Friday, May 24, 2013
I feel I have been neglecting both team and personal mail lately. I am doing an update now on a blog.
It's a follow up really to my previous blog when I told you my husband had been diagnosed with dementia. 3 months on we went to see the mental health consultant yesterday for a review. He admits there is no cure but medication can help slow the symptoms down. We had a good chat and I told him we work together and rely on each other in different ways. My husband agreed.
So I was surprised later when he told me he was only relying on himself and needed no one else. I was shocked and upset by this comment. Of course I know dementia patients say things they would not normally say or mean, I was annoyed with myself for not accepting that, and feeling he had meant it.
I hada bad few hours but talked to widowed friend. I know she went through similar times when her husband had a terminal illness and shut her out.
She explained it as they are men, they are scared by what is happening but will not admit it. We agreed women would turn to loved one and friends in crisis Men think they have be strong and not admit to needing anyone .i felt better after talking to my friend,.
All I can say is I am glad I am not a man. I would be lost without my friends and the ability to say, I am struggling please help.
Thanks for reading this , Irene