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Friday, May 24, 2013

In flood time you can see how some trees bend, and because they bend, even their twigs are safe, while stubborn trees are torn up , roots and all." Sophocles

I never liked change . In my childhood my father was an alcoholic, and because of this my life was a whirling dervish. One day I would come home from school the house would be peaceful and there would sit Dad all happy and life was good. The next he would be sleeping in his chair and upon waking the whole house was in shambles. Yelling , crying, hitting were common . One day my friends were over for my birthday and Dad was drunk , pretending to be surfing on my mother's ironing board will Surfing by the Beach Boys was playing in the background. My friends thought my Dad was great me not so much.

When I moved out I made sure my life was centered and sure. Few and no surprises . My way or the hi-way. I was stiff and rigid and unbending. I followed the plan to a tee . Thank God I found the error to my ways , although it took a lot of years.

To succeed in weight loss and body toning you need to be flexible and free. You need to find laughter and spontaneity .

Yes , have a plan, always have a plan but be almost positive your plans will go awry. They always do. The boss will change your hours, your children will need to see the doctor after work. The chicken will not defrost in time, the gym will close due to a storm. Your friends will want to go out and party. The list goes on.

So be bendable have a back up plan. Raining today, hit the treadmill ,for your mile run. Your boss changes your schedule change your workout schedule right along with it. If you were planning chicken and its not defrosted cook some fish that can be cooked frozen and have chicken tomorrow.

If your sick try to eat as healthy as you can until you are ready to get back in the game. Same goes if you are hurt.

If you miss a workout and you will, or have a calorie laden meal or two don't despair . Laugh it off and move on. No one is perfect, not life and not you. Tomorrow is a new day to begin again.

Learn to be flexible and bendable , breathe and succeed.
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MANILUS 6/21/2013 9:31PM

    You have learned a very valuable lesson, one that is not easy to grasp. Congrats on making the change!

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STATSGIRL13 6/20/2013 12:06PM

    Very well written! This is something I am struggling with and need to be reminded of.

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RUNNINGYOGINIRE 6/19/2013 12:57PM

  Very well put and sooo true in today's ever changing world.

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GRAMPIAN 6/4/2013 11:35AM

  Sound advice! emoticon

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EFFRAYECHILDE 6/4/2013 9:56AM

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POUNDSAWAY73 5/28/2013 4:51PM

  Flexibility is important in life and one needs to let go of the past to have a good future. You have done well. Thanks for sharing. emoticon emoticon

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CICELY360 5/27/2013 12:30PM

  You give us a lot to think about.

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MARYJEANSL 5/26/2013 11:52PM

  Yes, tomorrow is always a new day.

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JAMER123 5/25/2013 9:42PM

    Good advice for all of us!! Thanks for sharing and posting!!
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ROCKYCPA 5/25/2013 9:39PM

    Great blog - good advice!

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SANDYCRANE 5/25/2013 9:32PM

    That is great advice. Great blog.

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PATRICIAANN46 5/25/2013 6:34PM

  Great Advice............... emoticon

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KARRENLYNN 5/25/2013 5:03PM

    Great advice!

Karen

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LINDAK25 5/25/2013 3:39PM

    Great blog! Flexibility is something I really have to work on!

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GRAMMAOF16 5/25/2013 2:48PM

    Thanks for the good advice!

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LIVELYGIRL2 5/25/2013 1:56PM

  Such good advice.

Perhaps the things we learn the hard way become the fabric of our lives.These same kind of things make you more beautiful or destroy you. I'm so very glad, it is making you better.

I'm so sorry that you had to endure his awful upbringing. There is a book called, Beauty for Ashes ( updated version ), that tells a remarkable story of how her abuse, ended up changing her entire life and impact thousands, since we was able to process it eventually.
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NASFKAB 5/25/2013 1:35PM

  thought provoking truthful

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SIMONEKP 5/25/2013 1:13PM

    awesome post

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SJKENT1 5/25/2013 12:43PM

    Bending with you...

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TINA_L 5/25/2013 11:33AM

    So true... Great blog.

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GRIZ1GIRL 5/25/2013 11:33AM

    Beautiful heartfelt blog--thank you!

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MIMIDOT 5/25/2013 10:54AM

    Loved your blog! It was awesome! Glad you learned to bend.

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SUSIEMT 5/25/2013 10:26AM

    Good words to live by. Thank you it was a good blog!

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DJSHIP46 5/25/2013 10:15AM

    You're doing great! When I was young I read a book called "The Adult Children of Alcoholic Parents" it helped my perspective. Wishing you enormous success!!!

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LANNIEMANUEL 5/25/2013 9:21AM

    so true. you can do this

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DIANNEMT 5/25/2013 9:03AM

    Yes, be flexible but having a plan is always better than NOT having a plan---IMHO.

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JIBBIE49 5/25/2013 8:30AM

    emoticon WOW, you're the STAR. Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. Spark Guy says one and one half million people read the Spark Mail daily, so you inspired a lot of people today.

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MOMMY445 5/25/2013 8:12AM

    that is so true! have a fabulous day!

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NEWTINK 5/25/2013 7:56AM

    As life interferes you have no choice but to account for it ... that is the hardest lesson to learn in this fast pace all or nothing world we live in ... emoticon

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NILLAPEPSI 5/25/2013 7:45AM

    Bendable & flexible . . . two things I wasn't before, but I'm learning to be now. emoticon emoticon

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PENOWOK 5/25/2013 7:26AM

    Been there too, but we survived and can be better for it-stronger and smarter!

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BESSHAILE 5/25/2013 7:10AM

    Amazing what those alcoholic parents can do to your adult self. glad you found your flexibility.

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CHERYLHURT 5/25/2013 6:57AM

  Great advice!

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OFGREENGABLES 5/25/2013 5:48AM

    you are very smart. I am impressed how you have dealt with your past and feel free to speak about it.

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