Friday, May 24, 2013
I recently had a Sparkmail from a team member saying that she was doing everything right but wasn’t losing weight and she felt so alone because we hear about the people who do lose weight but what about the others?? Often I think they just lose interest and leave the site.
I honestly believe that weight loss is an extremely complex subject and that the simplification of it by Sparkpeople to Calories in vs calories out nowhere near tells the full story!!
Yes it can be the answer for some and if you are fortunate enough for this to work for you then lucky you.
But there are many people that I personally have come across who are doing everything right, eating in calorie range, balancing macronutrients and menus, drinking enough water, exercising to the best of their ability, moving often instead of sitting etc, etc– but they still don’t lose weight. And I might add they keep almost religiously to the program!!
However we often fail to see what they are gaining because we are so fixated on weight loss on the scales!! Interesting that - to be controlled by a number on a piece of plastic, glass and or metal!!
Firstly – I believe its perfectly OK to talk about the fact that you are NOT losing weight and that you should certainly not be judged for that!! It does NOT mean you are a failure!! I am talking maybe about plateaus in some cases, but also in a complete lack of the body wanting to show any inclination of losing weight over an extended time. Talking about not losing may not bring answers but it will assure you that you are not alone and that the frustration you feel is normal!!
I am in this position too – as most of you know I lost weight at the start of my program and inches too – but for the last 2 1/2 yrs or more I haven’t lost more weight, or inches – and I still have quite a bit of weight lo lose. . I have more or less maintained the weight I had lost – except that recently I had a bad 3 weeks and put on 6lb – I have since lost 2 of those lb but the rest is going to be much longer coming off.
Why is it we can put weight on in a flash – but losing it is a long hard journey!!??
So why do I keep going? In my case for three reasons -
1 – its become a habit and if I changed I‘m not sure what else I would do and
2 – I am becoming stronger, more mobile and have better balance and my body likes that – I feel healthy.
3 – I am on my feet – whereas before I was in a mobility scooter!!
Our bodies are all different, we all react to different things in different ways – just because you can’t get the scales to agree with you does NOT mean you are a failure. In some cases there may be a reason – but in most cases– our body has the last say and our body will dictate to us when, and how often it will lose weight!! Unfortunately it rarely works to our timetable!!
I know this can be hard on us – on our thoughts and feelings and particularly when people ask – are you still losing?? You say “No” and they think at once – “she’s put weight on – I knew it wouldn’t last!!” Oh yes – I have had that said to me many times - even by my Doctor – who is forever telling me that people who lose weight invariably put it on again!! I tell him where to go!! I haven’t put on (well not much) and I have NO intention of so doing!!
However I accept that I might not lose again either – but if I can live a healthy (relatively) life and do the things I want and need to then I am happy. If I threw it all in, stopped exercising and eating healthy and put weight on – I definitely could not do the things I want to!!
We have a thread in the Chair Exercise Team for exactly this - to discuss - Doing everything right and NOT losing!!
Maybe its something other leaders can also think about!!