL! There's nothing like the gift of each day - a gift to RIP open! emoticon

    love you Kal!
    1759 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/24/2013 5:09:21 PM
    Oh Lord love a duck, tis is exactly what I needed to read today. My BABY, my 17 yr. old DD graduates from High School on 9 June. I am very proud of her but it is difficult to relize how life will change! We definitely have to enjoy our LIttles when they want our attention! **SIGH** That's what memories will carry us through the adjustment periods as they grow up.

    HUGS and have a wonderful weeked.
    1759 days ago
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