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UPDATE ON MY MOTHER'S PROGRESS


Thursday, May 23, 2013

SATURDAY WILL BE A MONTH SINCE MY MOTHER WENT INTO THE HOSPITAL WITH CONGESTIVE HEART FAILURE. THE NEXT SUNDAY, SHE TURNED 91 AND HAD ALL OF OUR FAMILY VISITING THAT DAY. SHE IS IN GOOD SPIRITS, ALTHOUGH SHE SAID LAST SUNDAY THAT SHE NEVER THOUGHT IT WOULD COME TO THIS. THE THERAPIST AND SOCIAL WORKER RECOMMENDED THAT SHE GO TO A NURSING HOME BECAUSE SHE NEEDS EXTENDED CARE THAT SHE WOULDN'T BE ABLE TO GET AT HOME. MY SISTER CAN'T LOOK AFTER HER AND MOM CAN'T TAKE HER WALKER INTO THE BATHROOM BECAUSE IT IS VERY NARROW AND SHE CAN'T HOLD ON TO THE COUNTER LIKE SHE DID BEFORE SHE HAD HER HEART ATTACK. HER LEGS AND ARMS HAVE BECOME WEEK AND IT'S DIFFICULT FOR HER TO WALK VERY FAR, BUT THE PHYSIO THERAPIST IS REALLY WORKING WITH HER AND SAYS SHE IS DOING WELL FOR HER AGE AND CONSIDERING HOW BAD SHE WAS WHEN SHE CAME INTO THE HOSPITAL

MY SISTER IS CHECKING OUT NURSING HOMES THIS WEEK, BUT THE HOSPITAL WON'T RELEASE HER UNTIL SHE CAN DO MORE FOR HERSELF, ESPECIALLY GO TO THE BATHROOM WITH HER WALKER AND NEEDS NO HELP FROM THE NURSES.

PLEASE KEEP MY MOTHER IN YOUR PRAYERS THAT SHE WILL IMPROVE REALLY WELL AND BE ABLE TO GO HOME OR IF NOT HOME, THEN INTO A GOOD NURSING HOME SINCE THERE IS ABUSE SEEN ON TV IN SOME OF THEM. WE NEED ONE THAT IS WATCHED OVER BY GOD.

THANK YOU MY FRIENDS. GOD BLESS YOU. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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EDITOR 5/25/2013 2:18AM

    In my prayers, Joan! When looking for a nursing home, visit, visit, visit, and ask questions, questions, questions. To have to move you mom again, once you become disgruntled or concerned, would be so traumatic and critical to her well being.

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GINIEMIE 5/24/2013 9:03PM

    Love and prayers for you, your mom and sister.
One of the best things we can do when a loved one is in a nursing home or extended care facility is to check it out first, then have visitors show up spontaneously at various times of the day, including priest, pastor, friends, family and co-workers-and of course NOT just on the weekend. Also listen to your mom, and observe how she behaves around the different staff members-it will tell you more than words.
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KALLIE1958AR 5/24/2013 6:47PM

    if your mom is at herself all will be good she can talk and tell you if she is mistreated .. its the people who are not in their right minds that concern me as they cant tell if they are mistreated .. I have a sister who is crippled and she tells us if anything is going wrong she had to be put in a nursing home because she has tried to kill herself many times .. so she has to have 24/7 care .. she has never walked so it was really hard .. I am praying for your mom and her fast recovery and I pray she will be home soon .. we never think of how it will be later when we build a home sad to say .. hugs to you .. peace be with you .. love Betty

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CHLOE453 5/24/2013 7:52AM

    My heart goes out to you, your mom and family. We just went through the exact same thing earlier this year, the nursing home was my moms biggest fear...but we really had no other choice. I was fortunate enough that I do not work so I would visit the nursing home everyday for several hours...it became my second home. All I can tell you is stay as involved as you can with everything, let the nurses and aides know that you are really involved and will be checking on everything concerning your mom. Do not be afraid to ask questions or voice concerns, this is your loved one. Many prayers will be sent your way as I know this journey will not be easy for you. Hugs~~Kelly

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LIVELYGIRL2 5/24/2013 1:12AM

  My heart and prayers go out o you emoticon

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MSKRIS7 5/23/2013 12:41PM

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AMANDEES76 5/23/2013 12:33PM

    I really hope that your Mom gets better and stronger soon. It sounds like she is a healthy, strong willed woman and will do what she can to improve her situation. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Hoping for the best for all of you.

