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RE: It Is 11, Years 2Day (, 2002 - 2013,) Since My, Dad (John, William Large), Died From Cancer. (S


Friday, May 24, 2013

RE It is 11, years 2day (, 2002 - 2013,) since my, Dad (John, William Large), Died from Cancer, by all account's, i should be, over @ my, Mum's (Mary, Louise Large), 2day but i, could not face, it as i, don't like seeing, /watching her, cry as that, then makes me, cry loads 2.

You may think, that i am, a Cold Heartless, Bitch for not, going over there, but i like, to remember my, Dad (John, William Large), in my own, way of which, i have many, many memories eg, almost setting Fire, to the 'outside, of our Home', when we had, a Barbecue.

This was not, funny @ the, time especially as, he had poured, 'Bloody Petrol' onto, the 'Barbecue' Grill, /Stand itself, Mum (Mary, Louise Large), went mad @, the time especially, as he could, /might have, got burnt from, the 'Flying Petrol'.

Especially if the, Wind had gone, the other way, eg in another, direction that could, have been really, really nasty etc, etc etc etc.
































































































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CAREN_BLUEJEANS 6/8/2013 7:45AM

    It's hard to lose your dad. I know. I don't judge you for the way you grieve. You're fine. I enjoyed your BBQ memory. LOL!

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KAB7801 6/4/2013 8:11PM

    My father is still alive at 76 but when he does go I will be devastated
I feel your pain
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NEWKATHYNOW 5/26/2013 10:24PM

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DAWNFIRE72 5/26/2013 9:38PM

    You are not cold or heartless, you are choosing to remember your Dad your way. If you have in the past spent this day with your Mom don't feel guilty because this year you don't want to spend that time watching her cry. They say time heals all wounds but some take longer than we would ever think to heal and honestly the death of a loved one never really heals it just gets easier to get through each day the longer it has been.

Be kind to yourself and at the very least call your Mom even if you don't go to see her.

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 5/26/2013 5:56PM

    I think you are smart to do what's best for you! Maybe ring your Mum and tell her you are thinking of her, too!

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SILVERWITCH59 5/26/2013 3:20PM

    emoticon People all grieve in their own time ,In their own way. It is a process that can not be rushed or judged.Everyone does it at their own pace. Some rush right out and marry again some cry for the rest of their lives. Do what is right for you More emoticon emoticon

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HEALTHYLU1 5/25/2013 7:39AM

    Both my parents are gone. I think, like the others, that you must find your own way on this, but with the support of those you choose. Recognizing that you need to be apart from your mom one day does not make you cold.

Best wishes for your grieving to be mostly wistful and memories fond.
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EILEEN828 5/25/2013 3:13AM

    emoticon Memories are important and you are honoring your father every time you think of him. Each person has their own way of dealing with loss even if time has passed by, take care.

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JIBBIE49 5/24/2013 8:17PM

    I'm glad for you that your Mom is still crying over your father after all this time. When my mother died (I was 17), my father got married again four years later and he was 70 already. I didn't think at his age he needed to get married again, but he did. When he died at 75, his wife, who was 80 then, made all the decisions about the funeral, etc, and had him buried by her and her first husband. She had her grandson be executor of the will and he got $5,000 for doing all most nothing as my Dad had it all set up prior to his passing. But, she was in charge.


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ALEXSGIRL1 5/24/2013 8:02PM

    honor your father and grieve your own way they are your memories that will last forever

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LOVESLIFE48 5/24/2013 7:57PM

    Grieve in your own way. Both of my parents are still alive. I'm an only child. Lord knows how I'm going to handle it!!! Do what works for you!!!

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NANCYPAT1 5/24/2013 7:43PM

    Grieve in your own way. It is YOUR right to do it your way. (hugs)

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ALIHIKES 5/24/2013 1:27PM

    Just enjoy your memories of your father!, that is how he should be remembered, with love and affection and humor emoticon

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KSTONYA 5/24/2013 1:05PM

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My Dad passed away 8 years ago next Wednesday and I just found out the actual date recently. I was never allowed to go to the funeral as no one called me. May my hug help you I have had several family members pass some with illnesses and others by accidents. I have found that Family is not necessarily Blood.

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NPA4LOSS 5/24/2013 10:00AM

    It has been 47 years and 2 days since I lost my DAD and I still miss him but the memories are sweet. emoticon

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LOFLLAMA 5/24/2013 9:59AM

    If anyone think you are a CHB they better talk to me! I most certainly do not.

I didn't even go to my Mom or my Grandpa's funeral/memorial service. Not only do I find such things a horrifyingly morbid display, but given my frame a mind & the fact that it was still 2 months after my Mom's service before I got sober, my presence at either one would have been a really bad, disturbing scene for all.

My bil turned my Mom's memorial into a chance to preach & Mom hated religion & church & hadn't been in a church for 30+ years before she died. I consider that SO disrespectful!!! My pervert uncle was at Grandpa's. I wouldn't have gone anyway, but with all that awful family at both it's a good thing I didn't. I can't imagine having guilt from a scene I might have caused.

We all mourn the way we need to!!! I think it's great that you took the time to write a blog about your Dad on this day! That is a much better way to celebrate his life! Stay blessed

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EMMACORY 5/24/2013 9:38AM

    We all grieve and remember in our own way. Each person has to be true to themselves. My Mom and Dad died 3 months apart in 1991. Memories are healing. emoticon

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NELLJONES 5/24/2013 8:31AM

    I lost my father on November 11, 2001. He was everything to me, more than Mom ever was. I honor him every day of my life with wonderful memories, repeating all the things he told me over the years. We all honor him at Christmas when there is that vacant chair. I don't need to honor the day of his death. I'm with you.

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