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WALLAHALLA 5/23/2013 11:35AM

    With those difficult choices ahead, will definitely keep your mom and your family in our prayers.

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AVANELL 5/23/2013 7:45AM

    Praying for your mother, Joan! And for wisdom and direction for you and your family as you make decisions regarding her care. I've been down that road and understand what you are facing and the difficulties associated with it. God will help you all make the right decisions. And He will watch over your mother!



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CANADIANGIRL15 5/23/2013 7:04AM

    I will continue to keep you and mom in my prayers and hope all goes well.

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ANATASHIKI 5/23/2013 6:50AM

    I hope you find the best solution emoticon

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TATTER3 5/23/2013 6:44AM

    Prayers.

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GABY1948 5/23/2013 6:24AM

    I am so sorry. We are going through similar with FIL here. Old is not fun by a long shot. Who called them GOLDEN years, anyway! Prayers with you for all concerned!

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MILLYMOUSE1 5/23/2013 4:50AM

    Hi girlfriend you have my heart thinking of you and your Mum wishing her to get better very soon . As the girls have said make sure it's a good home

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IKACEY 5/23/2013 4:43AM

    Having had to stay in a Nursing Home for several years I can tell you they can be really bad, so be careful and vigilant when you put here in there. Don't just read the posted meal for a day or two. Check out how the meals are prepared and if the menu is just up for show. Go into the kitchen and see how long the food is steamed for and for cockroaches and mice. Talk to some of the tenants of the NH and find out what their gripes are or compliments are about the home. Be aware that some nursing homes are a mix of the ones needing medical care and some they take in so they won't be on the street and that can tend to bring in people that will steal anything not protected. The more interest you take in your mother's care the better she will fare. Look for unexplained bruises or lumps or sore places which may come from abuse in their care or bed sores that come from being left on the same side without moving around in their bed, and these days they can have fleas, lice , and bedbugs to cope with. But really don't take the polite guided tour by the staff, gurarenteed to sway you in their favor, instead talk to the tenants and listen to how well they feel treated. I totally agree with LJCannon that you need to make surprise visits, unannouced at meal times or at times she would be washing up. And visit her PT sessions too to see how she is being treated. Once you have done all this also talk to your/her Primary CP and find out what he/she may know about the quality of the Nursing Home. It had my heart hit my throat when I heard my doctor tell his nurse "thats the worst place she could be. Can we find her something better? Also know that when you are not regularly visiting, the person's care level will go down.
When you find a good one this rule of thumb still holds true: the more actively you take part in her health care the more on their toes the agency will be and the better her care will be. emoticon
IKacey co-leader of the Chair Exercise Team

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ROCKYRD1 5/23/2013 3:32AM

    My thoughts are with you - I have been through major health issues with my father in the last 18 months so I appreciate all the emotional turmoil you and your family are going through.

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FLEMIDG 5/23/2013 12:47AM

    I am praying that your sister is able to find a good nursing home for your mother so that she will be looked after properly and it will put your mind at ease.

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LJCANNON 5/23/2013 12:35AM

    emoticon You are in My Prayers as you help your Mom with this Difficult Transition. Make some unscheduled visits to the Nursing Homes especially around Meal Times, and during the Day when most people would be at work. Notice how the Patients look - Hair Combed, Clothes Appropriate & Clean, and whether there seem to be Activities going on to keep their minds active. Just You being Involved will ensure that your Mom gets more Attention and better care than she would if she had no Family to look in on her.
emoticon Never be afraid to ask Questions of the Staff or Administration. If they don't have "Time" to talk to you or if they avoid your Questions that would be a Huge Red Flag.

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DJ4HEALTH 5/23/2013 12:05AM

    You can also ask the nurses there too about the nursing homes and they will tell you which ones to stay away from.

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